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thanks for your inputs...but what seems to be funny is that there was a period of time when I tried to do the NC thingie but finally gave in and talked to her she asked me how come I haven't been calling her...

okay...so it seen like me and my ex g/f is kinda sorta talking again but taking it slow....we talked this morning and it went pretty well. At the end of the conversations as we both are letting each other go for our day's businesses she said well, give me a call sometimes...how long should i wait to call her back, tonight? wait it out for couple of days? any advises

Just leave her alone...and cut off all contact is the only way to heal...

not sure how to ask this questions but here it goes, anyone here ever had phone sex? if so, how do you make your partner feel confortable...thanks

I've been trying to do the NC and sticking to it, but last night she called my house phone and my little brother picked up the phone and handed to me, it was her on the phone. She wanted to know if I was ingorning her? so I said no and without going into details, she started to asked me what did I do for the past 4 days? I couldn't really talk because I was having dinner with my parents and told her of that, she said she will let me go and have dinner. I'm really baffles as to why? she knows how I feel about her, i've told her many times and I had gotten to tbe point I don't need to say it any more. ( I still love her, want us to give it a another try but she wanted her space.) SHould I continue doing the NC and let her come on to me more? I know, don't over do it just enough for me to know she's ready for me? ps. I didn't even call her back after wards...

thanks everyone...okay speaking of the devil, I got a text message from her around 2:15pm "how r u, haven't heard from you in a long time (4 days)". so I ingnored the message about 30-45 minutes later another message came through "How are you" again I ignored the message. 15 minutes later a message came through and I guess it bothered her that I didn't reply and this time it says "Ingorning me? I understand". I turned off my phone this time. I hope what i'm doing is not childish like and not being abit harshed. so I started thinking "what if she just wanted to see what i've been up too, to see if everything is okay on my end?" but i know as soon as I reply, I will be back to square one. ps: is it me or do you feel much better knowing that you're ex is trying to figure out what you're doing and how come you haven't return her/his message/phone calls/text etc...

Okay, for all of you thats doing NC for months and months how do you do it? its been 4 days for me and I'll tell you, its probably the hardest 4 days of my life... Been brokenup 11 months but we kept on keeping contacts between us (she does most of the contact)...just recently she stopped calling me 4days ago and all these thoughts are running through my head. I don't know weather I should call her or just leave her alone and wait til she call me back? I'm giving her her space and I don't want to ruin our chances of getting back together. For those that has been doing NC for months and months how do you do it? please give me any advices on how to remain calm and how to take your mind off of the phone. thanks

2 years is long...if she has a new man, the best thing you can do is respect that and let her have her moments...do not interfer with their relationship...just forget about it and move on....

its been 9 months for me and I still have that feeling you're talking about....Just hang in there, it will go away eventually.

Questions for the guys...when you make love/sex to your g/f, how long do you usually last? I would like some pointers on how to make it last longer...thanks

hey, i'm in somewhat of the same situation as you...I know its hard not to think about your ex/gf and this new guy because i'm having a hard time too. You can't really blame her because you to are not together. give her her space as I'm giving my ex/gf hers...if she really misses you and love you she will take you back. Good luck ps when you talk to her, don't bring up the subject of this new guy like mataney said. it will drive her away, just act cool.

My ex and I broken up for 9 months and we're been talking since our break up. Yesterday, I was able to pay her a visit (2 hours drive) and spent the night with her. When asked how she felt about me, she said she loves me but not the same love that once she had with me so I dropped the subject and started to talk about something else. I want to show her that I still love her and I think about her everyday. But, it kills me not knowing that her hearts still with me or is it focusing on someone else. So, my questions is, should I just take things slow, less contact than before? (we talked almost once every other day). been supportive even if she talks to her guy friends? (she told me, she has alot of guy friends). I don't know what to do? I really want to be with her but I don't want to push her away. Please, someone tell me the meaning of taking it slow?

1. 3 years 2. Still learning to let go.

I too are in the same situations as you...I wish the feeling would go away. My mind wants to move on but my heart is full of my ex.

Why is it that when you love someone so much, you just can't seem to let them go? and you always constantly thinking of them 24/7...and is it true, "If you really love someone, set them free and if they come back it was meant to be?"...Its been 9 months for me and I still love my ex dearly. I just can't seem to get her out of my mind.