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  1. xxatti
    You're in the same situation as many others. Stuck in the friend zone. But it seems to me like this John guy is in the same sit as you. So no worries there. Read this thread, it might help in the future. link removed
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    Well said Tyler. Couldnt have said it better myself.
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    Not at all, I just dont get the point to your post. You're kind of playing the fiddle here , and most people already know about the idea you're hitting on about the "nice guy" persona. And just so you know, if you never finish, that means you DO finish last.
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    Yeah, girls really believe that "guys just wanna be their friend thing." Sorry, just had to chime in to say that. I dont know what to tell you to do.
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    ????
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    Im sort of with AB38 on this one. Do you really want this guy back? How did the relationship end between you two?
  7. xxatti
    Looks like all the odds are stacked against you. Not because of the pastor thing or anything like that, but because she sees you as a "friend." Its nearly impossible to get out of that friend zone once you've been put there. Read this post and it should help you out. But you probably wont have a shot with this girl at this point. link removed
  8. xxatti
    Like I said, just make it a friendly thing. All you want to do right now is feel out the situation. You dont need to spill your guts to her or make a move right now. All you want to do is find out where she stands. I would probably call her up and just see if she wants to hang out. Don't make it a big thing. Lunch just seems kinda awkward considering the circumstances.
  9. xxatti
    So why not just talk to her when you see her. Build the rappor again so you can get a reading off her.
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    Still, what has she done to make you believe that she still has feelings for you? That's what I've been trying to figure out, cause I couldnt get it from your post. Is she pissed about what happened when she came to visit you? If not, try to hang out with her and see if you can get a reading off her. Once you know where she stands, then you'll know what move you need to make.
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    Ok, It's hard to give you advice on this situation because I cant get a feeling on how she really feels about you based on what you wrote. That whole book was about you, you, you, and what YOU did or didnt do wrong. You did say she came to your work a few times after the fact. What happened before you threw her out? From what I did get out of this, there was a trust problem in the relationship. That alone is enough to doom any relationship. I almost get the impression that you two might not be as right for each other as you might think.
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    I dissagree with the above post. She has a boyfriend, I think its a bad idea to tell her how you feel. What you need to do is find out how she feels about you. There are many ways to do this, but I wouldnt suggest asking her outright.
  13. xxatti
    I really want to help you out, but that is a hell of a lot to read. Perhaps I can get the cliff note version.
  14. xxatti
    Nothing good can come of this situation. You're only going to drive a wedge into these two guys friendship. If you care at all for their friendship: I suggest you back away from both of them and let time play itself out. That means you must at the very least break things off or put them on hold with your current bf. At least until they're no longer roommates. If it is meant to be then your ex will come back to you.
  15. xxatti
    She broke up with you. You have to accept that and move on. As I've said before, everyone has to experience heartbreak at one point or another. Its not the end of the world. You'll find somebody else. If she does decide she wants to get back together with you, and you want to take her back (I dont think I would) then make her prove herself to you. Dont just let her walk back into your life. Bottom line, my advice is to forget her and move on.
  16. xxatti
    Hey!! I resent that statement TrueHeart. J/K In all honesty, you're probably right. But there are a lot of us who are very mature at that age.
  17. xxatti
    Its obvious that you're not really a priority to her. I would be careful not to let yourself get to attached to the idea of you and her getting back together. A lot of times girls will go back to ex's, especially after a break-up to see if they can get back the feelings they had before. Re-live the good times so to say. Which would make sense seeing she's not getting those feelings anymore from her recent ex. But eventually they tend to realize why the relationship ended in the 1st place and that she doesnt have those feelings anymore. That's when they move on and find someone else who can bring those feelings back. Im willing to bet this is playing a factor in things. She might even be aware of what she's doing and is uncomfortable hanging with you because she doesnt want you to get too attached.
  18. xxatti
    Its most likely the way your presenting yourself. Thats to say how your coming accross to these girls. Girls see guys in two different ways, the type that they would be interested in sexually, and the type that they see as just "friends." How you come accross and portray yourself means nearly everything because once you enter that friend zone it's nearly impossible to get out. It's hard to describe exactly what I mean, but little things about your personality and you aura or air of confidence play a role also. It has a lot to do with the way you act, the way you move, the way you look at her. All of these things either make you or break you.
  19. xxatti
    Truth is, I dont like this situation. This girl just up and left you one day out of the blue. She invites you to her house, cries on your shoulder about the mistake she made with some other guy. Then happily agrees to go out with you a few times, almost leading you on in a sense, only to tell you that she doesnt think its a good idea for you two to go out right now. I dont understand why you want to go back to her. I know you have a lot of feelings for her, but is it really worth it? And does she really feel the same way about you? Looks like she may have just been testing you to find out if she still might have feelings for you. The way I see it is that she's not respecting you like she should be. There has to be consequences for the things she does to you. Other wise, she's just going to walk all over you. Unless this girl is "THE ONE" I mean, there's no one else and never will be, I think it's time to back away and move on. If she really wants to get back with you, make her prove it to you.
  20. xxatti
    Truth is, I dont like this situation. This girl just up and left you one day out of the blue. She invites you to her house, cries on your shoulder about the mistake she made with some other guy. Then happily agrees to go out with you a few times, almost leading you on in a sense, only to tell you that she doesnt think its a good idea for you two to go out right now. I dont understand why you want to go back to her. I know you have a lot of feelings for her, but is it really worth it? And does she really feel the same way about you? Looks like she may have just been testing you to find out if she still might have feelings for you. The way I see it is that she's not respecting you like she should be. There has to be consequences for the things she does to you. Other wise, she's just going to walk all over you. Unless this girl is "THE ONE" I mean, there's no one else and never will be, I think it's time to back away and move on. If she really wants to get back with you, make her prove it to you.
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    1st off, you put yourself in this situation by getting involved with your friends ex. Obviously he has feelings for her. How would you feel if she was with you, broke up with you, and then hooked up with your friend 2days later? I dont know how close you two are, but this will only put a strain on your friendship. Do you really want to let a girl come in between you and your friend?? Think about it... REAL hard. Is it really worth it? Before you make up your mind I would at least try and talk to your friend about the situation. 2nd, I question a girl who would even do something like this to two friends. That's a BIG red flag in my book. If she did it to him, she can do it to you. You get involved with a girl like that, and your only setting yourself up. And do you really know what her motives are? She could be mad at your friend and is trying to hook up with you to get back at him.
  23. xxatti
    Damn that was a long post. 1st of all, who ended the relationship. This really sounds like a whole lot to do about nothing. If she ended things, then you have no reason to feel like you're the one causing her all this trauma. And why are you so concerned about her and her new bf anyways? You said she has been ignoring you and you need to do the same. Forget about her and move on.
  24. xxatti
    Ok, let me try this again. You guys want a girl to just come up to you and throw herself at you (dont we all) but that's not thinking very realistically. The truth is unless you look like some male supermodel, thats just not gonna happen. And even if you did have the model look, you wouldnt get very far with girls if you held your head down moping in your lack of self esteem and self confidence all day. There are things you can do to improve your looks. Learn to dress well. Go to the gym, build your physique. All of these things will help greatly with how women see you. But still, you will get nowhere if you dont know how to TALK!!!
  25. xxatti
    You did nothing wrong. That's just the way it goes sometimes. Some guys are real jerks that have no regard for peoples feelings, and the same goes for a lot of girls. Sorry you're feeling down, hopefully you'll get over it quickly.
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