nadine_3110

Don't cut yourself, God gave you life, why are you trying to take it away? Seventeen is too young to leave, you haven't even scratched the surface of things there are to see in this life. How old is this guy? He's playing you. He's using your youth, your innocence to get what he wants from you. He tells you he loves you, you have sex, he gets what he wants, he throws you out. I know it might be hard, but I think you should move on, leave this guy behind. He's trying to keep you close to take advantage, you have to be the strong one and go on with your life. You called the cops on him? I don't think that's something that happens in a healthy relationship. I know this will hurt a lot, but you have to cut yourself off from this guy. He's not worth it. Good luck, and remember there are a lot of ppl who love you in this world, and you can always get support here.

I've been doing it to him for about 3 months. From what I can see and what he tells me, he likes it a lot. So that's not really a problem.

No I didn't tell him that. That would make him not want to do it again even more than he already doesn't want to do it.

Of course I made noises, I was happy that he finally decided to go down on me. He told me that he doesn't like it that his nose is in there, he doesn't like the taste that much and it was hairy a bit. The first time he went down, I hadn't shaved in a few days so it was a bit hairy. He didn't say it was 'gross', I asked if it was and he said he didn't like it very much. He does please me by the way, just not with oral but that's why I posted this, to get help on why and how I can get him to. And it's not like he tastes great, I do it cus I want to please him, and I enjoy it when he's pleased.

Well it wasn't great when he did it, but keep in mind that I had never experienced it (he's my first bf) and he had never done it. So I read somewhere that it makes it more pleasurable if he licks, sucks, flicks, something along those lines. So I suggested it to him once (via text message) and he didn't reply. And to answer your question Riley, I do shave. And I guess I could try those flavor things. Oh and I waxed my legs once, that hurt like nothing I've felt before, so not sure I wanna do that just now.

Hey, you have to get passed this, she has had sex before, she's not proud of it, you can tell. Some ppl make mistakes, you have to forgive her for that. If she wants to wait to have sex with you, I'm afraid you're going to have to wait. And you shouldn't worry about not having sex in your lifetime. If you worry so much about what could happen, you'll miss what's happening right now, in front of you. You have this great girl, do you wanna risk losing her over sex??? I wouldn't. So good luck with everything and just be patient...

I know I have to respect his wishes but I give him oral sex, it scared the hell out of me the first time but I knew that he enjoyed it so I kept at it and read stuff to get better at it. But it just seems like he won't make the effort to do the same for me.

Ok my bf and I have been dating for almost six months. He has given me oral sex once, it wasn't as amazing as I thought it would be, but then again he has never done it to anyone before. I asked him if he could do it again, but he says that it's kinda gross for him and he doesn't like doing it. Does anyone (guys or girls) know why he won't, or how I can convince him to do it, it's not like I want it all the time, just more than once. And he can't get better at it if he doesn't even try right?

I totally do not agree with that. I have been with my bf only 5 months and we have never had sex. I barely ever think of having sex with him, he probably thinks about it but he will never pressure me to do that. This is just my opinion but sex is probably closer to the 'unimportant' than to 'important' on the scale. Just don't think you need to have sex with someone to get to know them better or feel connected to them.

All I have to say to him is, 'BYE BYE BUDDY.'

It sounds like he's thinking, 'If I can't move on, she can't either.' He's holding you back from having other possibly great relationships. That's not right. I think he should be involved in his son's life a little more too. Wow, having a child in there complicates things. You should just stop contact with this guy but on the other hand, that kid needs a dad, but a dad that's around.

You are so right. He has no right to be angry with you for you breaking up with him. That's not how it goes. HE cheated on YOU, not the other way around. He should really try imagining how he would feel if you would have cheated on him. I think you're right, but I don't think you should be talking to him at all. He cheated on you, he lost you, he forfeited the right to talk to you when he did whatever he did with someone else.

I know it's hard, I went through it too, not a day went by that I wasn't thinking of him. But after each day, just think, you made it through another one. He might come back and he might not. But you've lived without him before, you can do it again. I'm not saying don't think about him, that would be impossible, I know it would, just look around, there are more ppl probably checking you out while you're looking down at your feet. Just be open minded.

DO THAT!!! When my ex went to the bar with us. I didn't exactly ignore him, but I didn't pay much attention to him. I was confident and I knew that I looked way hotter confident than not. And he came back, seven months later, but he came back. Just be yourself, but you can live without her, you did it before, you can do it again. At least for the time of healing...

Ok I know that someone had told me that I should wait two weeks and just watch him and see what he does, the little gestures to say he cares, and I know it's only been two days, but I couldn't do it. On Monday, I was done school at 9h30 at night like usual, I checked my phone, he didn't call or text. So I texted him at 10 saying Hi. He didn't answer till about quarter to 10. Then yesterday, I lost my phone for most of the day, found it after work at 9h30 and no calls from him, no texts. I was so down. So I called and he was at a friend's house. What the hell? He can take the time to see his friend but not me. So I cried on the phone, telling him it was really hard to trust that he won't leave. He said he wouldn't. But he left once, how can I believe that he won't do it again. And he said that it annoyed him when I asked if our relationship was still good, when I asked how he felt about me. Well I just like to hear it. Why can't he understand, I need reassurance, I know I shouldn't need it, but I do. He said that when I doubt his feelings, it sounds like I'm doubting my own for him. This just sucks, so thanks for listening and hopefully responding to my ranting. I know I'm being super annoying with this and I'm sorry.

So should I call him to, or should I just wait for him to call me?

Yes I have. You know what, that was just the little boost I needed. So you guys think I should tell him I love him? Even if he might not say it back?

Please, any little bit will be helpful.

I'm a little scared right now (hence the title). You see I was with my bf last year for three months, we broke up for sevent months and now we're back together and on month number five. I told him at the beginning of our second try that it might take time for me to get used to it, to trust that he won't go away like that again. He said he would wait for me and he would help me. So every few weeks I ask him how he feels about me and things like that, he always replies that he cares about me a lot and so on. But yesterday, he got mad at me for, I think it was, the first time. It's because I'm sick just with a cold and I went to the BEP concert last night and then I wanted him to come to the bar with me and my friend and her bf. He said something like someone was coming over... I couldn't hear well cus of the concert. But I said, 'Ok fine, don't come, bye,' in an angry voice, he said, 'Ok bye' in an angry voice as well. After the concert, I called him and told him I was sorry and asked if he was mad at me. He said that he was cus I'm sick and I want to go out and all that when I should be resting. I said I was sorry and asked if he was still mad and he said no, I asked if he really wasn't anymore, and he said that no he wasn't. I guess I was being annoying cus his voice sorta rose again. So I slept over at his house and we cuddled and held hands. Then in the morning he played video games, then brought me to work at 1 pm. We gave each other a little kiss and said goodbye. Then, after work at 5pm, I text messaged him and asked if he thought our relationship was still good even if we had ups and downs. He said, 'ya ya it's all good.' I asked if he meant that cus I liked him more and more every time I saw him. He said, 'Nadine, don't start this.' I asked what and he said i knew. I just told him that I just liked reassurance. He said that he didn't need reassurance and he didn't like it when I asked either. So I just told him I liked the words. He said that he does sometimes and that the body speaks louder than words. I told him I liked the words as much as the body. I told him I was sorry that I doubted his feelings for me and that I should know by now that he cares alot about me but I still like to hear it. I told him I didn't meant to make him worry. I just ask cus I want to know if his feelings are as strong as mine. He told me that he was having supper. And I left him alone. So I just need some help in identifying what he's feeling. The reason I ask him how he feels is because I want to know if he loves me. Because I love him. He doesn't want to be throwing around that word, but I'm not throwing it around, I really do love him. I think i'm going to go visit him and tell him how I feel.

So are you still with him or not? Cus I surely wouldn't stay with a man who cheated on me, to me that's intolerable, and unforgivable.

When I was reading some posts ppl had made, I came accross someone talking about bf duties, and I was wondering what that meant. So if you could please post something that you think is a 'duty' that your bf/gf has, or that your bf/gf should have, etc... For example, someone had mentioned calling every day, which I don't really think is a duty more of a bonus. So just post what you have in your relationship that could be considered bf or gf duties...

Well ok, I was in kinda the same situation. First bf, broke up after 3 months, wasn't over him after like 7 months, a few months into the break up a friend of mine (also a friend of his) invited him to come to the bar with us. He would come up to me and tease me like he used to, you know, come up behind you and tickle you, well all i did was give him this nasty look and walk away cus i clearly wasn't over him. I don't know if that's the best way to handle things but it apparently worked for me cus after the 7 months, he asked me out again, and we've been together 3 months now and our relationship is stronger than ever. So are you over this guy, do you still have feelings and want him back? How long did you date?

Well we've been doing good, talking about normal relationship stuff. It's been good. At first, when he called me up seven months after the break up, he took me for a drive and he said that he wouldn't beat around the bush and that he wanted to give things another shot. We talked then about the break up and why he broke up with me and we talked a lot about how i had changed. I asked him if it was just cus he was lonely and he said he was sure it wasn't. But we haven't really talked much about it since then, almost three months ago. I guess I should bring it up again and tell him that it's still kinda bothering me.

Need a little bit more support, comments or help please!

It's not that i don't trust him, like i know he wouldn't cheat or anything like that, i think i'm just scared that the whole breakup will happen again, and that was the worst experience of my life. We broke up because i think he felt that i wasn't right, that i hadn't experienced enough of life. I was really caught up in the future and not enough in the present. Now i'm finally happy with me. So i think it's just that insecurity about him leaving.