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    I agree with that wholeheartedly. The more you try to label yourself, the more you will put yourself in a box and won't allow yourself to feel things...this, in turn, will just make you more confused- so I'd definitely advise you to not put a label on it..
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    You mean you're using him to cover up something with your sexuality? Also, you said you've had this before, but not as much as with your friend. Have you had other crushes on girls? If you're attracted to both men and women, then you're probably bisexual...at the same time, your feelings may change as you grow older so you might want to avoid putting a label on your feelings...because it might make you uncomfortable and it sounds like you have a lot of doubts. Thats just my opinion...hopefully others will chime in with theirs as well
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    I think this can go either way...I know you're looking to hear "you're not gay"- and you may not be...but you started off on the defense saying: "I'm not gay" and "tell me I'm not gay.." meaning you're not even open to the possibility that you might be. I've been in that situation myself, and if you don't allow yourself to be open to the idea of it, then you will never really know for sure. Is this the first girl you've ever had feelings for? Also, what is the situation with your current boyfriend? Do you have a strong emotional/sexual connection? It's hard to say whether or not your gay from the post you provided...
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    I agree with that. I usually care about my actions and how what I do affects myself and others...but when you're drunk, those feelings get thrown out the window. Plus, many people (myself included) become WAY more horny and "loose" when drunk.
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    Thanks you guys! Yeah, I spoke to him yesterday for like 2 hours and it was really really hard. I hate getting off the phone with him because I feel really bad...and he keeps talking...but, at the same time, I have to live my own life too. I just feel really down every time I talk to him because hes so ridiculously depressed. I really hope he goes and gets a therapist, but he said his insurance can only cover 6 of them. Damn insurance...
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    ...I've been trying to comfort my best friend (a male) who just got dumped by his girlfriend. They had a really good relationship until the day she ended it. Apparently she had doubts that were building for months that she never spoke of and then she felt she had to act. He's totally devestated and I try to be there for him as much as humanly possible. However, I feel I'm running out of comforting things to say. I want to use this forum as a place to leave me suggestions and/or phrases I could use when I feel its awkward...because it often does feel awkward. Thanks you guys
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    This is for Annie24: what did you think of Lexapro...and, if you don't mind my asking, what did you take it for? I'm currently weening off of Zoloft and probably switching to that...and its for anxiety.
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    Breakfast: typically a yogurt mixed with cereal and some fruit Lunch: it varies...I like ethnic foods, so when I'm at work, I'll get an indian dish...maybe sushi, or a sandwhich if I'm not in the mood for anything nuts. Dinner: usually some chicken with some pasta. I usually have a snack before bed..and that can vary -- ice cream, a couple cookies, or some munchie type things. Unfortunately, a lot of my calories come from alcohol though
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    Yeah, I agree with the above posters. At the same time, sometimes physical attraction can stem from emotional attraction- so its possible you will develop some sort of physical attraction for this guy. If you don't, its best not to get into a romantic relationship -- and to stay friends.
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    1. Sexual Behaviour (who do you have sex with?) 2. Sexual Preference (who do you find sexually attractive?) 3. Sexual Identity (what sexuality do you identify as?) 1) Haven't had sex, but sexual activity (Hetero) 2) Bisexual 3) "Question Mark" (?) - probably bisexual
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    Patient_Strawberries: I feel very similarly to you- in more ways than one, so feel to PM me any time...I tried to PM you but it didn't work
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    Wait, drink what? Water? Beer? Soda? lol...need more information.
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    Give yourself some credit for that! Instead of focusing on the things you've done wrong, stop to think of the good things you've done. Stopping taking drugs is a *huge* deal and you deserve to feel good about it. We all make mistakes, but as long as you can learn from them and they help you grow (which it obviously did since you did such a good thing for yourself) then its okay to screw up- you're only human. Good luck
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    I'm just starting to come to terms with the fact that I'm not entirely straight. Do I know what I am exactly? Not at all - kind of like lil_kaila. I know that I've always felt a bit different from other girls in terms of attraction. I can remember being sexually stimulated by certain women I saw in movies - under the age of 10. At the same time, I developed strong crushes on men in movies as well as male teachers, so I assumed I was straight. While I've never experienced doing anything with a woman, I think it might be interesting to try. For me, it wasn't like: "oh I'm kind of aroused by seeing that woman, I must be bi or gay..." but sort of the cumulation of things coming together to make me realize: "ok, I can't be straight." Any other girls have similar experiences -- or was it a *boom, this happened so I'm gay* type thing...?
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    Totally an embarrassing thing to talk about, but I guess you could say I rub again something....
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    apparently it's not... I guess because it always happened to me, I assumed it was a normal phenomena. So, I get really really (did I say) really? aroused when I'm under a lot of pressure. For example, if the clock is ticking on an important test, I get really excited and usually have a mind-blowing orgasm without even putting in any effort. What do you think the reason for this could be? Has anyone else had a similar experience? It's pretty strange, I know...
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    Haha, nope. No vibrators...though I know a lot of people use them... I mean, I've touched down there when I do feel excited, but I guess I don't know how to do it right- and usually get frustrated and go back to my usual way... I usually don't even want to be touched down there when I'm hooking up/kissing someone, because I know it probably won't work so I figure- "why bother?"
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    Samra, I'm SO glad you brought this topic up! My clitoris is not really sensitive to touch either, and I'd love to hear suggestions about ways to increase excitment or things that can heighten touch sensation. I know that, even when I touch/play with myself down there- nothign happens. In fact, I've never even given MYSELF an orgasm that way-- and use a semi nontraditional approach. If I can't touch myself that way, how the heck can I expect anyone else to. Suggestions also appreciated
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    I second that plan!
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    Definitely a tough situation. Would you feel comfortable just opening up a conversation with her...not necessarily being like: "oh, I disapprove of what you're doing" but actually understand what shes feeling... Maybe shes doing this stuff out of fear of commitment or lack of supportive people to vent to. I'm not saying you should sit there and nod and smile, but really let her get her thoughts and feelings out
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    In response to this, from what the Poster seems to be saying, she's not looking to hang out with gay men...she seems to just be having really bad luck. Maybe she likes the kind of guy who is artsy...but also, she dated that consultant guy from work who seemed straight and turned out not to be... I think if she was actively seeking relationships with "outted" gay men, maybe what you are saying would hold true...but I don't think thats the case here. Plus, she has good sexual relationships wtih this guy. What do others think?
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    AMAZING... That made me laugh. I love it.
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    Haha, very true! The guy walking around naked was actually Jerry- who, honestly, didn't look that bad. George though...
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    Do we agree with this or disagree? I thought it'd be a fun (and funny - since its Seinfeld) little debate. It's from the episode "The Apology" and is on right now...so I figured I'd post it. Elaine: "Whoa! Walking around naked? Ahh... that is not a good look for a man." George: "Why not? It's a good look for a woman." Elaine: "Well, the female body is a... work of art. The male body is utilitarian, it's for gettin' around, like a jeep." Jerry: "So you don't think it's attractive?" Elaine: "It's hideous. The hair, the... the lumpiness. It's simian." George: "Well, some women like it." Elaine: "Hmm. Sickies." Hahaha...
  25. jabele
    Thats really funny! I like that
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