ClareMsUK

it makes a difference in the sense that she is probably unsure of how to act and she is young but it can still hurt people! so i'd talk to her about it. she is probably just having fun, which is fine so long as its not at anyone else's expense. keep being firm with her friends that you are NOT interested and keep telling her the truth...about her friends and your feelings and soon they will get bored!

it does seem strange, perhaps she is just safe and secure in your relationship and enjoys other girls wanting you when she has you! i don't know it seems strange but perhaps they are quite young (i don't mean that in a condescending manner just trying to justify the behaviour!). the issue seems to be more with you and your girlfriend so talk to her and explain that whilst you are happy to chat and stuff with her friends it makes you uncomfortable that they are dumping their boyfriends for you, and that you love her and only her! be very careful though as women can be manipulating too. imagine the replies if this were a girl telling this story about 3 guys, there would be alot of warnings, so i'll just say be careful!

They don't seem like very good friends to be honest! I'd advise you against leading them on and even flirting slightly with them could lead them to believe you'd ditch your girlfriend for them. sometimes you have to be firm in order that they understand. you don't have to be cruel about it but explain that if this is going to be an issue and they are gonna try and split you and your girlfriend up then you can no longer hang out with them out of respect for your girlfriend. its strange that the 2 of them both want you! thats 3 friends altogther all wanting to date you haha that must be a nice feeling, but don't play on it as someone is gonna get hurt! good luck x

hey hardcore, writing poetry is about expressing yourself not how good a speller you are so i am sure you are fantastic. would love to read some of your work too! Clare x

Hey, its a good thing that you felt the need to write, that shows that deep down you are aware she is too young for sex. in terms of getting to know her though by all means! spend time with her and enjoy that time, before it has to get all complicated with relations that even 23 years olds (like me) struggle with haha! Don't worry about the age thing too much so long as you know that your intentions are honourable. to be honest even if she is keen to take things further i'd be inclined to advise you to wait as sex is not just a physical thing and some girls at that age think that because they are physically mature they are also emotionally but they are not!! take things slow there is plenty of time! don't be feeling bad for asking these questions though, you are still at an age yourself where hormones play a large part in how you feel, and that is perfectly normal! good luck x

hey, its not that guys cum doesn't taste good, don't get me wrong i wouldn't have it on a sandwhich (sorry ) but in the context of being aroused and the fact its a loving partner then it can be amazing and a turn on. I find i get turned on by the fact my partner is getting so much enjoyment so the taste becomes sorta irrelevant. and apparently its full of nutrients so i imagine women are the same!

hey, when i was younger i used to have confidence issues and i learnt to get by by having someone, like an idol, someone that i looked up to and wanted to be more like! then whenever i was in a situation where i felt uncomfortable i thought 'what would this person act like?' and i felt myself getting more confident. when i have to be tough for example i ask myself how tony soprano would talk! haha kidding! do u get what i mean though? i now don't even think about it, it has become second nature to me to be outgoing. have a few conversation pieces that never fail, my ex was a hairdresser and i learned a lot listening to him chat to customers about holidays, soap operas, cinema, etc. You will no doubt also have hobbies outside of work, or things that interest you. i like politics so basically i always have something to say on anything haha. but be yourself and sometimes people prefer to have a good listener than a good talker so be open to people and you will attract friends no problem. good luck x

just to give a girls perspective, i haven't tasted it haha but been told it is kinda sweet but salty at the same time! hmmm anyway..... been told that it is a turn on though! as for technique i agree with stevie in using your tongue to lick and kiss, especially the top part of the area, don't just concentrate on the entrance to the vagina. don't know if it's same for all women but i am most sensitive about half an inch up from the entrance. also u can use your fingers at the same time to stimulate inside gently as u lick. for a woman to orgasm repetition is the key, i.e if u keep stoppin and starting it loses momentum. certainly alternate your technique but keep the stimulation on the area constant and she will love you forever! good luck x

Note to stevie! haha the irony was that i had looked! maybe its cos u r male that it went over your head! plus last night when i made comment it had double the hits of any other topic on the first page, so i thought it was funny. you are right about sex being interesting topic, i wasn't dismissing the actual problem, i just felt good advice had been given already and there was nothing more to add!

hey, the worst thing you can do is be tense, that contracts the muscles and penetration is impossible. that is probably what has happened. basically if a baby can fit out then a penis can fit in! take deep breaths and try to relax. don't focus too much on what is happening, enjoy it. make sure there is plenty of fore play so you are well lubricated. also try imagining that as he is entering you are opening up for him like visualisation technique. i do it when stressed at work and need to insert a tampon quickly on a toilet break haha (sorry! good luck i hope it goes well.

wow Girl Power haha! You are sooooooooooo right! I am so angry at myself for giving a sh*t really i am. I know he is still really attracted to me and i am dying to dress up and just flaunt my''i don't give a sh*t'' attitude in front of him, but then that still implies i care and my aim is to just not care at all! do u really feel that way now? or are there days you still feel u love him? my plan is to just have no contact at all with him and keep busy, its just we have mutual friends and hard as they try i keep getting snippets of info about him and it drives me crazy even hearing his name! keep me posted on how you are doing x

hey, having read your most recent post (this 1) i went back and read some of your previous ones. i have been through a similar thing recently and just the other day told him where to go! he was playing games with my feelings and i kept falling for it. deep down though i think he does care, he himself is so scared of getting hurt that he can't commit, yet he keeps phoning me all the time and getting his friends to find out what i am up to etc. i also know for a fact he is not seeing anyone else! he is online just now and it is killing me not chatting to him. i blocked him though so he can't see i am online or email me at all but its killing me! i love this guy! how the hell can i avoid him when i just wanna be with him all the bl**dy time? argghhh i don't know, i will just be strong and TRY and follow your points haha, i want to wake up and just not be thinking about him but usually i dream about him so my feelings are fresh again haha! when i am over this i will get back to you and tell you how it went. hope u are feeling better in your situation. x

hey, i'd explain your reasons for lying, its not like you did it out of badness. explain that you felt admitting it at the same time he admitted his lie was just too ridiculous and you felt silly for lying in the first place, and then as time went on it got harder to tell the truth! that's what happens with lies. it is only a year after all so he shouldn't be too put off. play it down and jokingly offer to show him your birth certificate to prove you have nothing else to hide or that you haven't lied about your name. hopefully he will see the funny side and the irony in the fact you both felt you had to lie about your age. also learn from this episode and don't be ashamed of your age again! good luck x

haha sorry just had to point out the number of views this subject has had in comparison to other topics! u guys are great haha

i agree completely with beec, also closure comes from within he can't give you that, by sending him a letter all you are doing is exposing your feelings. the fact you wrote the letter is closure in itself without having to actually send it. writing down feelings is a good way of getting them out your head and sealed away on paper, its the reason so many people keep a diary. good luck x

hey, i'd be inclined to let this one go. don't take it personal though relations over the net are not 'real', he didn't really get to know you! Also i have been in situations myself where if i am bored i will chat to my friends but like tonight for example i am sitting with my away message on as i am not in the mood for chatting! sometimes people are on the net for work reasons and not recreation. let him contact you and if he doesn't, don't take it personal and move on. x

hey, i am in scotland and i put an x at end of everything, emails, text messages etc! i do it as a friendly send off, and my friends do it too. so although it is a nice and loving thing to do the fact that females do it with each other implies that its not necessarily a declaration of undying love. it may be a hint though he still likes you, but not enough for you to act on, go by his words and actions instead. good luck x ...........see! haha

hey been thinking about it and Jake is right, cut him loose thats what i'm gonna do! who the hell do they think they are anyway? Jake its good to know there are guys like you about! P.S is it bad that i feel good about the fact my ex's new g/f is fat and unattractive? ....................Don't answer that ! haha

hi, i split with my boyfriend in november after 4 years living together and it was his decision as he'd met someone else! by christmas he started calling me up all the time and we got close again although i had started dating again and getting over him so i didn't want to get back together! being close friends though felt great, we had every part that was good with us but without the sh*t stuff! so anyway i met a guy in feb and have been seeing him on and off since then, but have kept my ex close, we met up once a week to watch dvds and stuff. however last month i went into hospital and he didn't even call, i thought it was strange and kept asking him about it and just last night he told me, after me asking him over and over for weeks if he was seeing someone, that he was ! the same girl we split over! I told him i couldn't care less who he was seeing but that i am a part of his life and i don't want him to shut me out. he said he won't but thats exactly what he is doing! my honest opinion is that guys cannot juggle priorities. He is not trying to hurt you, but by being selfish he is. I also think my ex's girlfriend doesn't like us being so close so is putting pressure on him not to see me. maybe yours is similar. Make sure he is not top of your list, but always be there for him, just not at his beck and call! Wait until he calls you and finds the space for you in his life that you deserve. And don't feel bad, i honestly think its just a guy thing! not an excuse but at least you are not alone ! x

haha ok, i've never had to ask before, but mainly because the topic has come up before it has happened. to test how he feels about the subject i would maybe suggest the 69 position, where you both give oral at the same time. its not like u are demanding he perform sex acts on you then as you will also be busy! sometimes discussing sex is best when you are not in bed, but lounging around watching tv or something when there is no pressure. bring it up as topic of light hearted conversation, tell him what you like to be done to you or ask him to describe his fantasy and then you do the same ensuring you include him giving you oral in the fantasy! if a guy doesn't take the hint with that then he just doesn't wanna do it, in which case find out why he doesn't. he may just feel its not clean haha so get him to do it to you in the shower! haha good luck x

hey, i think you should leave the situation as it is, in her hands! if you talk to her leave out the compliments and stuff, she doesn't need all that! she now knows how you feel and playing it a little cooler will probably help! i don't mean act cool with her just cooler in the sense of be nice but not sickenly nice, do you know what i mean? women like getting complimented but too much can be a little desperate, or else do it jokingly, make witty remarks as opposed to soppy ones! good luck x

Very deep for someone so young, i am very impressed. you should be published. x

hey, reading that is like reading my diary! i really cannot give you any advice as i have been in similar situation since feb this year, but i'll try and help! i really will be interested in others advice though. the latest thing i have done is tell him straight my feelings, told him no more games and then left it at that. that was just last night though haha so i'll see what happens. i will not contact him again until he works out what he wants and is prepared to commit. i just feel too old for games now, yet at the time it was fun but my feelings are too strong now and i face getting hurt, so good luck, keep me posted on the outcome! oh and until he works out what he wants do not have sex with him! x

hey, sometimes the answers are not there in front of you, you must have your reasons for not being with this girl, but that is irrelevent in relation to your inner conflict; the jealousy! i used to be really envious of other women, the way they look, what they have, what job they do!! but there comes a time when u realise that NO-ONE has the perfect life that it looks like from the outside. it is really important to concentrate on what you have and what you can achieve. by all means look to others for inspiration and even be slightly envious, but i also believe that everyone has exactly what they need in life and its what you do with it. be happy and enjoy life and if you do there will be plenty of people envious of you! good luck x

hi, i'd feel hurt too, is there no way to include you in the plans? i can't see what would be so important that you could not join him. I know its not all his fault, he was maybe gonna be faced with spending his birthday alone however i would expect my partner to at least offer to spend a part of the day with me, i.e breakfast or something. im sorry i can't be of much help. you will know yourself if he is genuinely dissappointed that you will not be spending the day together, and then by all means give him a great time the following weekend, good luck x