beejy04

Hey, my girlfriend is a virgin, and would like to stay that way. she also isnt comfortable with me going down on her. is it possible for me to get her to orgasm using only my finger??

thanks buddy, ill do that.

man o man. My girlfriend became good friends with this guy when we first got back together, she thinks hes the hottest thing in the world, and he drives a nice car, they talk all the time on the phone and text eachother and he gives her a ride sometimes. it bothers the hell out of me but i know shed never cheat on me and she probably just hangs out with him cause every other girl thinks hes hot and she needs to show that shes popular. women are complicated. i would trust your girl if i were you. but you make the decision, just tell her how you feel.

I definitely agree with Mar. GIVE HER TIME TO OBJECT. if anything that is the best way to go. while making out with her. spice things up by laying down at first, then maybe suck on her bottom lip a little bit, and then maybe start caressing her ear area. then kiss her neck and jawbone. kiss her ear area, but dont tongue it man, thats a little too much. just give sweet little kisses all over her cute little face and then move down a bit to maybe her collar bones. Now, with my girlfriend, it was her first experience like this o f any kind, i was 16, so was she. now. she actually helped place my hand around her breast region one time while we were making out. but for you, i suggest rubbing her tummy a little bit, and slowly slowly move your way up. just let her know that youre wanting to try new things. go over her bra at first. under the bra maybe a little awkward because it may be dificult to maneuver up under there. just slowly move your hand accross her breasts and if she likes it, then keep going. maybe you should stop here and wait for anyother time to continue, take it slow man. let her know you care about her. she already knows you want to explore her body. now the next time shouldnt be as difficult. just do everything over again and this time, start working your fingers under her bra from the top. those underwires are a PAIN. Now, if you make your way to her nipple, be very gentle. I personally love breasts and i love to kiss them and they are very sensitive from what i have gathered. Just take it slow man and you should be fine. oh, and, if youre comfortable enough, talk about it before hand. i never talked about it cause it wasnt a big deal, but we talked about everyhting else rom that point on.....good luck buddy.

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OK. I am 18, a senior in high school, and have been with this girl for almost a year and two months. Now, heres where it gets complicated.... December 2002, i started to become interested in one of my not-so-close friends from school. We used to hang out once in a while but were still shy around eachother. Well we started hanging out over Christmas break and one thing lead to another and boom, we were a couple. I was the first person she had ever even kissed. We were both 16 then and very very happy together. As the months passed, I told her that I loved her. She was so excited and she told me the same. We were fine and everything was going perfect, until she met a guy from the Private School in town (her house is right accross the street from the college campus.) She went with her friend one night to hang out with this guy and his friend, she said it was because she wanted to make new friends and she thougth he was fun. Well, i hated it more than anything, knowing that he wanted one thing from the girl i loved. But I told her that i didnt care if she hung out with him, keep in mind, through this whole relationship, i have treated her with the utmost respect and gave her all of my trust. Well, not even a week after meeting this fellow, she broke up with me. It was the first day of my senior year in high school, and also our 10 month anniversary. This came out of nowhere, she told me that in order for her to realize her true feelings for me, she had to date other people and see what life without me was like. I told her that i understood, and the first week was horrible, i mean, i go from thinking i have the greatest girl in the world, and having all of this love for such a pure hearted, beautiful, funny amazing girl.....and then it was over, just like that. I called her a couple days after our break up and she said that she just needed time and space. So i gave it to her. I didnt really have a conversation with her for about a month, then one night i heard about her and that college guy, and how he tried stuff with her and she pushed him away.....how naive can she be? He never called her back. Now I blame a llot of her bad decisions on her best friend, who is the most selfish person i know and cares about nobody besides herself of course. Anyways, she calls me on a saturday night and is bawling and telling me how much she misses me and how we used to be, and she realizes she cannot be happy without me, she tells me that she listens to our song, and how everything in her life reminds her of me. This was very startling considering that same night I promised myself that i would move on and stop waiting around for something that is not going to happen. Well, the next day we went to a movie and back to her house, I kissed her, she wanted it. It was PERFECT. It felt so good, i think it was the happiest moment in my life. I thought we were a couple again. Well the following week we talked and she explained that we were still just friends and she was going to homecoming dance with another guy because she couldnt tlel him no after he had already made reservations and everything. I tried to understand, but it hurt. She acted like nothing happened all the way up until homecoming. Well, HC night, she and I danced together once, but it was difficult being we both went with other dates. The night before we talked about how we were going to get back together once HC was over with and it was set. Well after the dance she got drunk at a party and ended up playing a card game where she was in nothing but her thong and was making out with a kid that used to be my friend. The next day I found out. She called me that night as i was with my friends at stake n shake because she dicked me and they felt bad. I todl her that she didnt deserve me. that i never did anything wrong to her, and for her to act so selfish wasnt fair. the girl i knew would never even let someone see her naked, even though sshe said that she was covered up the whole time and she didnt even want to play. Well i had always admired her for not acting like some of her slutty friends who only like to party and make athemselves look like a bunch of hos. So you see, the girl that wouldnt even let me see her naked, after 10 months, does it for a guy she hardly knows.....not to mention we had just talked about getting back together the night before. well, that following day i called her and we met. I told her the only way it could work is if we put EVERYTHING behind us, and started fresh. We did, we have been together ever since. I have built up a good level of trust again. She regrets more than anything what she did to me. but she still does things that she knows i dont like. She goes to the Frat house at the college and dances with all the drunk college guys, but she has stopped going because i told her that i wouldnt be with her if she did that anymore, she understood. Everything was just ok until lately. Up until this point i havent told her that i loved her again, even though i love her with all o my heart, i never stopped loving her. She doesnt tlel me either, but now she tells me that she wants us to be closer emotionally. What does this mean? On valentines day i gave her a dozen pink roses and a card and it said how much she meant to me and that i loved her. this took a lot of guts, you have no idea. When she got the card, she cried and it was a happy cry. THat night i think she wanted me to tell her to her face that i loved her, because she ketp stalling and woulndt get out of my car. does this girl love me? things have just been getting better, and im starting to fall deeper for her. Am i setting myself up to get hurt? Just to prove that im in it for everythitn, we used to mess around maybe once a week. We havent been physically frisky with eachother for about 2 months now. We have messed around maybe 2 or 3 times since october. i asked her why and she told me that she wanted to be emotionally attached before we started doing that again. we are both still virgins and the last time i asked her, she said that she didnt want the emotional attachment that came with losing her virginity to me "thanks to her skanky friends who lost their virginity to a couple of assholes, she now thinks that only bad can come of making love to your boyfriend for the first time" i would never think about hurting her, her friends were hurt by their boyfriends, but i wouldnt think o fit. about a week ago, she aske dme if i wondered why we never have sex. i told her that i knew her life was stressful and i didnt want her to worry about it. i told her that i was ready, but if she wasnt then i dont want it to happen, because then its for all the wrong reasons. i never asked her how she felt. how does she feel HOW DOES SHE FEEL!?!?!? i dont want to go to college a virgin. Mostly, i want to lose it to her because i love her. she is still so pure in my mind, shes perfect, nobody would ever treat her as good as i do. she has no idea how cruel guys can be. i just want to protect her from everything bad. when i leave for college i think we are prolly gonna say goodbye to eachther for good. but i dont know. Please help me PLEASE HELP MEEEEE!!!! im going nuts o.O

Ok, this all started when my girlfriend of 8 months said we needed to take a break because we were getting so seroius, she had never dated before and wanted to make sure she really had feelings for me. Now, I think she just broke up with me for this college freshman that lives like a block away from her at his dorm. She met him and dumped me not even a week later and started hanging out with him a lot. now, her best friend who just came out of nowhere is the one who got her to do all of this and now shes ditching her all the time. I talked to her last night at a football game and it was nice. we talked for maybe half an hour and then I just left because i didnt want her to think that i wanted her back just yet. her friend told me how she is always talking about how this guy is so hot and plays soccer and everything but he hasnt made a move on her.....now, shes a junior in high school and hes a freshman in college. she just tells everyone they are really good friends. now, i already know that she dumped me to make herself available to him, and if anything does happen between them then i wont take her back but im wondering if i should even take her back right now if she wanted to come back......does it even seem like she wants me back??

I am sorry as well....i hope you have luck in the future, i will pray for you tonight.

He has a sickness.....yes, blame him, but hes not the psychotic child molester everyone says he is. Yes, he definitely needs help and he should NOT be around the other kids. Its best to tell your parents even though it is hard. Remember, youre doing this for more reasons than your own. He needs help so make him realize it.....

Ok, My girlfirend and i just broke off a relationship of 8 months not even a week ago......one of my friends just broke off with her boyfriend tonight for the same reason.....we completely understand eachother and im very very very attracted to her but i dont know if she is to me. we arent close friends but we have been in the past, we grew apart. How do i know if she wants to start something new with me? Am i just rebounding? this girl is beautiful and i just want her so bad right now......ive always had a thing for her. what should i do and where could this go?

OK, this all started at the beginning of the summer. my girlfriend and i had been together 5 months and things were getting more seroius because we always were aroudn eachother. i think she started getting sick of me. now, by the end of the summer it was bad, she started meeting this new guy at the college and keep in mind shes 16 and im 17, hes 18.....well i got mad at the fact she hung out with him just those two until 1 in the morning, but i really do trust her. im the only one shes ever been with and she broke up with me last wednesday. she said shes going to see other people to figure out if she really loves me. shes still got my pics all over her room and still talks to me at school and called me sunday. i really havent talked to her since but things are ok. shes still seeing that freshman guy but she says they are just friends. what can i possibly do to get her back? i was really clingy after we first broke up cause it was hard fro me....i needed to know what was going on.....i pressured her a lot but she still didnt end it with me, she just told me to wait and see what happens.....i think i have a good chance with her and i sent her this email just now..... Hey there *******.....i was really bored tonight so i was *beep* around in my email and i came accross a folder of all the emails we sent back and forth. You know, i did notice a lot of things. Before we went out and as we were just starting to see eachother, we were really nervous about a lot of stuff lol. and i also noticed how things did get more seroius and how you might have felt about a lot of the things i said. i have been thinking a lot lately and i guess it was just my first long term relationship and i didnt really know what i was talking about. and about you wanting space and to meet new people, i should have completely understood. trust is the basis in any relationship and i just wanted you to know that i did trust you completely. i just felt left out. but thats wrong because we were around eachother so much our feelings were being questioned. i just want you to know that i learned a lot from us and thanks. I know that youre just a 16 year old girl thats about to turn 17 and you havent ever been with anyone else and you need to be with other people because you dont want to waste your teen years being with just one guy. I guess i have been acting kindof selfish about this whole thing but i just didnt understand lol, sorry. I still wanna go to hc with you as friends ok? if you dont want to thats alright, i always have mary to fall back on......but please dont make me go with her!!! i just wanted to tell you these things, this is really what i wanted to tell you sunday night, but we never did have a chance to talk that night. ill just let nature do its thing now and if you feel like emailin me back or callin me, id love to hear from you, but ill give you your space that you deserve. lol i have no idea when you will check this since you NEVER EVER do, but i hope to talk to you sometime soon....sorry if i was pushing you too hard when we first broke up.....it was just hard going from being so close to not even talking for days....i think im getting smarter and smarter about this every day though and i do hope that we work out in the end but if we dont, we can still be friends right? welp i guess ill see you at school. beej was that a good thing to do? what can i possibly do!?!?

Did i mentin i see her every day in 4th hour and we just act like normal friends??

OK, this all started at the beginning of the summer. my girlfriend and i had been together 5 months and things were getting more seroius because we always were aroudn eachother. i think she started getting sick of me. now, by the end of the summer it was bad, she started meeting this new guy at the college and keep in mind shes 16 and im 17, hes 18.....well i got mad at the fact she hung out with him just those two until 1 in the morning, but i really do trust her. im the only one shes ever been with and she broke up with me last wednesday. she said shes going to see other people to figure out if she really loves me. shes still got my pics all over her room and still talks to me at school and called me sunday. i really havent talked to her since but things are ok. shes still seeing that freshman guy but she says they are just friends. what can i possibly do to get her back? i was really clingy after we first broke up cause it was hard fro me....i needed to know what was going on.....i pressured her a lot but she still didnt end it with me, she just told me to wait and see what happens.....i think i have a good chance with her and i sent her this email just now..... Hey there *******.....i was really bored tonight so i was dickin around in my email and i came accross a folder of all the emails we sent back and forth. You know, i did notice a lot of things. Before we went out and as we were just starting to see eachother, we were really nervous about a lot of stuff lol. and i also noticed how things did get more seroius and how you might have felt about a lot of the things i said. i have been thinking a lot lately and i guess it was just my first long term relationship and i didnt really know what i was talking about. and about you wanting space and to meet new people, i should have completely understood. trust is the basis in any relationship and i just wanted you to know that i did trust you completely. i just felt left out. but thats wrong because we were around eachother so much our feelings were being questioned. i just want you to know that i learned a lot from us and thanks. I know that youre just a 16 year old girl thats about to turn 17 and you havent ever been with anyone else and you need to be with other people because you dont want to waste your teen years being with just one guy. I guess i have been acting kindof selfish about this whole thing but i just didnt understand lol, sorry. I still wanna go to hc with you as friends ok? if you dont want to thats alright, i always have mary to fall back on......but please dont make me go with her!!! i just wanted to tell you these things, this is really what i wanted to tell you sunday night, but we never did have a chance to talk that night. ill just let nature do its thing now and if you feel like emailin me back or callin me, id love to hear from you, but ill give you your space that you deserve. lol i have no idea when you will check this since you NEVER EVER do, but i hope to talk to you sometime soon....sorry if i was pushing you too hard when we first broke up.....it was just hard going from being so close to not even talking for days....i think im getting smarter and smarter about this every day though and i do hope that we work out in the end but if we dont, we can still be friends right? welp i guess ill see you at school. beej was that a good thing to do? what can i possibly do!?!?

No kiddin little guy. Actually, lol, im 17 and my most recent girlfriend was 16 and i was 16 when we first kissed. I guess it was sortof romantic, but we were laying on her bed after nights and nights of talking, and finally we were sooo close i said to her, i think im going to kiss you, she replied, i think ill kiss you back, and it happened! she was horrible because i was her first kiss but it was sooo sweet and made me dizzy.

perhaps you ahve a hernia or a strained muscle. sounds to me like you might possible have a hernia, i dont think that you would have an std if the symptoms started right away. ya got your load off right? maybe ya have blue balls sorry.....just drink lots of fluids and dont worry too much.

hey whats up? i think that your problem is common. i trust my girlfriend and yet i get jealous of her talking and doing things with other guys. trust is the basis of a relationship, remember that. especially after five years, you know he wants nobody but you. Now, your jealousy may be not that he will mess around with these girls per say, but that he is spending energy mingling with them and not you. this is how i figured i felt as well. my girlfriend has a close guy friend and she does things with him sometimes. i completely understand how she feels about him. yes, hes attractive, yes, hes older than me, yes, hes got a nicer car.....but she loves me and i trust her. i used to get jealous about how much time she spent with him instead of me. but some people are like that. they tend to feel tied down if they cant talk or do things with people other than their significant other. i think that you should realize how much you mean to him and then think about what hes doing. nothing wrong with how you feel, you cant help it. but just try to put yourself in his shoes from now on. he wants you, only you, youre the most important girl in his life and nobody else is going to matter. as long as you have a healthy relationship, you should be fine. welp theres one reply! beej

Hey, i may still only be 17 but im gong through a similar situation. It could very well be that she is just trying to spread her wings, as i was once told by someone very knowledgable. shes trying to have fun and explore the world of dating. she definitely has feelings for you if shes considering this right now. it sounds to me like shes leading you on, but at the same time, she must care for you or she would just end it. I dont think that they have had sex. if her intention was to wait until she was married, i hardly think she would even consider it with someone like him. rest assured my friend, she is considering your proposal, but perhaps you should spice things up a bit and do something fun! take her somewhere or do something unexpected!

Well, i dont think youre in love. Are you two dating? MAYBE you just are really interested in her. I wouldnt risk hurting your friendship. BROS BEFORE HOS, ya know? that isnt entirely true, but in this case i fear it might be. what is the age of you, your friend, and his sis?

woah woah woah......first of all you have to get her warmed up. Talk to her more often this week and just play it cool. Dont get nervous, and if youre not a funny one, then talk about something semi-serious. if you ahve a liscense thats great. just ask her if she needs a ride somewhere sometime. remember ask like you dont really care if she goes or not. say "so ya need a ride?" dont be like, OH OH OH I CAN GIVE YOU A RIDE!!! play it cool and then ask her if she wants to go to a football game with you or if she needs another ride somewhere. Get a couple friends and hang out with her and her friends, thats the best thing about young age relationships, you have all your friends to comfort you. once you start getting more comfortable aroudn her, go out to eat or to a movie, or just stay at home and watch one. if ya need more advice, PM me

Thanks guys, both of you gave me hope and great advice.....I live in monmouth, also in Illinois, theres only like 12000 people here so its not like a small town, but i still know most girls my age. the kid she is seeing.....i dont even know if he is interested in her, she tells me the truth about what they do and he hasnt made a move on her or anything. me and bre talk sometimes but now i dont call her anymore, i just wait for her to call me, and sometimes she does. im a senior in high school and i just dont want to waste my year waiting around for her. i just dont know when she'll come around, if she does. to tell you the truth, its all started to hurt a lot less lately. I think im starting to get over her....but i havent seen her for a couple days. ill see her tomarrow in school, i have a class with her, and ill just be a nice guy to her. i wont pressure her or anything, and i wont act like a dick and hit on every other girl in the class like i did last week. maybe she'll realize that i really care for her and the other guy doesnt? well thanks anyways guys. ps. should i do something sweet for her birthday even though we are "broken up?"

dear s4il, thanks a lot, that really helped. i am kindof restricted from seeing other people because i know everyone in my age bracket. i live in a small town and so does she, she is seeing a freshman in the local community college.....i cant really find anyone new but i will try to see other girls. thanks a lot for helpin out.

Hey, Mar knows the situation but Im having problems dealing with the jealousy in my half existant relationship with a girl. we recently took a break to date other people after 8 months of nothing but happiness and joy. it was perfect, i treated her like a queen but she needs to date other people to figure out if im the one since we are getting so seroius. how do i deal with the jealousy of thinking about her messing around with other guys?

Ill tell you from experience that if he really cares for you a lot, then he wont do that to you. my girlfriend and i had been together 8 months and she decided to date other people, its impossible for me cause i dont even think of any other girls anymore.....maybe im just a nice guy? dont let him know how much youre stewing about this because it can cause seroius problems and even break up the relationship. have faith, i did and she wants another guy but thats just my luck, if he really cares for you then youre good.

Mar, Today she called me and I told her what i thought about the situation and she started to cry, she gave the phone to her mom, who is really cool and loves me, and her mom and i talked for about an hour. she said that bre is just going through a hard time right now because she does want to be more serious with me but at the same time she doesnt want to go through her teenage years without dating. she explained that bre hasnt ever even kissed another guy before and she wants to be seroius with me, even through college. i want to go to isu which is just further than an hour away, so i would be able to see her every once in awhile, she thinks it will work. so she wants to date a couple people now and get it over with. she doesnt think she could be happy knowing she never dated anyone besides me. her mom also explained that the guy from the college was over to their house last night and all they talked about was her situation with me. she said she turns to him for advice, i dont know if they willl hit it off or not. but bre still has pics of us all over her room too and doesnt plan on taking them down. she also called me today twice and she wants to do something sometime too. now i dont feel so strongly of throwing this all away, sounds to me like theres a good chance for us to work out? lemme hear from ya please, youre really helping me.....besides, how old are you?

Mar, I wish it were true that i could go out and find someone new. We both live in a town of 10,000. Everyone that is in my age bracket I already know and it just wouldnt happen. Ive been so seroius about Breanne, that now I feel nothing for anyone i know. If i could meet some new people it would be a lot easier, but there is nobody new. besides, ive been thinking a lot lately and as much as i want to say its not true, it probably is. You see, she is the kind of person no matter what she hast o do, she will make herself happy above all else. Which isnt wrong per say, but she just doesnt consider others feelings at all. She met this guy a week ago from friday, and she broke up with me not even a week later telling me she needs to date other people for the good of our relationship. translation: if it doesnt work out between her and her new guy, shes got me to fall back on. she was over there the day that she dumped me, that must have been when she decided she did want to be with him instead of me. as much as this hurts, i know its got to be true...she says she wants to talk, she doesnt return my calls, she doesnt show any sign of remorse, its hard to swallow but i think its the truth. i cant let myself be walked on, either i hurt now, or i drag it out and hurt later. am i right?