scpublius

First off, thanks to everyone who posted a reply. Your feedback is appreciated. However (in specific response to what a number of people have suggested) I don't think that I particularly lack confidence. I have absolutely no trouble starting up conversations with women (I actually enjoy it immensely) and my personality can be downright forceful at times. (For example, I asked three girls for their e-mails/phone numbers today, and got all three...) I can't be certain that I come accross as confident, but I doubt that I come accross as the opposite either. Still I wonder if I'm approaching women in such a way that it causeses them to rapidly chuck me into the 'friend' category. Anyway, more for you folks to chew over.

I've never had much luck with dating. I've generally chalked it up to the fact that I'm short (5'6) and not especially attractive (not ugly, but at the same time not Brad Pitt). However today I had a very interesting conversation with a friend of mine who is tall, good looking, has a personality very similar to mine, and, as it turns out is himself going through a considerable dry spell. Basically the fact that we're in the same boat has me reconsidering the possibility that I might just be approaching dating in the wrong way. I'm hardly a shut in (outgoing, talkative, witty, very intelligent, etc). I hit it off very well with a lot of people in general, and I am by no means afraid of women, but I tend to get the feeling that they aren't sexually attracted to me. Of course this sort of thing could just be my imagination, and my approach may be such that it lends itself to me being shunted into the 'friend' column pretty quickly. I basically try to go out and have good conversations with interesting people, and see where things go from there... (Oh and for what it's worth I am a nice guy, but I'm also not a throw rug who eagerly discusses his emotions at the drop of a hat.) So far this has generated numerous interesting conversations, and plenty of friends, but very little chemistry. (I also don't rush into these sorts of things; I don't meet a girl on monday, and ask her out on tuesday, etc.) Bottom line is that I don't go out and gratuitiously hit on everything with a skirt. So, to sum up, I'm basically wondering if I'm doing something obviously wrong (granted I haven't given you a hell of a lot to go off of), or if I simply had the bad luck to be born with a serious dating handicap. Any feedback or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. PS: Oh, and don't worry about sugar coating answers; I realize that I most posters (very naturally) don't want to offend/depress others, but I can always tweak my personality, and even with height I suspect that between cosmetic surgery and biotech I'll be able to add a couple of inches sooner or later. Thanks again.

The potential upside of this (a good solid relationship) is better than the downside (an awkward two minute phone conversation). Go for it.