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  1. Deserted1
    Were together: 3 1/2 yrs Broke Up: 8 months ago NC first time: 6 weeks Current NC months The last conversation we had, she told me I was still her best friend and not the guy she left me for. Lol! When our conversation was coming to an end, on the phone she asked if it would be another month before she would hear from me again. I told her "that's up to you". She said phone calls to her were welcome. Like Annie says: Blah! I haven't had contact with her since, although her dad has k.i.t. with me through E-mail and I have even gone to see him once, to help with something. Her name or what I am doing in my life doesn't come up. She has called my sister a few times, cause she misses my nieces. Her dad sent me an E-mail for X-mas. I responded back and said I would miss them this X-mas. She called my sister and spoke to my nieces the day after X-mas. She asked my sister if she could see the girls sometime. Weird!
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    Leave it alone! It's over. Walk away and begin your healing.
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    Sounds like you and he need to sit down and be truly honest and open with each other. Find out what is causing this behavior. If this doesn't change you will keep suffering these kinds of doubts for some time to come. Get down to it. Life is too short for undecisiveness.
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    IminPain, I'm sorry you are going through this. Your ex is being selfish and inconsiderate of your feelings. Mine tried that approach but I finally had to tell her we wouldn't talk anymore. She didn't like that, but this is a choice that our exes make when they decide to leave us. Don't answer her calls anymore, go strict NC and begin your healing.
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    H4DB, Never put your life on hold for someone else. If you know you want this relationship to work. Ask her to be upfront and honest with you why she wants to quit the relationship. If she doesn't want to try at this time, lick your wounds and walk away. Get on with your life. Maybe in the future your paths will cross again.
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    FA, just like you said, you're in NC. Stick with it!
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    Hi Amystar, and welcome to ENA. You will find ALL the support you need on this board. If it helps at all, know that there are 1000's that have been through what you are going through right now. It looks to me that you are doing the right thing. Give him ALL the space he wants right now. No calls, no e-mail, no texts, nada. Let him see what he's missing with you. Let him come to you, when and if he's ready. If he truly loves you he will be back. Love doesn't need "a break". I have to agree with V on this, that he may have another interest right now, I saw the same thing with my ex, I should have went NC then and walked away in hindsight. Just give it time. It will do you both some good.
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    I have to agree with Ryan on this one. Get some closure on this. If she doesn't respond, then I think you have your answer. Then it will be time to go back to NC for yourself to start healing. Just ask her where you two stand. It sounds like there has been a reasonable amount of time for this question to be asked.
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    Hey Candy. I know how confused you must be. My ex went through this same thing. We were in a relationship for 3 1/2 yrs. She was so confused when an "old friend" came into the picture. Let me tell you, do them and yourself a favor, take time away from BOTH of them for a few weeks. NC with them both, and tell them why, so you can get yourself straight and make a rational decision. Otherwise you may end up in the hospital with a panic attack like my ex did. PM me if you want.
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    Tommy, sounds like you 2 still need more time apart. Things are still a bit cloudy for both of you after the break. Maybe taking a step back for a few weeks or maybe even a month will help you see things more clearly. If you want to maintain a friendship in the long run, maybe meeting up right now isn't a good thing. You could possibly say things to her out of emotion that could turn her away. Give it time, emotions need to settle, just like you said "you feel like 3 people". Which one of those people will be meeting up with her tomorrow? Is it the friend who wants the long lasting friendship, or the hurt ex b/f that still loves her and wants her back? Give it time, get your head on straight.
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    I am divorced, and I would rather date single younger women with NO kids. I feel this gives you a chance/fresh start at a new relationship. I think when there are no kids involved, you can properly court a woman, with no obstacles to overcome. Don't take me wrong, I love kids and want them, but this can sometimes make a new relationship that much more difficult. I have been there with a single mom. You always come second and you feel like the third wheel sometimes. Especially if the father is very close to the child.
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    Ta_ree_saw, her dad said before that he "didn't care if she liked it or not, that she would need to grow up". She told me that she was OK with it, in one of our last convos. It's kind of funny because age-wise I fall right in the middle of Dad and daughter.
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    Thanx in advance for those who respond. My ex and I broke up in June 06. We have been NC for 3 months now. Since the break up, her Dad has wanted to keep in contact via E-mail with me. We started to get close when I went to him for advice about his daughter. He E-mails now and then about general stuff, no relationship things, and I respond. I just received an E-mail 2 days ago, it's been a few months since the last one. I haven't responded to this one yet. I'm OK with this, but I am wondering if this is going to help or hurt my NC/healing situation? So far I feel that I'm getting over her. Is this contact healthy? Is there an alterior motive possibly? Anyone else have a similar situation?
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    Give her that space with NC. Let her figure things out. All the while, this gives you time to think about this realtionship.
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    I would tell her that the only reason you would receive contact, is that she has made up her mind that she wants to reconcile with you. Other than that what is there to talk about? She will STILL be married right?
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    Baby Y, I gotta disagree with you on the sweet loving person "thing". My ex was that person, loyal to the max. I never thought she would have done the things she did. Lied, deceived and cheated, because she spied someone else. She tried to string me along, till I checked her cell. She lied right to my face with no problem, didn't even flinch. The look on her face when I told her I knew about her doings. A Master Card moment - PRICELESS! That saved me a lot more future pain. Don't ever underestimate anyone!
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    Blender, another inspirational post! Thank you.
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    Our exes are Hosers Eh? LOL. I'm American.
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    Sandy, I'm actually shedding tears for you right now. My heart goes out to you. I know we will all be better in time. I just wish I could get my D*** time machine working again! LOL Had to try to at least laugh it off.
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    Nomad, I know you have had a rough go of things. One could only hope for your sake that the worst for you is over. I hope you are feeling better. Luckily (I guess) I haven't heard from my ex. Last time I heard from her she told me "I" was her best friend, and not the new BF. What a comedian she is!
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    Ya, I think my friends might be tired of hearing about the "relationship" too, but they haven't told me that yet. In fact they have been really cool about it and keep encouraging me, and even telling me about their break up stories, and how they went through them. They keep saying I'll get there. After almost half a year, you'd think that the feelings would subside just a little more than they have. I guess it's just that blasted hope, that the ex "will see the light" and come back runnin' back.
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    Ya, I even went to Disneyland last week, and you would think I would be havin' a blast and not thinkin' anything negative, cause you know "it's the happiest place on earth!" But I was still thinkin bout the ex, the girl I was with saw me staring off while we were eating and asked "what are you thinking about?" What are you supposed to say? O about my ex, how we used to come here a lot and have sooo much fun. Ugh no, couldn't say that. I just said about the way they changed some of the rides. How lame that was!
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    Don't feel bad ladies. I've been broken up for 5 months, NC for 3 months. Somehow when the weekend hits I get a little more depressed. I have many friends to go out with, but I have no desire to go anywhere. I try my best to not think about what she is doing, unfortunately I have a very creative mind and that works to my disadvantage with the break up. I guess this is part of the healing process. I do have a female friend coming over tonight, but sometimes I wonder if this is a good idea. She has come over on Saturdays for a few weeks now, and sometimes I catch myself thinking about the ex when she is here. Ughhhh!!! I want to be over this already.
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    Well, it was my B-day yesterday and my ex didn't contact me. It was her B-day 2 weeks ago and I didn't contact her, so I think this is retaliation by her. She wants to "be friends", but I won't give her the luxury, as she left me. We have been NC for almost 3 months, but I guess no news is good news. I think it's just best to leave things in the dark when it comes to this.
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    I know what you're feeling, But nothing ever gets figured out in CHAOS. There is a jumble of emotions flyin' out there, and you're both jumping up and down to try and grab one, hoping it's an emotion that will make sense. In the end even if you are able to grab one, how would you identify it and what would you do with it? Step back and let the emotions hit the ground and get a good look at them. Then you can make a clear choice/decision on where to place your heart. Time is your ally! You'll make it through this!
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