SwtMary

For me, dirty talk is calling me names and is appropriate only during sex. I like to be called certain names DURING sex, but get angry if I am called them OUTSIDE of sex...

yea that is a great song...an anthem for all us single gals and guys.

Ok I have to add my 2 cents...I like the f* word during sex. I however, like things a bit rougher than the average girl, so I guess the word f* just goes along with the territory. I dont agree that if you say f* that you lack feelings. I am full of emotions and feelings and I say it quite a bit. Anyway...

I love this guide. I think it is great. It is very helpful and very well thought out. I think you did an excellent job. I am so proud of you I hope it helps people branch out. You have a very strange and indepth knowledge of women..hmmm kinda scarey...LOL (hugs) Love ya, hun...

I completely agree with CluelessGuy321. I have been played before in the worse way and it sounds like she is doing the same thing with you. She may not be doing in on "purpose" but she is still doing it. When things look like you are going to leave she will say or do something to keep you there. I know you love her and that makes it that much harder. Like most everyone else is saying...you need to move on. I doubt she will leave her bf anytime soon. I really don't get why she is still with him??? You said something about not wanting to hurt him, but what is she doing to YOU??

Ok...I don't want to make anyone mad and they might not even notice that they are saying this but I need to say something. When someone is considering suicide (which I have before) they don't need to hear that their feelings and emotions and what they are going through in their life is "trivial" or unimportant. To them...they are very important and very real. I know that the things that are in my life right now are very real and very big TO ME! They may not be anything compared to someone elses problems but TO ME they are big and sometimes hard to deal with...Just something to think about.

Well said SB. I totally agree with this. I don't believe there is just one person. I do think, like SB said, that if you are lucky enough to find one then consider yourself blessed. My dad also found 2 women that he has deeply loved in his life. The first died of cancer and the second is my mom.

I agree with budman...smiling and saying hi really helps a lot. I am pretty much a shy person, but I have found that if you do smile and say "Hi" or "Good morning" there are a few times that people will start up a small conversation with you and even if its only for a few minutes it definintely helps build your confidence and conversation skills.

goodness we are way off topic but I am laughing my a** off at you two (ta_ree_saw and Raykay)

it worked on me, budman...take me!!! LMAO....JK hun

I have a heavy heart today. I don't really need advice. I don't really have a question but I am a bit sad. I was talking to a friend and some things were brought up and they made me sad. I was thinking about past loves and past realtionships, a dangerous thing I know...I have loved and I have been loved. As painful as it is I can't understand why I want it again so bad. I missed being loved and being in love, but when it ends it hurts so bad. Anyway, just my feelings today...

What happened to the OP?? Its been a while since we have heard from him?

That is a good point. I never thought of it. Thanks shorty20.

I must admit that I am overly sensitive. I don't know if there is a way to change that but I have been like that for a very long time. I take things personally no matter how the other person "delivers" their message. Is there a way to change that aspect without putting up a wall?

The most recent example I actually stated in one of my other posts. "Don't take it personally, but I don't like kids, so we won't work out." I completely understand that there are some people who don't like kids that is fine. I guess I do overreact needlessly because I automatically took that personally. I guess I see it as you might as well say "I don't like YOU because YOU have a child." But I guess that isn't necessarily true is it? They may like you but they just dont like your child....ok now I have confused MYSELF!! LOL

I have never understood why people say "don't take it personally but..." How can you not take a statement personally if it is directed at you? Have you ever said that and if you have why did you say it? Is it to avoid conflict? Do you not want to hurt someones feelings? Please shed some light to this confusing subject...Thanks!!

OMG Thank you shes2smart. I am also a large woman and I can feel your pain. I hate being looked at in a disgusting manner when I want to enjoy an ice cream cone or a cookie or something. I also get rejected for the same reasons you mentioned above. I am right there with ya, gf!!!

AHHH kissing! Kissing is a great way to express yourself. It can be passionate, quick, deep, or soft. I love kissing. I find that "sucking" the tongue can be quite a turn on for both guys and girls. Just go with it. Like beanpaper said...you will be a pro quick. Kissing is a very natural and beautiful thing...good luck!

I need to add my two cents...I like porn myself. I am one of the rare females that likes port and has a very high sex drive. I also love romance novels. I dont get romance in my life and they are the replacement. I have read them for years even when I was married. I dont see either as cheating but that is obviously just my opinion. I think it is a GREAT idea that if a woman has a problem with her man watching other women then she should make her own videos or pictures. I know its sill but this was an issue on "Sex and the City." One of the girls was appauled that her husband was looking at porn so she pasted her face on all the magazine pictures he had. That way he still got his porn but he was looking at her face...I thought it was a GREAT idea!!!

Very well said DN...I have never been in the Military but I can imagine what it must be like. I have one question for Military men and women. When you sign up isn't there the knowledge that one day you may have to kill someone? Do people sign up not knowing this fact or do most people just "hope" they won't have to? Like I said I have never been in the military or never really had anyone close to me join, so I don't really know...

I could say that having a child could change your mind but no matter what we say on here, you are not going to change your mind about wanting to be a dad. That is something you will find out on your own. All I can say is that like many others I feel for this child. I do think that many people on here are putting too much of an emphasis on money. I get money from my son's dad but that doens't in NO way make him a good father. As a matter of fact, having to pay child support makes him a worse father because he takes that out on his son. I would say leave. If you stay you will grow to hate your wife and what she has done. It is a tough situation all together and like others, I wish you good luck!

Ok after ready EVERY post I have to say something about what "ying...yang" said. I would much rather have people looking at me because I am beautiful or sexy than what happens to me...there are times I feel like I could stand in a crowded room naked and no one notice me. I love to go to clubs with my friends who are all gorgeous women. When they are around I am invisible. I know it is unfair for men to assume that you are a bimbo because of the way you look, but it is also unfair for men to ignore you because you aren't what the world considers "pretty." As for the original topic, I feel responsible if a man doesn't orgasm and I admit I get pretty peeved if I work hard to get a man to orgasm and he leaves me hanging. As for the drugs for both men and women I think it is a personal preference. If a man doesn't care that he has an ED then he doesn't have to take drugs or get surgery. If a woman doesn't care that she is too wet or can't orgasm then why should anyone else care? Now if the problems become an issue in a "relationship" then I think that no matter who is having the "problem" BOTH should do what they can to work it out. You don't want a loving marriage or relationship to end because she's too wet or he can't get it up. Of course this is just my opinion. I am not near as intelligent as some of the other people that have posted but those are my meager thoughts do what you will with them...

Luke_Skywalker has made me sick...HOWEVER, I enjoy anal sex. It is a totally different feeling than vaginal sex. I agree with the other posts tho..you have to be careful. You can get infections if you switch from anal to vaginal without washing or wiping the penis off, so be careful.

nope...We haven't had the chance to try again, so I havent really talked to him about it. I am too embarrassed that he will take offense to it...like it is his fault that I can't do it. I am very shy about talking about things like this but I guess if I want to reach satisfaction then I am going to have to break out and say something...

I am thinking it is just me. I have problems "getting off" vaginally all around. I dont know if it is from years of having to "go at it alone" lol...or if there is another issue all together.