BellaDonna

An hour of intercourse would be too long for me. I think anything over 30 minutes is too much. Long sexual encounters are fine if they involve foreplay and other activities, but just straight intercourse for an hour would get boring and physcially uncomfortable. Whenever I hear a song glorifying sex "all night long" I think: ouch. BellaDonna

I'm still hiding it. The only person I told was someone I am friends with at work- but they are keeping it quiet. BellaDonna

Honestly if someone was jerking my pet around, causing them to choke, or spanking my pet, it would take every last ounce of control in me not to choke them. I would be unable to date someone that mistreated animals in any way, shape, or form. It sounds like Riley needs structure and needs to be trained PROPERLY. Abusing the dog will never help. Your BF needs to be told sternly by you not to touch your dog. It's not his place to do those things. This is no different than if it was your child. Yes, Riley has some behavior issues- but Riley is not dumb. Of course the dog is going to be aggressive and pee on your BF's things- when it's being abused by him. That's no coincidence... I can't say I blame the poor dog. One day Riley might be pushed the the brink and bite and cause some real damage. An intervention is needed immediately. BellaDonna

Congrats!!!!!!! Concentrate on you and your beautiful baby right now. Let the nurses and law enforcement handle the rest when it comes to R. If he gets a paternity test and decides to be in his son's life, then he can do so through proper visitation. You do not have to take his bullying anymore. Regardless of whether he is the father- your birth involves your body and is a highly personal experience where you need to relax and draw on you inner strength. If he was there with his mother to stress you out- that would be unfair. He can see his son under the proper conditions. Don't you worry about a thing. Get losts of rest and enjoy your new baby. It sounds like your family is being supportive- don't be afraid to lean on them. These early days are so special and your son will grow up so fast. Cherish these days and protect yourself from stress and negativity. If you feel overwhelmed, don't hesitate to ask for the help of those who are truly out for your best interest. Don't let R intimidate you. Congrats!!! We are all so proud of you! BellaDonna

Finances can be a major cause of divorce and relationship demise, so it's good that you are thinking about these things now. BellaDonna

It think it's a good sign that he wants you to meet his daughter considering she's one of the most important people in his life. He must really trust you and think highly of you. I'm sure he will help ease the interactions between the 2 of you. Maybe you can ask him beforehand what some of her interests are so you'll have some good questions to ask. BellaDonna

Maybe he thought you mean per entree? This would not bother me if it was the person's birthday or celebration for some major special event (i.e. graduating school, a promotion, etc...) But for just an average dinner date it seems excessive. Personally if someone told me I could pick wherever I wanted to go- I would keep price in mind for their sake and choose a medium-level place- not cheap or low grade- but not too fancy either. Once there I'd ask them what they were ordering before I chose my item from the menu. (i.e. I would not order a prime rib dinner and drinks if all they were ordering was a salad and water.) BellaDonna

The relationship is still quite young- but if you wanted to do something to honor v-day: a simple/friendly (but not overly mushy) card would do and maybe some candy if you know the kind he likes. BellaDonna

3rd grade is a good age.... I think you'll be fine if you just act nice, smile, and ask her questions about herself like "How do you like school" "What's your favorite subject", etc. She'll porobably do a lot of the talking, unless she is very shy. I think it's best to avoid any public displays of affection with your boyfriend when she's around, especially in the beginning, because it can be confusing to a kid and also hard if their parents are divorced/not together. BellaDonna

I think in general people will always be more tolerant of their own children. (at least I hope this is true- because I'm pregnant right now- yet I cringe when I see screaming kids in the grocery store) I think with your own you have a connection....and all the others, well, just aren't your problem so there is little motivation to deal with them. It's easier to love a child you've created or chose to adopt. In general I have much more patience for my nieces and nephews than I ever would for a stranger's kid. With "family" comes tolerance...and of course more importantly, with family comes love. You don't love a strangers child, but you'll surely love your own. BellaDonna

Ok seriously.... ](*,) I don't understand what's going on. Is there something in the water making people act delerious? Today another person came in to work (who was not in yesterday) and said they are trying "to get over strep throat".... -They are still coughing quite a lot though. STAY HOME!!!! grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Dear Jesus!

Please stay on topic so we can help the original poster. This thread is about his relationship, not strip clubs. There are plenty of other threads where strip clubs are the topic, and can be debated there. Further Off Topic posts will be removed. BellaDonna

This is certainly a unique situation. Is she really broke to the point that she needs to pay him with pilates? Does he like pilates enough to consider them equivalent to cash? If thats' the route he's going to take ,why doesn't he just forgive her of the debt all together? Well, he already said yes to the lessons and also yes to you going along. If he insists on taking the lessons, I think going along is a good idea. Maybe it will mean he will attend less of her lessons in the long run, since the 2 of you will be there for free? BellaDonna

I LOVE handisnacks cheese and crackers!!!! The only reason I no longer buy them is because when I was a kid just 1 would fill me, but now I want 5... so I can't handle having them around. Yoo Hoos are great too, but I try to avoid all that sugar. But if I had the same metabolism I had as a kid I would eat that stuff all the time. If that's what you like to eat, who cares what others think? I'm sure they have some stranger habits. BellaDonna

I probably would not take the test simply because I think they are taking a very complex behavior (cheating) and over-simplifying it by looking at just one factor: a gene. Some women have the "breast cancer gene" but not all of them will get breast cancer. Tests like these fail to take into account the environments that people live in. My guess- there are many people who might NOT have the gene, but still cheat due to *culture *learned behavior *stress *an unhappy relationship * revenge * intoxication etc. I'm not saying any of those reasons make cheating acceptable, but they are "common" reasons. Then there would be those that would have the gene, but whose environment would not lend itself to cheating anyways. A test for the gene essentially tells you that you have it- and not much else. I don't believe it is a strong enough variable to predict behavior or make generalizations based on it. At the most, it could be used to assess risk. If you combined the genetic profile with a profile of the person's environment then I think it would be a much stronger tool. BellaDonna

He'd probably be supportive. I do have the option to work from home now and then, but I try not to abuse it. I do have to meet with clients/students so I have to be physically present certain days. Which now that I think of it -it baffles me even more. My coworkers also have the option to work from home- so if they are sick yet do not want to use a sick day - they can still work from home in most cases. -That's even more reason for them to stay home if they are half dead. Anyways, I got the heck out of that germ pit and have relocated to a safer environment.lol My immune system is pretty good- but I just don't want to take any chances with stomach viruses as they are not fun....nor can they be any good for a baby... BellaDonna

I think I'll do 8.) Take my stuff with me and finish working the rest of the day from home.... that way I do not burn my sick time.

My sister works in retail and that happens a lot there. They get very mad if someone calls in sick (legitimately). She gets very stressed if she is sick and has to call in. I think that is a huge (and highly unethcial) problem in many places sadly. Where I work it is not a problem luckily....but maybe some of the others are right...the envirnoment might be too lax (the other end of the spectrum) if people feel it is "ok" to come in with a stomach virus. BellaDonna

I don't want to create enemies or stir the pot....I just wish they would stay home. No one knows I'm pregnant so I would never play that card. I think bringing it to my boss is too drastic and might seem petty. He's not one to get involved in office politics and the like. I think I might just say something like "Hey you don't sound good at all...You should go home" Heck I'd even send them chicken soup if they got the heck out of here.

I'll probably end up bathing in it.

We get separate vacation and sick time, and we accrue a sick day every 2 weeks so I just can't see why a person would come in with a stomach virus or near dead. There's no excuse for it. It makes me mad.

I like this idea. Too bad it would make me appear socially weird... hmmm do I care? I'll have to think about it....

I never get a flu shot...probably won't until I'm elderly (if I can make it that long, unless my coworkers kill me first)

HaHa...apparently I'm not the only one who feels this way.... a guy I work with just told one of the sick ladies to "get away from him"...he said it as a joke...but it was not truly a joke....I could tell by his tone of voice. I keep hearing sneezes (the especially spitty mucous kind) being projected into the air....just a mere cubicle away.... I am seriosuly thinking of getting the heck out of here I do not have Purell with me.... BellaDonna

My boss is one of the most laid-back nice guys you'll ever meet. I think they are just crazy. lol