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Hey Im soooo confused! I met this guy, kevin over x-mas vacation, I had a bit of a crush, but then he had to go home (he lives in oshawa)...and I talked to him a lot more on the phone and computer, and I just started really liking him. But..weird thing is, one minuet i cant stop thinking about him, then the other...I feel like he doesnt like me, or I dont like him anymore.(Ive asked him, and I know he is still interested in me a lot.) I think a lot of the mixed feelings is because he lives away from here, as well as I have trust problems with guys, but...hes so perfect for me, nice, attractive, sweet, funny, and most important to me, he doesnt even care about sex or anything like that. Hes AMAZING. Just, whats with the weird feelings im getting... Can anyone help me out and try and explain what this is? thank you SOO much to anyone who is willing to take the time and help me out Wuddle

Allrigh,well...Girls are probably the most complicating things to try and figure out...trust me, Im a girl..I cant figure my self out sometimes, but what I think you should do...is that..if shes avoiding the questions,its probably because she was either hurt in another relashionship..and is afraid, or shes insecure about something, or she may just not be interested in you that way (if Im wrong, sorry)...I dont know the situation fully like you, but I do know girls like I know a book ive read 7 times. But Its hard being lead on...(flirting, hinting etc) because it seriosly confuses you but Just be straight forward about it...ask her, something like "look...Ive been interested in you for the past year(how ever long its been) and I really like you, (add in some sweet stuff...girls like that) and..I just want to know, can we ever be something more than just friends? I want to share things with you that friends cant do" something like that...how ever you want to phrase it..but get it out of the way hon, no point going on like this Cuz maybe shes waiting for you to ask her. and make sure she cant "avoid" the question...sit her down..seriously ask her this. And if she goes off subject, dont let her get too far...you tell her "answer my question please" ask her what SHE wants to happen..and go from there. Kris (wuddle) hope it helped a little :S

hey ppl, I need advice..bad! This guy..colton, Ive had a crush on him ever since I layed eyes on him!! hes so cute..sweet, funny...just great..accept I hate him. He's lied to me...treats me bad, stood me up twice, said stuff behind my back to a "friend" who was acutally me..I feel like hes playing me..leading me on..hes always flirtatious..and stuff, and makes me believe he likes me a bit..but he doesnt..I dont think so, because he goes out with all these girls...and Im just tired of him treating my like crap...I wrote him a long e-mail telling him to leave me alone etc..how I felt...and I said im done with our friendship etc...and Yet I still thought in my head "PLEASE E-MAIL ME BACK! OR CALL! OR SOMETHING" - - and I dont want that...I cant stop liking him..even though hes a total asshole. ITs like..when I hear his voice, I emdiatly fall right back into "crushing" on him....I cant ever stay mad at him...I took one step..deleting him off my msn..but he can still call me..and god I hope he does...for 3 days straight..ive waited for him to call me...I want to move on..but I think im scared that no other guy will pay attention to me...I hate him so much!!!! yet I still like him a lot...PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME TELL ME WHAT IM SUPPOSE TO DO!!!! Thanks, Wuddle

I need help. by far like big time!! Ive been put in the middle of a situation DIDNT want to be in. My mom and her friend are fighting. See, my mom was telling me how she felt towards her "friend" nancy, and she told me that she has tryed telling nancy how shes felt. so I figured...well nancy allready knew about this so I told nancy what my mom was telling me about her. Nancy got mad, and said..this is enough, and she sent my mom a really angry e-mail...my mom knew I told nancy about what she said, so she got mad at me and started yelling, saying how I always ruin everything when I open my mouth...but I was confused....becuase I didnt knnow why my mom was getting mad if she had allready told my mom about how shes felt....so anyways, my mom yelled at me..and told me I was not alowed to ever go to nancys house anymore..(nancy and I are VERY VERY close, shes like my 2nd mom...and her kids mean the world to me! were like a 2nd family) so I got mad..and the next day I went to nancys to say hi...whatever, and my mom found out and she grounded me.....and was just extremely mad. She told me things about nancy's past, bad things...she told me something that just shocked me....so bad. I couldnt talk....my mom lies a lot about nancy to make me not look up to her anymore, because shes jelouse that I like spending time with nancy more than my mom..because nancy has been there for me more than my mom. so my mom wrote nancy a letter and I had to walk over to give it to her. along with personal belongings of hers left at my house. my eyes were red from crying and crying.....(my mom yelled at me for hours saying how I ruined her life, my brothers life...because I opend my mouth....) It made me go crazy..I really thought I ruined everyones lives. thank god for my friends being there.....they helped me..that night. Anyways....one of the things my mom told me about nancy was that nancy got my mom to steal something from one of her clients (she works in nursing and peoples homes) and when my mom did it, nancy used this "thing" my mom stole. I didnt know what to think....this "thing" could put both of them in jail....so I was freaking out...and my mom said she never used this thing she took..just nancy. Nancy found out that my mom told me about this "jail" serious thing. and nancy asked me if I believed my mom that she actually did this "illegal" thing. and I just told her I didnt want to get into it...and I just didnt know..(as I didnt..I meen, its impossible to know)....the only two people that know the truth are her and my mom...and until one fessis up, its a unsolved mysterie....anyways, nancy's b.f called me and said that nancy didnt want to see me until I made a choice..until I took sides...either her side or my moms side. I couldnt handle it...I started to cry. because basically if I take my moms side I could be siding with someone who did something illegal and is telling LIES about someone I love to try and make me hate her...If I side with nancy then I might be siding with a criminal....and I cant live happy without nancy and her kids, thier my life....and I dont know what im suppose to do!! who do I choose? what do I do...? im so lost...I dont want to loose nancy, but what if shes lying? I havnt smilled in 3 days straight. I havnt stoped crying. I cant handle this...im 15 years old, and ive been shuved into a hateful circle, ive been put in the middle and I cant get out without choosing a side...and that I dont know if I can do....is there anyone that can help me! I need someone! I need someoen to tell me what do to! Im a human being...I wasnt made to handle all this. please help me...anyone. wuddle.

Allright. There is Xavier, and Colton. Thier both Great. I knew Xavier first. and I liked him first..and he likes me. BUT then I met Colton and hes great to..and I like him now..but I like Xavier also...Heres the thing. Xavier..flirts with every girl...he said how much he likes me...but h flirts with my friend infront of me..youd think Id ditch him. but I cant. hes so sweet..and I really like him..hes kinda different now. he knows how I feel about the flirting..when he likes him. and he doesnt do it much anymore. we had this romantic sene in a park! it was so pritty..sky..at night.Great. THEN theres colton. Hes sweet..cute, funny, just..I met him at a bazarr and I never really had a conversation with him..we just exchnaged numbers and for about 1 month and a half weve been talking on the phone and stuff..we were supposed to get together a few times but it always ended up messing up and we never saw each other. I really like colton..hes a sweety...he lives in the same town as me..and Xavier doesnt..he lives like 10 min away..Ottawa (I live in a town outside ottawa) so we might not see each other occasionaly. but I do like them both! is there anything I can do to see who truly likes me..or ANYTHING to help me decided who I can choose..dont say like "who ever is the nicest" type thing. because they are both great. and they each have great personality's and its extremly hard to choose. plx help me!! Wuddle

Hi, Im wuddle, I met this guy Colton at a bazarr, and when he walked in the door, I saw him and I was like "hes cute" and my moms friend nancy, she said she would put a good word in for me, so she actually went up to him and started talking to him. I was happy..yet embarrassed..but the worse is yet to come, she started walking over to me WITH him beside her..I just turned red! I was like nooooooooooo and at the time I was selling hotdogs to help out for he school, and he bought a lemonde..and I was so nervous..and it was just aukward..anyhow he eventually left..and I was kinda sad..I didnt think Id ever see him again..and then, later on I walk over to nancy and im like "I wont ever see him again and I turn around and hes there!! I was sooo happy! and then nancy told me something that was just crazy, and she sais "look, chelsey(her 6yr old daughter) is talking to Colton..right the I was like oh im dead..this is gunna be bad! and then she comes over pulling his arm and shes like "Kristin, I told him you wanted to go to a movie with him...I started laughing, and turning red!! and then the little girl said "but he wants to give you his number!" and we exchanged numbers..and I found out he lived in the same town as me..and now...my problem, I havnt seen him since the bazarr..and we never had a conversation face to face..only on the phone and msn..so its really nerv recking..and hes so sweet!! he said he loves my eyes and that there shining blue, and really glowing..hes great..but Im not sure if he just wants to get into my pants or what..I DOUBT it..I reallly do, but I dont want to mess ths up like I did with my x..seeming easy..what do I do tonight!! HELP!!!

Hey everyone..Well I am in Cadets, and I met this guy names Xavier..I hated him at First, becuase I thought him to be imature and all..But I deceided to play with his head..you know, flirt with him, play with his mind..Just to mess with him..then I started likeing him..And, One day I evenatually kissed him, and now Im totaly sure I like him, a lot. He's asked me out numerous of times, and I just wasnt sure..And now that I know I like him, hes not sure!!! tables have turned..Does he know I was palying with his head before I did like him for real?? is he doing what I did to him, to me?? Im soooo confused...Hes nice and everything, but there is just one problem..HES A PLAYER...He asked me out, in class at Cadets one day, this was before I kissed him..and I was like "When we kiss Ill know If I will go out with u" and he turned around and started touchimg my friends (as a joke) and flriting and stuff..I meen he just asked me out, and hes flirting with other girls and stuff...I dont know..I like him so much..but what if he cheats on me..I know he most likley wouldnt, and hes aloud to flirt with others girls becuase we wernt going out..But will he still go that if we WERE going out?? I seriously need advice on this..Hes a major player..and if any gurl was to throw them selves on him, he would gladly accept..But most guys would right? see how confusing this is..Im not sure if he likes me..or might be "liking" me to get in my pants...And I talked to him about it, and he said " NO!! Im not that type of guy!!! no where close to that" and he argued his way into my heart..I just worry about cheating, and stuff..Allthough hes sure he would never..WHAT DO I DO!!!!?!?????!?!?!?! Plz, help me!!! Thanks, Wuddle

I have a very off hobbie. See ever since My x boyfriend broke up with me, after using me sexualy..Im always thinking about making out, I love it. Before I would never of been making out as a hobbie! but now, Its like Ill just do it for fun! How can I makeout with people, or whatever without seeming like a slut. I must sound very weird? If there is anyone else out there who Likes making out as much as I do. write back a response! Thanks Wuddle.

ok, heres my story, see My friend tyler, who I met on the net, wants to meet me, and Im want to meet him. Now the problem is hes going to stay at my house, my mom doesnt mind, but Im kinda nervous. See my mom doesnt have a lot of money, were not wealthy, and Ill be totaly embarrassed if he comes, and theres like no food or something, like hes used to..and he said he wont come if he cant stay ot my house. cause he doesnt know anyone where I live, so he has to stay with me! and I dont wanna tell him that we might not have loads of food like hes used to! I REALLY dont know what to do! I EXTREMLY want to meet him, its been 3 years, and I just dont know what to do. and I WONT talk to him about it. there has to be a different solutuion?? HELP WANTED!!!! Wuddle!!

Everything started last summer, I was camping with My moms friend, her kids, her friend and her kids, it was all fun and stuff, anyhow, her Friend's boyfriend James he's 35, and we were on the other side of the road at the park, at the camp ground. and He and I were watching all 4 kids playing around at the park, and James was playing kinda tag, or whatever, so I was going along, and I was standing on a birdge part or the park structure, and It was like a bunch of wholes everywhere on what I was standing so basically if u were standing under it u could look up and see the sky clearly. So I was standing there, and James comes by standin under it, I guess waiting for me to get down so he can tag me. And I was wearing a skirt..and he was looking up it...he wasnt moving, he was just looking, so I noticed that and I walked off the bridge, and I said Im going back, and I went back to the camp site where My moms friend was and her friend, and I didnt bother saying anything about it. I just kinda let it go. that was a year ago. Now this year, everything has fallin apart! It started again..not only the looking, but the saying and touching.Well, every time I saw him he would always be looking at me, and we were in the kitchen, and Kevin (my moms friend's boyfriend) was int eh basement so It was just us and 4 other kids, the kids were in the living room, so James *wishpers* to me "You know, your very beautuful" and "you look really good with your hair down" but if he didnt mean anything accept a compliment, why did he whisper it and hide it? so I was getting uncomforatble, so I went into the living room and I sat down with a book while the kids watched a movie, then James comes over and sits beside me, its a love couch so there is only room for the 2 of us, so were sitting there, and he sais to me "stretch your leg out" and Im like "what?" so I stretch it out, and hes like "no no, stretch it out over my legs" so I wasnt sure what he was going to do, but I didnt think of it much, and so I did, and he started massaging my foot, and It was very weird, and I didnt wanna say stop cause that would have been rude, and I wasnt sure he ment anything by it, but then, there were points were his hand was just resting on my foot, and he had out his hand in my sock..so I was a little weird, and then Kevin comes in the front door from having a cigarette outside, and he pushes my leg off his legs all worried and all, so If he didnt MEAN anything by it, why was he trying to hide it? so I told Nancy how I was feeling about him, and she got all worried, now were al good friends with Diane (james's g/f) and I didnt wanna tell her, but I had to becuase she was marring him! and so I told her, and she was reaking out so she took him for a walk the day after, or whatever and talked to him, and he said he just thought I was a great girl and all, and was being nice, and he wants to oppologize to me in private, but I dont want to , I dont even wanna see him, I feel so weird and I dont like being around him...and whever we go to the beach everyone, nancy and her kids and james, and stuff, he was always going in the water and grabbing me to throw me in the water and stuff, but he would grab me and pick me up in not good places (breasts) so it was weird. anyhow, I dont know what to do, he wants to oppologize..but I wont be able to be around him! HELP ME HELP ME!! wuddle

hey, people who read my other post "im being used and Im afriad its going to lead to sex :S" well, since that one, Ive writen others about how to tell him its over, but before I could tell him, he broke up with me, well his brother told me for him becuase he was probley to much of a *** to tell me to my face. Well, I feel like crap. I cried and cried yesterday, but NOT becuase its over for us, damb Im glad its over for us, but its just the fact that Ive been used and abused! he got almost everything he wanted accept sex, and then he dumped me. I think he had another g.f, cause everytime I called him, he was always on the other line with "kelly" and he talks to her for hours, everyday, more than weve ever talked our entire relshionship! and so I think that, he used me for his first time experiencing "oral pleasure" then dumped me and went along with Kelly. I feel like a slut, I feel angry, I feel like everything negative, I dont know how to handle it. I dont know if Ill ever be able to trust another guy, or do anything with another guy, without worrieing "is he using me" I just dont know what to do. This is major for me...and I just feel dead at the moment...and my friend talked to me, and told me everything would be ok, but I dont think It will be! Please tell me what I can do to feel better about my self! WUddle.

I want to break it off with my boyfriend. I meen I dont want to, but I have to cause hes using me for sexual favors, now how do I tell him? how do I start??? Im all ready to tell him, and then comes the time, and im there infront of him but I cant tell him cause I get all nervous, and stuff, I need to feel SURE thats its not my fault the relshionship is over, that its all him hes the one using me, waitng 3 weeks until seeing me, and even then, he asked if we were going to "do anything" so until hes sure hes going to get some he wont bother calling me and asking if i wanna do something. Like hellllo! HELP ME! wudlle.

Youll be fine, Sean and u just needed time away from each other, and u got it, now see him on Monday amanda, and ull be as close as hell! u won want to leave each otheres pants lmao! yaya I love u amanda!!

See, my mom and her friend got into a fight and I was really close to my moms friend and all, I babysat her kids and were close, and wht happen was my mom told me I was forbid to see her friend, But I wouldnt listen to her, she cant stop me from seeing her, shes like a 2nd mom to me, and so I went over and saw ehr while my mom was at work, and I wasnt afraid of telling her that I went and saw her, who cares, and my mom cant gruond me cause well, she doesnt know what I do all day, shes at work, and after work she goes to bars, or guys houses. so i told her I went over to her house, and she got mad and said "U like it there pack ur bags and get out" she kicked me out, at 10:30 at night, when there was a rapist on the loose, I waited outside until midnight, in the thunder and rain! I was so mad at her, I went to nancy's house (my moms x friend) and thats why I was outside that long, she had gone out with her kids and they were at a friends house, so she got there and she took me in, for 3 days, my mom had called 2 days after she kicked me out and siad "i excpect you home" I hung up and that was that, eventually I called her and said "i want you to come over to nancy's house and I want you to takl to me and I want a few things to change" she agreeed, we ended up fighting and all so I went in the house and sat down (we were talkign in the backyard) and I was crying, worried, didnt know what to do so nancy came in and she said "why not try it" try to go home, I didnt want to but, I did, I then e-mailed my best friend and she e-mailed me back saying good info of what I should do she said stuff like "who makes me happier" " would my mom go the extra mile to make me happy" and my mom wouldnt, but nancy would! and shes not my mom, nancy has done things for me my mom would never of even thought of! And my mom going out all the time, leaving me and my brother (15, bro 16) at home, he works and is always gone so Im stuck alone at home, so I call nancy and I sleep at her house..My mom is just not a mom to me..and I thought...I could live with nancy if I wanted, she would take me! she told me her self, and part of me didnt like the fact that my mom was changing, she was home most of the time, but that lasted 1 month..not even and in a way I want her to screw up and give me an excuse to live with nancy..I can never have friends over, cause I dont have a family of my own, a regualr sit down and eat together rules type of family, weird to hear from a 15 years old that I want structure and rules, but I do. It makes me feel good and knows I will be able to raise a good family my self...someone please explain why I feel like I want my mom to fail again, why I think of nancy as more of a mom!?? im so confused!! i dont wanna hurt my mom ,but shes hurt me more..AJAJA@?/f HELP

Look, no kidding u dont want to loose your g.f, but oddly enough..if she felt strong for you, she wouldnt want to break it off till u come back..anyhow, your talking about not wanting to loose the girl you love, but think about it your going to college, where there will be thousands more girls..and maybe 50 out of them will be crushing on you, and one of them will get to you. better known as..get in your pants, its very hard for gyus to resist a hot girl, but I believe your love is sp strong that, that couldnt happen. But if u break it off, and go with her plan, then that give you a more non guilty concience to stop you from sleeping with another girl..get it. So talk her out of it. Dont let her break it off, DONT.. cause thats makes things worse, it gives u both easy accces to other people, and if u really love each other your love will be with each other while your appart. U CAN DO IT!! Wuddle