SwtMary

ok...so what is a good way to find out the problem?

LOL thanks Ta ree saw...I was thinking it was his size but now that I have been reading this thread I was wondering if it was a combination also...

well that doesnt help sxc...hahah JK

ok I dont know maybe I am old fashion. If it is a first date I see no reason why the guy can't "wine and dine" me. It is nice to be treated like a queen for a night. If you are in an established relationship, then I think you should go 50/50.

Thank you so much itsallgrand. I am 29 as you can see. My son is 5 and I have been raising on my own (with some help from my parents) since he was 18 months old. I think you are right in saying that I am "lonely for adult attention, friendliness, and touch." Dealing with this and talking on here has already helped me. I am determined to start over and do things right this time. My son deserves a good dad and I deserve a man that will "enrich my family."

I will definitely keep ya'll updated...thanks

I am realizing that kellbell. I used to be a regular cyber person and I miss that web of friends...thanks

I am wandering if being "too wet" is my problem. I do get extremely wet and when the guy goes in I don't really feel anything unless it is deep. Does that mean the man is too small or is it because there is no friction like TiredMan mentioned?

I have to admit that fisting is a big turn on to me. I have never done it but me and my exhusband tried it a few times. He never got fully in but he got close and the "feeling" was almost delightfully unbearable. I absolutely loved it. I am looking forward to finding someone that will be able to do it one day...

Neva, I totally agree. People aren't sensitive about this. I have been made fun of and laughed at because of this by my friends. They are doing it is as a joke but it is a serious problem. I have been reading up on STDs and they are not something to joke about. Chlamydia alone can cause me to be infertile..how is that funny? I cant even begin to imagine the side affects and complications from other diseases that I havent even looked into. There is a girl that I used to be friends with that has Herpes and my other friends joke about that all the time. I just dont understand it and probably never will. With so many other things, people need to think before they speak. ok..I'll get off the soap box now

I used to write in a journal on a daily basis and I miss doing that. I just don't really find the time to do it. I am a single mom and it is hard to find any alone time. By the time I get in bed at night all I want to do is sleep...I need to start that back up because that was the was I would express my emotions and thoughts.

OH wow for some reason I feel so much better....can I call you master now??

Thank you itsallgrand. I was feeling stupid there for a while, which I probably deserve...

We were friends. We had a great physical attraction (obviously) and decided to pursue it.

I did find a clinic and they couldn't get me in until June. I had known him for a long time but we didn't have sex until just a few weeks ago. Yes I know I shouldn't be having unprotected sex. Trust me I have learned my lesson.

Ok I am going to tell the WHOLE story...here goes. Me and this guy had unprotected sex a few weeks ago. He got sick with what he thought was strept throat. His doctor said it wasn't strept throat but could very well be chlamydia. He didn't get tested for it but was treated for it. He told me since I am the only person he's been with for a while. Now I am freaking out wandering what else I could have also. I am getting tested but can't until June. He is going to get tested soon to see if he has anything else. I know he has a right to be upset with me but it still hurts my feelings.

"the ultimate STD-a kid" OMG that is too funny but oh so wrong...LOL

In any relationship whether it is friends or boyfriends it always sucks when the other person does not feel the same way about you as you do about them. Be glad that she is still your friend and just go from there. She can still be your bestfriend even if you aren't hers. If she is your bestfriend then be the best friend that you can be to her.

I wish everyone felt the same way you did, Molly. I would go into detail but it would take up about 3 pages...lol I will say that the guy is now very angry with me and won't talk to me.

The person did know at the time that they had an STD

Ok I have to ask this question...I have never dealt with anything like this before, so I am coming to ya'll for advice. How would you feel (men or women) if the person you slept with UNKNOWINGLY gave you an STD?

Whoever thought that "maximum discomfort" would be a good thing...lol The thing is I reach this level many times but I find myself right back to square one. I tell myself that I am going to do better, make better decisions, and o what I have to do to make myself happy but then a week later, a month later, a year later, I am back to crying at night and being all around miserable and it usually comes from a guy. I hate that men have that kind of control over me but I can't seem to stop it.

ok...this guy will never change. If ya'll did get back together things would be really great at first. He would be very attentive, loving, appreciative, and you would think things were great. Then somewhere down the road whether it be one month or one year it will happen again. I have been thru this before with my best friend and that was the cycle for 3 years. He had her convinced that they were going to get married when she was just one of the MANY women he was playing. Get rid of this guy now! Don't even be friends with him.

I have been thinking of a way to respond for the last few minutes and I am still not sure what to say. I agree with you, shes2smar, that you need to have specific goals in mind. I do have those, but when guys are around I loose all self control. I dont know what it is. I dont get much male attention and when a guy does pay me any attention all my morals and goals go out the door. I will be the first to admit that I am weak when it comes to males. You sound like a very strong and "smart" woman...have you always been that way?

ok I have to say something...we all have certain things that we like obviously...for me if I am liking you you are going to know. I am not a quiet person. I think someone earlier said listen to the moans and groans. That is the key. If she isnt making any noises changes are she doesnt like that so move on...