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Lol. I used to feel the same way. "why must I be the one to initiate all the conversation? Why cant someone start talking to me??" Truth is, you may be putting off a standoffish vibe without even realizing it. This alone is enough to make people scared to talk to you. Another thing you have to realize is the way society is, a lot of women wont talk to a guy unless he talks to her first. You say you dont have confidence, well now is the time to start getting it. You cant expect other people to give you confidence, you have to go out and get it yourself. Next time you go in a store, start by smiling and saying hi to the cashier. He/she cant reject you, they have to be cordial. After you get comfortable doing this, then you can move on to the next step.

Is this supposed to be one of those "oh, my dicks too big please have sympathy for me threads?"

Well, I dont know the whole story between you two. I've only seen this thread, but from what I read I would tell you to forget it and move on. It looks as though he already has. Everyone has to experience heartbreak at one point or another. It's not the end of the world. Forget about him and move on. By telling him how you feel will only come accross to him as this psyco girl that cant get over him. You will give him a lot of power over you, and he will most likely start to use it against you. Even if he did get back with you, he will only end up hurting you when he moves on to the next girl, and he will because it looks like he doesnt feel the same way about you anymore. Do yourself a favor and save yourself a lot of heartache and move on.

The best thing would be to continue you conversation from the previous night on the messenger.

The letter or business card idea is a defenite NO NO. She may think of it as a sweet gesture, but chances are she will be turned off by the fact that you didnt have the balls to talk to her. There are a # of things you could do to strike up convo. Apparently you guys have a break during class, that would be the perfect opportunity. In a sit like yours when time is running out for you, you could even just be honest and go right up to her doing the break and say something like "Hi, you know we've been here for x amount of weeks and we've never even talked to one another" and go from there. That will open the door wide open. Then you make sure you say hello to her and ask her how she's doing every class session from that point on, and at the last class you'll be in perfect position to get her#. You tell her it was nice meeting her and that its a shame you two didnt get to know each other earlier because she seems like such a cool person. She'll probably offer you her# right on the spot. If she doesnt then you ask for her# and mission complete.

OK, maybe I missread this a bit. Im assumming you already have her# since you've known her for so long. All you have to do now is start to hang out with her. This will allow you to get a better reading off her. You guys attend the same college, so make plans to do something after class. Doesnt have to be anything big. It could be something as simple as asking her to come with you to the bookstore or something. OK. just saw the other post. Do the above once you get her# again.

Start by getting her#. That way you can get to know her and possibly start to make an impression on her.

Good job Nooxie! Im proud of you! =D>

"Things I like to do that I'm good at are solitary things." Solitary things like what??? Playing cards??? There are tons of card tournaments that you could get involved in. Im writing because I've been there, so I know. The 1st thing you have to do is gain confidence. Your level of confidence and how you carry yourself make a HUGE impression on how women see you. Someone gave me the best piece of advice a while back. They said "How can you ever expect to meet anyone if you dont talk to anybody." Start off simple. Just smile and say "hi" to people when you do something as simple as go to the store (start with the cashier). Confidence, confidence, confidence!! I can't stress this enough. You'll never get anywhere if you cant get the confidence to say "Hi" to somebody.

You obviously have to learn that what a woman says, and what she does are two totally different things.

How old is your sis? If she's older than you, she should be able to help you out with this stuff assuming she's already most likely experienced it. OK. advice, 1st is wax. 2nd, you must do something for fun... go to the beach, shop, etc.? These are excellent places to meet guys. Go out, smile a lot, have fun, be friendly, and the guys will come up to you. Wearing something really attractive also works miracles.

The best way to meet people naturally, is to find something you like to do and that you're good at, and be the best at it. People will flock to you, girls and guys. If you play baseball, be the best baseball player in the league and everybody will want to get to know you and hang around you. You can create your own opportunity in bars/clubs or even just doing your normal everyday activities. But to use this method you have to make an effort. If you go to a bar, try and talk to people and meet somebody new. Even if it's another guy, that guy has friends that knows other girls (networking). Dont just hang around your friends that you came with all night.

Agreed.

Next time he calls you at work you tell him "you cant talk to him right now cause you're BUSY at work", and that if its about your taxes to take it up with your mutual friend who's been handling everything for you till now. Problem solved. Even if he really does have to talk to you personally, you tell him that you're busy and you'll have to call him back. DO NOT TALK TO HIM when he calls. If he is trying to play mind games with you, this will put a crimp in his game and turn things around so that you're in control.

Hate to break it to you bro, but this girl is playing you. You asked for her# but she said for you to give her yours instead..... Hello?! Keep up hope, maybe she will call, but I wouldnt bet on it.

yep.