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Got it the day after my midterms....you were all soooo right!!! 4 days late. I think I scared myself and my boyfriend. Learned my lesson with this one. Thanks everyone.

I still haven't gotten it yet, it's two days late now but I'm just going to try to put it out of my mind like you guys suggested (although that is really hard for some reason) . Worrying about it is just making me even more stressed out. I'll give it a few days. Thanks.

Thanks, that definitely makes me feel a lot better.

Thanks for the advice. If I don't get it by tomorrow, I will go out and get a test, so maybe it will put my mind at ease......this is so stressful and I don't think my bf understands how stressed out I am about his.......

I can't really believe that I'm writing about this on a public forum...but you guys have always helped me though my rough times...so here goes.... Well, I've been with a bf for a while, we're in our early 20s and in grad school right now and have never had sex due to religious reasons. We do, however, often play around withough any protection when I know we should be using it (bad I know....). Last week we were playing around and he ejaculated and the only way any of his sperm would have gotten in contact with me is if there were some on his fingers. Ok, well to get to the point, my period is now a day late and I am freaking out...........I'm in the middle of midterms, completely stressed out, and the fact that my period is late is killing me. Could I possibly be pregnant??? I'm not ready for that.........it stresses me out soo much that I find it hard to concentrate on anything and it is certainly affecting my school work......which is extremely bad during midterms. I also have a hard time eating anything, I'm just completely paranoid!!!!! I was talking to my bf and he just sais that there really is no need to worry right now, that my stress is probably causing my period to be a little late....... I don't know.....I'm just so stessed out about this, my paretns would probably disown me if I was pregnant....... Anyway, sorry this is soo long...I just needed to let things out a little bit....thanks for your support.

Have you tried applying for some scholarships online? There are tons of private scholarships out there for students in need. Go somewhere like link removed and register. Also, I don't think there is anything wrong with taking a semester off and making some money to pay of your loan and start over at a public university, which are much cheaper. I've been to both and quite honestly, I didn't see any difference in the education. Good luck.

Thanks for your replies everyone, In response to BeStrongBeHappy's comments, this is something that he just started doing about 3 weeks ago maybe and we've been together for almost 2and a half years. I'm really not sure why he is doing it. I'm pretty sure that he doesn't want out of the relationship and he's not hanging out with new people that I know of. I already told him we need to have a talk. We won't see each other until Tuesday so we will see how that goes. I really hope I will get to the bottom of this. Thanks for your support.

Youre both completely right. I hate to throw everything we had down the drain but I think I'm going to have to have a serious talk with him. If he doesn't stop then I'm leaving. I talked to a friend about it and she said that something like this could even eventually turn into physical abuse. Right now, I really don't think he would ever hurt me, but a couple of weeks ago I thought that he would never call me a faul name, and it's happening. It's just really sad, we've had a good relationship.......... Thanks for your advice.

I've been with my bf for over 2 years. Just in the last couple of weeks, every time we talk on the phone and we disagree on something, he will say something like: "Don't be stupid, you're such a retard....... He has even started using the f-word with me. I really dont' know where this is coming from all of a sudden. I grew up in a family where we didn't talk to each other in such a manner. My bf has 2 brothers and I noticed he talks to them similarly but never with me until recently. At first I put up with it but then I just sat down with him and told him that he really should not talk to me like that. He said he is just "playing around" and keeps doing it. I would really love some insight on this and if anyone else has experienced it. It hurts my feelings every time he does but he just does not understand that. I would put up with it if it truly was in a "playing around" kind of sense but it isn't in my opinion. He calls me stupid whenever he feels like it. I love him dearly and I know he loves me a lot as well but I truly can't put up with this for the rest of my life. It's very demeaning to me. Do you think I am overreacting? Thanks for reading. ](*,)

I think it all depends on your schedule. My bf and I are grad students. We have completely different school schedules and we both work a lot. We also life quite a distance apart (~30miles) So we see each other for a few mins in school 2-3 times a week and then we see each other 1-2 over the weekend. That works for our schedules for right now. On the days we dont' see each other, we talk on the phone every night.

I think that it depends on your schedule. My boyfriend and I are both in grad school and work 20+ hours per week. We see each other at school 2-3 times a week and then Friday is "our day" when we spend most of the day together. I would certainly like to see him more but our schedules just don't really permit it at this time. We live about 30 miles apart and the last thing either one of us wants to do on a weeknight after an exhausting day of school and work is drive 30 miles to be with each other for only an hour or two so for now we're both happy with what we have. I think you are fine 3-4 nights a week is great!

I'm sorry youre going through all that pain!!!! I think that staying away from her is probably the best thing for you now. Focus on yourself and keep yourself busy. I know it's hard. I acually lived in Utah for a few years and I experienced a huge culture shock over there with the Mormon religion being so prominent. From my experience, they don't date outside their religion and their church seems to guide their lifestyle. If youre not mormon and don't plan on converting I would definitely think that ending your relationship with your girlfriend is probably the best for both of you as there would probably be a lot more problems down the line. That is just my opinion. Stay stong and good luck!

Hey, Sorry to hear what youre going through. Something VERY similar happened to me not too long ago. I gave him his space and he ended up contacting me a few days later. Now we're back together trying to pick up the pieces (and it's hard). It's even difficult for me to take my own advice but here goes: I woud just give him what he wants. I know it's really really hard, but don't contact him! You need to let him figure out what he wants. And if it was meant to be, he will come back to you. If he does, then it's up to you if you want to give him another chance. First, sit down with him and discuss what it is that he is confused about and wheter it is something that you two can work on together. Second, realize that you are a great person and there are other people out there. If he decides he doesn't want to be with you anymore, move on. It's hard, but you will find that person you a looking for. That's my 2 cents worth. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you.

I mean let him focus on himself

Thanks for your advice, I will try my hardest (although it is extrememly hard) to focus on me and let him focus on myself. If things are meant to be between us, then things will work out. If not, then I guess I will find out in a few months. I hope I can do this Thanks.