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  1. simply_r
    i know what thats like but i can help u answer the question....... is he worth waiting for? can u see yourself with anyone else? sometimes people cant be in a relationship for their own reasons... not that they dont want to, they just cant.. i think you should let him know that he is taking a chance that u wont be there when he is ready, but only time will tell. About moving on...Dont get into a relationship for any other reason than u want to be in one...its all up to u
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    i agree, a new year and he was in the past..... if he wants me in his future, he's going to have to make that effort. But i have my own life to live and i'm going to continue to do that until i find someone, whoever it is
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    well here's an update, i found out that he didn't get my messages and neither did i get any of his saying that he was going away on vacation.. well he's away for a few weeks and i still cant stop thinking about him.. I just wish that this was easier.... jacy wait a few days, not too long though and try to contact him at least once. If it is meant to be, it will work out
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    hi ppl... i didnt msg or call him but strangely, i got a msg from him early this morning to say merry christmas. I replied but i'm not sure if he even got the message bcuz there's a problem with mobile phones at the moment where i live. I tried calling later in the day but no answer, what should i do now?
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    my ex hasn't contacted for the past month....... i dont know if its because he doesnt want too or if it cuz he's really busy. The last time we spoke, he said he had some things to work out and i also know that this is his busiest time at work for the entire year, but i keep thinking abt him. I tried calling once but he didnt answer his cell phone and i msged him but he never replied, that was abt 2 weeks ago...... do u think i should msg him to say merry christmas? if i dont get a reply, i'd be really hurt
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    lately i've been feeling distant from everyone...the people in my life are either far away, have been avoiding me or in the case of one, i pushed him away... I hate this feeling, the relationships that i kept were so important to me....i even had a good relationship (friendship) with my ex bf.. but suddenly, its all gone. I don't know what to do. there are 3 people that i want to talk to the most: one is my ex bf who doesnt have the time and hasnt tried contacting me in 2 weeks. the other is my first bf, we had grown apart for a while but i tried contacting him on 2 occasions and he said he was meaning to call me and he gave me an excuse but he said he'd call me back and its been a month and he's still avoiding me. the third is my best friend, were jus distant bcuz his phone isnt working but i'm beginning to think it happened for a reason, and we'll grow apart i dont know how to feel close to these people again, i tried alone time and i enjoyed it but i want to have these ppl back.....what can i do?
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    i think she likes u as a friend but all the other guys in her life are not serious type relationships, so in my opinion, she is asking u to be there as her best friend for now and one day when she wants a serious relationship,maybe, just maybe she'll realise that u are the one for her
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    thanks, i guess that may be it, but i'll always wonder "what if?". I dont think i need time to be alone anymore, that was my first step and i've been single for the past 7 months...anyone else have any advice?
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    hi, recently i've been finding it very hard to trust people, mostly boys. I am so confused as to where i am right now. My ex bf and i were thinking of getting back together and i know i still have feelings for him and i care about him but he says he needs to work out other parts of his life first and then we can be together. I respect that but what if things are the same, he doesnt seem to care to see me or talk to me as much as i want to see him but he says that he loves me. Also, what makes it more confusing is that i had feelings for a friend of mine in the period of my break up with my ex and for the sake of friendship, i let those feelings go. But this person, the friend, keeps asking how i feel abt him even though he says he doenst like anyone and he'll only be happy with his ex and he doesnt want a relationship right now. Basically, i'm getting mixed signals from him. He talks abt other girls all the time and i dont know if he asked me how i feel abt him because he was afraid that he was hurting me by talking abt other girls. The thing is, this is so confusing.....Can anyone help me? PS...its not about being with any of them, i just want to figure this out cuz it really bothers me
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    hey i know what it feels like, and to tell u the truth, i dont have the answers either, we've lost contact but the feeling is still there. No matter what i do, he'll always be a part of me, i just wish sometimes that i had another chance........just thought i'd let u know that you're not alone
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    he has not been to a psychologist but i cannot suggest that to him because he might think i dont believe him but i think he has convinced himself that something is wrong, i jus want to know what i can do to help
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    i am not sure if this is the right place to post this but my best friend has some problems with his health. He has severe and frequent stomach pains, he feels cold all the time, he becomes weak and he is unable to breathe at times. He has been to doctors and they cant figure out whats wrong but my friend somehow believes that he has some major problem and that he is going to die soon. Whenever we talk, he mentions that his life may end at any given day and he acts as if he may not be here much longer. He is actually expecting death. He is depressed most of the time and worried although he doesnt show it to everyone else and he has started to keep distanced from people close to him so that they will not be as hurt when he leaves them. I want to get him thinking positive again and help him to see that life has alot in store for him yet.....how do i help him?
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    i think it works for some people, it all depends on whether or not they both feel the same for each other and can see being together again as an option. In my experience however, it didnt work because of a fear of someone being hurt again, but i believe if two people want to make it work, they should give it a try and never have to wonder "what if"
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    i believe that everything happens for a reason but that whole "meant to be" things doesnt make sense.......things that are in your control never happen if its meant to be, they happen because of certain choices you or someone else make.... You can't jus sit back and expect some "disguised force" to bring everything to you, in a way you have to get out there and make it happen for yourself!!
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    I agree with Double J....try to find out indirectly if she really likes you.
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    hey i totaly understand what u feel, lately i've been going through a similar situation. My problem however is that he doesnt want to risk our friendship I guess what we need to do is stop thinking about that person as much and view them the way it is now.......as friends.....if it develops into something more than that will be great. I also talk to my friend for 2 or 3 hours over the phone everyday and i am so comfortable with him, i don't think i can find that with jus about any guy... Tell me how it develops because i could really use some help too
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    well i like him enough to try again and i honestly believe him but sometimes its hard to actually spend time with him because he's busy at work so i get confused as to whether or not he really is trying. I guess part of the reason also is that i started liking a friend of mine recently and although we are not pursuing anything, i know he likes me 2..and according to him, "what's meant to happen will find a way" so i dont want to give up hope on that just as yet..but i am not waiting around fr any guy to fall in love with me. what now?
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    after a few months of little or no contact, my ex asked me to get back together with him. We broke up because he had feelings for another girl and I am being honest, it hurt me alot although i didnt show it. He went out with her for a while and realised that she wasn't the girl for him and he's been single about a month now and he's telling me that he realised what a big mistake he has made and that he loves me very much and he will prove it to me if i give him a second chance. The problem is I don't feel the exact way i did before but i still care about him alot. Since we broke up, i haven't been with anyone but i also didnt think of us getting back together, i just wanted to be single for a while......What should i do?
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    the worst thing i ever heard was "this isn't love, you cant love someone you don't know" after 9 months and no contact worked for about a month or two....although he is trying to convince me he didnt mean what he said....
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    i agree, just try to think of all the happy times you shared together and of all the new ones u will create when he returns. Hey the most you can do is trust him.
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    heyyyyyyyyy..... i didnt classify him as the friend, he did that to me.... if he has feelings for me, all he has to do is say it..But he's been giving mixed signals and he said that he'd rather keep me as a friend than risk losing me by being in a relationship. what am i supposed to do?
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    My friend and I were talking about getting married and he told me that he would not come to my wedding, especially if i marry my ex boyfriend. I asked why as my best friend he wouldn't come (whenever i get married) and he said he won't be around. But that's strange because i don't know if i'll get married in 4,5, 6 or 20 years. Yet he knows he wont be there. After a while of silence, i asked what was bothering him and he asked me to forget that he said that. I assumed that he was just afraid that someone else would take his place and explained that that won't happen. But i could still tell something was bothering him. He also told me that he will never tell me the real reason. When he realised that I was a bit worried, he said that he was just saying that........but i dont think so.....what can it be? Does he have feelings for me? Is he afraid of losing our friendship? Does he think i'll neglect him?
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    ok here goes, my best friend is a guy about 5 years older than me. We are totally comfortable with each other and both are single. occasionaly, the the topic of relationships comes up and a few times we ended up talking about us being together. I havent said much about it but he seems to have mixed views. He says he likes me and that he sometimes thinks i'm the perfect girl for him but he doesn't want to risk losing me so he prefers to remain friends. I'm ok with that but the last time we spoke he said that he can only love me as a best friend and not a gf because i deserve so much more. I realise that I do have feelings for him but i dont know what i should do and what i should think of what he said. Any advice?
  24. simply_r
    i have this problem, i'm re-valuing relationships and i have begun to think that they are pointless, that love doesnt exist and in the end people always get hurt. The thing is, i used to be a believer......i was a romantic..believed in love and thought that someday it wud come to me. Now I spend all my spare time thinking of why its bad and hurtful and i've started to pull myself away from people in my life. I think its because i'm trying to deny having feelings for a friend who wishes to remain "a friend". I am so confused, what do i do?
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