Biffy

Hey bro, Nasty situation you're in and I can relate in a sense that I work with my ex so we constantly bump into eachother. You can mentally prepare yourself for an encounter, work out exactly what you will say and how you will say it but it's difficult to control your body language and tone, especially in a high-stress situation. It's a given that women are better at reading body language than men so you will almost inevitably betray yourself when you try to stop yourself from showing how you're feeling. If you're sure that this relationship is over, then there is no point going over old ground. Make a promise to yourself to not discuss the past with her, and try to limit contact with her as much as possible. Other than that, there's not much else you can do. Distraction is key here. Try to get out as much as possible - maybe work colleagues you can do something with? Bowling, a sport of some description. IS there any interest you'd like to pursue that you've never got round to? If so, are there classes you can take? For example, I started doing a martial art called Krav Maga and I really enjoy it... Actually, why not join me! It's on Regent Street, Monday nights. You can take your frustration out on us! Plus there's a smothee joint just round the corner.

Hey bro, this is what struck me the most from your post. As far as I remember from other threads you are in NC with the ex, so how do you know that she's talking/ flirting with your friends? If they are reporting back to you about her, giving updates etc tell them not to. I work with my ex and had the same problem with mutual colleagues, having them constantly referencing my ex, trying to pry info to report back to my ex... The ones I am reasonably close to I told them not to talk to me about my ex and not to talk to her about me. I suggest you have this chat with your friends.

Hey Orlander, Don't know if you've read DiggityDogg's Guide to Successful Dating, for Men but if not, have a read and if you haven't... have a read. Flowers are a bad idea.

If it were me, I think I'd reply pretty bluntly to the effect of: "Why do you want to keep reading my blogs?" And leave it at that. It's not rude, just direct.

I understand where you're coming from but if my ex was a student she'd get an F at best. I seriously don't think she learned a thing from our relationship/ break up. More fool her though as I've learned so many precious life lessons and I wouldn't swap the experience (the dumping) for anything.

I agree with Wilhelmm also a lot of these girls have daddy issues.

There is a book my friend was reading that had little exercises in that help improve ones memory, he said it worked. I'd tell you the name of it but I've forgotten it.

I disagree about the texting - to me that says the person is too shy to talk. Orlando (rightly so) is being confident, he should keep that up.

No don't say that bro unless it's in a joking manner. Give her a call, keep it short and sweet - make her laugh and then arrange a drink or something. Tell her you can only meet for a couple of hours or so because you've never met anyone from the internet before and she could be a fruitloop or the photos on her profile could be decades old. Don't take it seriously, just have fun and let her know that by your tone, attitude and body language.

Plus you want to give the impression that you're a busy, popular dude (not saying you're not Orlando) and that weekends are too precious to spend on first dates.

Well you're young and maybe a little naive. Get a guy to prove his worth before you sex him.

Good thing too, that makes them unnavailable. Who wants to be with a girl that wants to be with a jerk anyway?

I used to date a girl that did this... Can be quite annoying I find, an hour in to it and you're exhausted and you're trying to stop yourself from popping the protein so to speak and you find out afterward that she was doing the same!

Ha. I have a friend who has reasonable success when he flips a statement like this. For example "What's a girl like you doing in a nice place like this?"