jue

well here i am again... i was fine totally ok..life was good..had a new bf.lol and at my age too. now it feels like im back to square one all over again,the boyfriend think didnt last 7wks to be exact. so why even though i didnt love him , does it hurt ok not as bad and no where near anything like the last pain. i just feel at this moment in my life i am meant to be alone,just didnt think it meant all the time.. used to look forward to xmas i cant wait till it over this year, i look at myself and wonder whats wrong with me.surely i dont just pick idiots i was doing so well and now this feels like a set back.. wish i could hibinate till next year..

britnus...my partner of 11yrs left me too for his first love of over 24yrs ago...i know i wasnt left in a strange country.but the pain ...gosh the pain..i never ever thought it would go ..but it as and i wish u all the luck in the future..this person and i know this is hard to believe is not worth your thoughts or time..please stay strong vynde(john) i really do understand the crying.loving .longing for a person who no longers wishes to be with you..i begged,pleaded.txt emailed phoned every day alot some he would answer ..most he wouldnt..i kept telling myself he does love me really,he just doesnt no it..how silly does that sound i thought i could get him to want to be with me again..i couldnt and no longer wish to i woke each morning , cried, and all my thoughts were of him.wished for him to come back..i cant take the pain away i wish i could because i now know that i.you can get through it.. if you had told me this even 2months ago..i wouldnt have believed you.he was my life.how could i carry on without him.. i know it hurts.i know the pain you wish it to go away.it will.i know you both find this hard to believe but it will.. i lost over 3 stone because of this.the crying.the anxiety.panicking. to me the 6 month seems to have been my turning point.. i am thinking of you and i really wish youw ould believe me..it will pass.and i know at this moment it feels like it never will.. these people dont and didnt deserve us.and someday you will meet someone else..and i know your thinking that you cant ever imagine being with anyone else.thats how i thought.. please keep posting and i am thinking of you..xx

to everyone out there going through a break up. believe me i know that awful feeling.waking.thinking not being able to do anything else.wishing hoping for it to go back to how it was if you read my previous threads. it looked like i was doomed.i just couldnt and wouldnt move forward.how could the other one be so happy without me. then one day , i just woke up went about my normal daily things and realised i wasnt thinking about my past.i really cant put into words how good this feels i know all of you who are just going through or early days ,months of a break up will read this and think.i wish i was at that part.it will never happen for me because i love him/her more than anything and just want them back at this moment thats all you can think of..lack of sleep,food.concentration on anything except ur break up. it will pass.you will get through this. and again i would just like to send a big big thank you to all of you who have helped me..even though at the time i didnt believe you!!!!! break ups suck. but there is life after and you will be happy again... THANK YOU

well its been awhile since i was last here.and i like to just let everyone i feel great.its been close to 7month since my break up .and u know what i havent cried texted phoned in 5 or 6 weeks can remember and it s not important i never ever thought i would get over this and i have and it feels fantastic to wake and not htink of him .. i went on a date last saturday my first since break up and it was good i am seeing him again this weekend..nothing serious..early days so we will see but to everyone out there believe me i never ever believed the pain would go and i would be over it.and it does get better and i found that so hard to believe the things i was dreading im now looking forward to .xmas.holidays he is getting married and i say good luck to him..i have no hard feelings at all anyway thats enough of my past my future is looking good not great at moment but good,i laugh go out enjoy nites in and being on my own doesnt bother me at all i really cant put into words how i feel..just so happy with myself , my life.everything so thank you to all who gave me advice and at the time i couldnt or wouldnt listen to it.. YOU WERE RIGHT...IT DID GET BETTER AND A HELL OF A LOT EASIER..THANK YOU

im so sorry for your pain.. my ex left me after 11yrs for his first love of 24yrs ago..he left sixmonths ago..moved in with her and they are now planning on marrying.. i hope it all works out for you..i dont really know what to say as my situation as turned out completely different. good luck in your future..and keep posting

thanks for your words of support.. the person he is with..she is the one he left me for after seeing her for 2months.. i know her..they dated over 24yrs ago..she was his first love its just knocked me for six.. thank you all again for your support

ive just found out my ex of 6 months is getting married..at gretna green i was with him 11yrs we never married. this news as knocked me for six

just curious as to what people have done to move forward... its too me along long long time to get here but im doing it..slowly..but still part of mine was to.. 1.move..which i did 2.find a new job...still trying with that one 3.get rid of anything to do with him...which i have apart from a few photos which have my kids on also..so they are stored away 4..this is the toughest..i am friends with his sister..i was before we got together.. had to remeind her.the other day..not to talk about his birthday to me..i got upset once she started going on what they had planned for him any more suggestions on how to move forward...gratefully received..thanks

thanks for your replies.. i often think that if i had more self esteem and confidence..then this would be a very different term of events.. i am a pessimist..lol..one of those who thinks the glass is half empty rather than full.. i know i have to work on myself.. even i wouldn#t want to be around me..lol...i'd depress myself never mind the people around me its the letting go part i am struggling with..any tips ,advice on that would be a great help..thank you all again

hi...i loved and love the man who cheated on me left me for her..(i know i cant get any more humilated ..especially by my feelings). now i know i loved him...but it seems to me more than i actually thought i did.. so my question is this. i find it hard not to think about the things we did the things we will never do again and that hurts.. i know pple say u will meet someone else, do you know how hard i find that to believe. you see my self esteem and confidence was never high of myself.it never has been.. so him doing this i made it really hit rock bottom will i ever be normal again

ive been misunderstood..i dont expect a stage to end it all . i know that is down to me i just heard reaching this certain stage is a good one to be at i know he doesnt love me..and it is down to me and me alone i was just curious if you could be in more stages than one. and apparently i am.. i just wish my head would get around it more quickly..

is it possible to be between a variety of stages.. i mean one minute im depressed..denial?. upset.acceptance the stage i dont seem to reach is anger. how long does this roller coaster of emotions last crying..thinking.of what was and what i will miss acceptance that it is over.and he will never be with me again upset by the last line but never anger..i have heard once you reach this stage.it is finally over you accept everything..are angry at what as happened. and totally over the past.. any thoughts appreciated

my ex left me for someone else..he was cheating with he now lives with her she was his first love of 24yrs ago.. we had been together 11yrs..he left me and moved in with her after only seeing her for 2 months. i asked him if he was seeing someone else..gave him every opportunity to admit it he continued to lie then left me for her..

i thought was i ok..im not today..im close friends with his sister .always have been.. its comong up to a special birthday for him.today she told me how she has to get in touch with his partner.to arrange his surprise. how his family and firends will be there.. im devastated..i broke down... i cant stop crying...

thank you for your replies.it really does mean alot and your right it is one step forward , two back i wonder sometimes how low do i have to go?.. but i know your right..once ive hit rock bottom the only way is up.. thank you again , hard to believe ive reached my age and never been dumped..lol.. sad though that it is by the man i loved more than anything.