Agent47

I desperately want to know how your mall venture works out. I went yesterday and had no success. But then again I didnt try to approach anyone. But if your approach works, then I guess I'll go back and try that route.

I cant adopt that attitude. I just cant be around all that action and not do anything. And wait for them to come to me? I know for a fact that's not happening.

Me either. Im gonna have to become a monk if things dont turn around for me soon.

I guess this means that in 5yrs I'll be selling all my possessions and moving to Tibet to become a monk. If I cant play, I figure I might as well just take myself out of the game.

Come join the club bro. There are so many people in our boat that Im surprised it's still afloat.

I can't go to a restaurant by myself, I just cant. It's depressing. But ironically, the few times I've had to do it, I ended up with a really cool waiter (or on one special occasion a Swedish waitress) to keep me company. I still want to kick myself for not hooking up with that waitress. Now, I'll go to the movies by myself. I actually prefer to do so because you dont have somebody whispering in your ear the entire time while you're trying to enjoy the movie. But I'll only do this during the daytime to catch the matinee. I wont go by myself at night. That would be really depressing.

If this is true I will definitely try going to bars alone. I think you have a point here. If you just hang around the friends you came with all night, you're not really going to meet anybody. Its not like you can have your friend hold your hand while you're trying to talk to a girl.

Question... If a guy goes to a bar or club by himself would that make him more or less attractive to girls there? I would tend to think less because the girls would probably be thinking "what a looser, this guy is here by himself." But then again it could also be a good thing because the girls might think you're more approachable since you're not surrounded by a group of your friends. Which may make them more likely to approach or flirt with you. Anybody have any experience going to bars alone? Im interested to know how it worked out. If I can get a females perspective here about what you think when you see a guy at a bar by himself, that would be great.

Hey, I know how you feel. I cant remember the last time a girl talked to me. But, I dont think you should be too worried right now. You're only 16. I didnt have my 1st girlfriend until I was 18. I had opportunites before then, but I chose to turn them down... for my own stupid superficial reasons. When you're single in highschool it's bad, but when you're single in college it's tourturous. It can really mess with your mind.

Yeah, I understand what you're saying. It's just that when you feel like you dont have a chance with a girl, then you've already defeated yourself before the girl even has a chance to reject you. Maybe I'm relying too much on my looks. Maybe I just need to stop doubting myself and just go for it. Easier said than done though. And for the record, no, I've never used heroine or anything like that. Just anabolic agents.

Im kind of in the same boat as you. But my problem is that I haven't given up. This has driven me to do some rather extreme(some might consider dangerous) things. You can read my story if you like. I never wanted to get involved in some of the things I have, but its the only way I know to get the kind of life and attention I've always wanted.

Thanks for the advice guys. Maybe I am making too big a deal out of the way I look. But it's just that I feel so self conscious when I try to talk to girls Im attracted to. My mindset is just like "why would a girl that hot be interested in me when there are so many people physically better than I am?" The only way I know how to change my mindset would be to actually be the guy that's physically better than everybody else. I dont know what else to do. To JonnyG... I do use some creatine, I think it's somewhat usefull. I dont really believe in prohoromones. Im sure some of them probably work, but I feel if you're going to mess with your horomone levels to the point where you need to take something to control estrogen, then you might as well take something that you know for sure is going to give you the results your looking for.

Hi, Im new here. I feel somewhat better knowing that there are other people out there that feel as bad as I do. However, I think my situation is a little bit different than most. At this point, its pretty much safe to say that Im a looser. All of my friends except my one best friend live in other countries(I attended school in Europe for a few yrs). The last friend I had here moved back home after finishing college last semester, so now I have no one to hang out with anymore. My one best friend, who I talk to by phone(he doesnt live in the same state as me) a few times a week is the only person I have, with the exception of my parents. If it wasnt for that I would have absolutely no social interaction whatsoever. So basically for the past six months I've been living like a hermit alone in my apt. Despite all of this, what gets me the most depressed is that Im still single. I havent had a relationship with a girl in years. Not even as a friend. At this point I just want to meet somebody. Problem is the only opportunity I really have to meet anyone would be at a bar or something, but I feel so uncomfortable going to a place like that by myself. Those places are so superficial. They're all about lust, which is based solely on looks. So unless you're a really good looking guy, you've already got one strike against you when it comes to meeting girls there. Now I've had girls approach me before, and I've even had some tell me that I was very good looking, but I dont know if I can believe them. Im so self conscious about my looks, and I know that physically I cant match up to a lot of other guys out there. Ive come to the conclusion that in order for me to gain the self confidence needed to meet girls, that I need to obtain the perfect body. At least then I'll know that Im more attractive physically than 90% of the other guys out there. That way, if I go up to a girl and she's not into me, it definitely wont be because of my looks. Which I can handle. I just cant handle being rejected solely because a girl is not physically attracted to me. Turn to the dark side... Well, my quest for the perfect body has given me a mentality that is probably not a healthy one. I've turned into someone who's determined to have the perfect body at whatever cost. This is what has driven me to drug use. When your a 6'1'' 140lb skinny wimp, it's very discouraging to bust your *ss in the gym every week to little or no avail. At 1st I was just dabbling with the drugs, but as I learned more and more, I realized that I had to use more and more to get to where I wanted to be. Now what Im doing would easily be known as drug abuse. Im now spending thousands of dollars on drugs in order to feel better about myself. I dont know why Im telling all this. I guess because I feel I have no one to talk to about this. I told my friend about my drug use when I 1st started(the one I talk to by phone). But he thought it was just a one time thing(he wasnt too fond of the idea). He doesnt know that Im still using, and I dont feel comfortable talking with him about it anymore. I really feel like nobody really cares anyways. I hope that maybe I can talk to some people here about my situation. Am I wrong for thinking the way I do? For feeling that I have to look a certain way to be accepted? I guess I'm a sad case, but it just sucks so much being alone that Im willing to do almost anything to feel wanted. Anyways, feel free to comment and degrade my life some more as I'm sure everyone is just waiting to flame me. But I guess at least someone would be talking to me.