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Ahhhhh maaaan... I was ready to jump for joy. You should've made the move right then. The girl was as good as yours. She was all over you. You'd better make your move next time. There's no excuse anymore. NONE.

See, going to the movies or a restuarant is totally different from a bar because a bar is a social atmosphere. You really cant talk during a movie, and you cant jump from table to table in a restaurant trying to meet people. In a bar things are different because it's conducive to social interaction. Some bars are so popular and packed with so many people that I doubt you'd be able to tell if somebody was there by themselves.

A lot has to do with how long they've been friends and how close they are to one another.

I still dont think you have to go all out and tell her how you feel just yet. Just get her # Thurs and keep in touch with her. Let the relationship build and you might have a shot. But you have to ask for her #. There are no excuses this time. NO EXCUSES!!!

I dont know why somebody would make something like that up. But if she did make it up then I suggest you run away quick. Any girl who would play those kind of mind games is not somebody you want to deal with.

What beach is this?? I can think of only 2 places in the u.s. that can live up to that reputation, and I'm living in one of them. I dont think where somebody lives means a whole lot, unless of course they live at the playboy mansion. If you are worried, then you should be worried everytime he steps out the door because there are good looking girls everywhere, not just at the beach.

Would you?

So I take it this means things are going well with "you and Adam"??

Lol. Well said. I mean come on bro. Do you really want to live like this? Having to to screen all her calls and everything she does to make sure she's not cheating on you? If there's no trust the relationship is doomed. You go ahead and believe whatever you want to believe. I feel sorry for you.

How in the world did you let her turn this whole situation around on you? You've let her make you believe that this breakup is all your fault and that had you done things differently you two would still be together right now. Well I dont buy it, and from the looks of things she's the one who holds most of the blame for this breakup. For whatever her reasons, she decided that she was not happy in the relationship anymore. Once that happens, there isnt anything you can do to change it. But that doesnt mean that it's your fault. She may have felt that she just grew appart from you. I dont think you should have to appolagize for it.

Do you not have any self control? Have you ever heard of the words "no" or "I have a boyfriend"?? We need more girls like you in this world. No guy would ever get rejected or be alone, so there would be no need for forums like this.

You just answered your own question. Just tell him the truth, that you and Adam are back together. How he chooses to handle the information is his problem. If he doesnt want your friendship anymore, then he was never really your friend to begin with.

As if wearing a ring would make a difference.

What??? How do your parents force you to hook up with somebody you dont want to? And how would you embarrass your parents by telling these guys that you're not interested in them? You're 19yrs old. Do you let your parents make all your decisions for you? And what the hell does "destricated" mean? I dont have my dictionary with me.

I dont mean to bring you down bro, but that is one of the saddest attempts of trying to ask a girl out that I've seen. Hear I say "one" of them, believe it or not I've seen worse. Couple of things. For one, you need to be confident when you ask somebody out. What you said made you sound VERY unsure of yourself. Not only that, you gave WAY too much unnecessary information. You're not talking to her in person, so all that needed to be said was something to the effect of "hey, we really should get together and hang out some time." I think you went too far suggesting places to go before you even knew if she was going to say yes. 2nd, you dont need to explain yourself unless she ask you to. Doing so only makes you come accross as less confident. That last part of your message where you say "as friends so no pressure" That's the ABSOLUTE WORST thing you can say when you ask somebody out. When you say something like that, it automatically takes the assertiveness out of your message (another sign of lack of confidence). I know what you're thinking. You think that when you add in a line like that, it takes the pressure off both you and the girl (you, because in a sense you're not really asking her out anymore. The girl, because she doesnt have to feel like its anything formal and that you two are just hanging out as friends). In reality all it does is show the girl your lack of confidence, and makes her less likely to go out with you. Keep this stuff in mind for the future. Also, just because she didnt respond may not mean she did so on purpose. Are you sure she was there when you sent her the message? Maybe she left her pc for a while and then came back later after you had already left?

What your friends have been telling you about this guy is right. He is only going to use you. If you dont want to be used, then move on and forget about him.

Im going to skip over the 1st part of your question because that's almost impossible to answer. As far as you wanting to know "what a girl has to do on a 1st date to get a guy hooked." Basically just show that you are interested and make it clear. Im sure you should know how to do this.

Well then that changes things. Go, have a good time. Just be a friend.

If you dont feel comfortable, then dont go. I dont think she'd have a problem if you told her you thought it best you not go because you think it might be too uncomfortable for you.

Like I said. They are all going to tell you the same thing. You're doing this to try and help guys out, but nobody gets helped if they're not being honest in their responses.

Well, Im 25 so I cant speak for 13yr old boys. Everyone know what kind of looks attract the guys. So besides that, guys want a girl that is willing to bend over backwards for them. Willing to do whatever, whenever to please her man. Well at least that's what I want.

Do you really think you're gonna get a truthful answer on this one?? I mean honestly. Every woman will tell you what she wants in a man to the T, yet we all know her words mean very little because her actions dont back it up. Be prepared for a lot of B.S. answers on this thread.

You should be able to find out if he likes you by how he acts around you when you spend time together. No need to use a spy. If you've been talking to him online, then you must know some things he likes to do. Just see if he wants to do one of those things. If you really want to go to the movies with him, if you're good you can try and trick him into asking you. Then you will know that he most likely likes you too. Next time you speak to him just bring up the fact that you really want to see "whatever" movie, but you cant find anyone to go with you. But you're just dying to go. (**hint, hint**) Im willing to bet he volunteers himself on the spot.

Why didnt you just ask for her #? She seemed to be pretty comfortable with you. I dont see why she wouldnt have given it to you. I just dont get it. You had perfect opportunity when you were walking with her in the parking lot. Now the pressure will be on Thurs night, if in fact you ever see her again.