simply_r

i know what thats like but i can help u answer the question....... is he worth waiting for? can u see yourself with anyone else? sometimes people cant be in a relationship for their own reasons... not that they dont want to, they just cant.. i think you should let him know that he is taking a chance that u wont be there when he is ready, but only time will tell. About moving on...Dont get into a relationship for any other reason than u want to be in one...its all up to u

i agree, a new year and he was in the past..... if he wants me in his future, he's going to have to make that effort. But i have my own life to live and i'm going to continue to do that until i find someone, whoever it is

well here's an update, i found out that he didn't get my messages and neither did i get any of his saying that he was going away on vacation.. well he's away for a few weeks and i still cant stop thinking about him.. I just wish that this was easier.... jacy wait a few days, not too long though and try to contact him at least once. If it is meant to be, it will work out

hi ppl... i didnt msg or call him but strangely, i got a msg from him early this morning to say merry christmas. I replied but i'm not sure if he even got the message bcuz there's a problem with mobile phones at the moment where i live. I tried calling later in the day but no answer, what should i do now?

my ex hasn't contacted for the past month....... i dont know if its because he doesnt want too or if it cuz he's really busy. The last time we spoke, he said he had some things to work out and i also know that this is his busiest time at work for the entire year, but i keep thinking abt him. I tried calling once but he didnt answer his cell phone and i msged him but he never replied, that was abt 2 weeks ago...... do u think i should msg him to say merry christmas? if i dont get a reply, i'd be really hurt

lately i've been feeling distant from everyone...the people in my life are either far away, have been avoiding me or in the case of one, i pushed him away... I hate this feeling, the relationships that i kept were so important to me....i even had a good relationship (friendship) with my ex bf.. but suddenly, its all gone. I don't know what to do. there are 3 people that i want to talk to the most: one is my ex bf who doesnt have the time and hasnt tried contacting me in 2 weeks. the other is my first bf, we had grown apart for a while but i tried contacting him on 2 occasions and he said he was meaning to call me and he gave me an excuse but he said he'd call me back and its been a month and he's still avoiding me. the third is my best friend, were jus distant bcuz his phone isnt working but i'm beginning to think it happened for a reason, and we'll grow apart i dont know how to feel close to these people again, i tried alone time and i enjoyed it but i want to have these ppl back.....what can i do?

i think she likes u as a friend but all the other guys in her life are not serious type relationships, so in my opinion, she is asking u to be there as her best friend for now and one day when she wants a serious relationship,maybe, just maybe she'll realise that u are the one for her

thanks, i guess that may be it, but i'll always wonder "what if?". I dont think i need time to be alone anymore, that was my first step and i've been single for the past 7 months...anyone else have any advice?

hi, recently i've been finding it very hard to trust people, mostly boys. I am so confused as to where i am right now. My ex bf and i were thinking of getting back together and i know i still have feelings for him and i care about him but he says he needs to work out other parts of his life first and then we can be together. I respect that but what if things are the same, he doesnt seem to care to see me or talk to me as much as i want to see him but he says that he loves me. Also, what makes it more confusing is that i had feelings for a friend of mine in the period of my break up with my ex and for the sake of friendship, i let those feelings go. But this person, the friend, keeps asking how i feel abt him even though he says he doenst like anyone and he'll only be happy with his ex and he doesnt want a relationship right now. Basically, i'm getting mixed signals from him. He talks abt other girls all the time and i dont know if he asked me how i feel abt him because he was afraid that he was hurting me by talking abt other girls. The thing is, this is so confusing.....Can anyone help me? PS...its not about being with any of them, i just want to figure this out cuz it really bothers me

hey i know what it feels like, and to tell u the truth, i dont have the answers either, we've lost contact but the feeling is still there. No matter what i do, he'll always be a part of me, i just wish sometimes that i had another chance........just thought i'd let u know that you're not alone

he has not been to a psychologist but i cannot suggest that to him because he might think i dont believe him but i think he has convinced himself that something is wrong, i jus want to know what i can do to help

i am not sure if this is the right place to post this but my best friend has some problems with his health. He has severe and frequent stomach pains, he feels cold all the time, he becomes weak and he is unable to breathe at times. He has been to doctors and they cant figure out whats wrong but my friend somehow believes that he has some major problem and that he is going to die soon. Whenever we talk, he mentions that his life may end at any given day and he acts as if he may not be here much longer. He is actually expecting death. He is depressed most of the time and worried although he doesnt show it to everyone else and he has started to keep distanced from people close to him so that they will not be as hurt when he leaves them. I want to get him thinking positive again and help him to see that life has alot in store for him yet.....how do i help him?

i think it works for some people, it all depends on whether or not they both feel the same for each other and can see being together again as an option. In my experience however, it didnt work because of a fear of someone being hurt again, but i believe if two people want to make it work, they should give it a try and never have to wonder "what if"

i believe that everything happens for a reason but that whole "meant to be" things doesnt make sense.......things that are in your control never happen if its meant to be, they happen because of certain choices you or someone else make.... You can't jus sit back and expect some "disguised force" to bring everything to you, in a way you have to get out there and make it happen for yourself!!

I agree with Double J....try to find out indirectly if she really likes you.