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thank you everyone...routerx, i know there are a lot of people who don't like that people my age have sex, and i understand that because i was one of them. but i've thought about it for a few years now, making sure i won't regret having sex at this age, and i'm okay with it. i don't want to go into this subject any further, because i have a feeling it will turn into a "when to have sex?" debate... EmptySoul

thanks everyone...as far as being on top goes, i'm not afraid to do that. we sometimes fool around with me straddling him etc. i'd heard that it may help for your first time if you're on top...thanks though. EmptySoul

hello everyone... i don't get to see my boyfriend very often because he goes to another school. we're probably going to have sex soon, and i'm a virgin. he knows what he's doing, but many girl friends of mine have been talking about how much it hurts the first few times. i really don't want our first time to be as bad as all my friend's first times were, because if the first time sucks it will be awhile before we can try again. i know, it gets better with practice, but does anyone have any tips to make this as painless and fun as possible for both me and him? EmptySoul

yeah, i already am not too excited about getting on the depo shot considering what everyone has said, my emotions are screwed up enough already, and no sex drive?! the patch was my first choice, but since my mother is the one paying for it, if she wants me to be on the shot instead of something else, it will probably be that or nothing... (she doesn't like that people may see the patch and know i'm on bc, like in the locker room.) EmptySoul

Girls that will expect to get gifts, but don't even consider buying one really bug me. Us girls, i hate to admit, are always trying to make things equal between both sexes, but it seems like as far as the unspoken, and sometimes spoken rules, we make them do a lot more... EmptySoul

hmm... maybe i'll try the shot and if i don't like that, then the patch. i don't want to have to remember to take the pill every day... EmptySoul

oh great! i'm getting on birth control soon, and guess what i'm getting on. The shot! yeah, i saw in the booklet about decreased sex drive, but usually that doesn't mean that everyone who takes it will have those problems! and so many people have said that's what happens now... my other choice was the patch. anyone got things to say about THAT before i do something i'll regret? EmptySoul

i agree with you, to some extent. i think it's kinda nice if someone gets something for you, but i don't think they have to. i'm not one of those girls who's gonna get all pissed at my guy just because he didn't get me a present. just because someone buys something for you, that doesn't truly meant they like you all that much more... EmptySoul

i'm sorry, but i'm not going to sit here and tell you "it's okay, everything's going to get better" because i don't know that. all i can say is that i know how you feel. people on this site who've read my poetry know that i battle with my emotions all the time, anger, depression, fear and a million things i don't even have a name for. you have to find something to live for and go with it, no matter what, because without anything, nothing is going to get better. i survive by believing that things will get better one day, and one day i really will be happy. some days i dont believe it, and that's when i have problems. *sigh* as far as i know we only get one life, so i'm trying to have fun, and enjoy the pleasures of it even if they don't last. sorry if this didn't help. PM me if you want... EmptySoul

atlantacindy, yes, i just meant if my boyfriend wants me to give him one. thanks for the advice everyone. EmptySoul

hello everyone... 1: girls, please tell me anything good or bad about your first time giving head, and what you thought about it. (did you like it, or not?) and any tips. 2: guys, just give me any pointers on what makes a bj better in your opinion, and things a girl shouldn't do when she's giving you one. thanks. EmptySoul

thanks for the advice everyone. EmptySoul

wait 3 MONTHS?! No offense to your parents, but i think we only have one life and we should live it! why wait a week if you're comfortable by then? i would go for it! anyway about french kissing hmmm... just start slow, regular kissing, then slip your tongue in his mouth. just do what you're comfortable with, and watch how he responds. once you get past the first kiss, it's great. 8) EmptySoul

I don't really have a problem with other people doing, but it's not something I'd really want to do. But, if the feeling ever came along, sure why not? EmptySoul

hey- i understand your boyfriend not wanting to make you feel pressured. Like, my boyfriend said he didn't expect sex "unless i wanted to" and has repeatedly made sure i don't feel pressured, but after you told him you don't feel pressured he still said no? hmm... i guess just keep trying, and ask him why he doesn't want you to. Maybe he has another reason. EmptySoul

*whew* thanks everyone lol. EmptySoul

hey everyone. i got a new bf recently, and i really like him. (a lot) when he was over at my house the other day, he noticed the pic of my uncle and his new wife on the radio. my bf asked me why i had a pic of his aunt in my house. so, she's only my aunt through marriage, and i guess my uncle is only his uncle through marriage. my friend keeps joking, saying he's like my 3rd cousin, but my mom says we're not related. the idea of having sex or something and then finding out he was my cousin somehow would be really bad and uh weird. help plz EmptySoul

well, if you have both have previously discussed going through each other's email, and she didn't care, then I would say something to her. That's not really very nice of her, considering she has a boyfriend. If you think she would get angry with you though, for going through her email, then trying to talk to her about what you found in her junk mail isn't going to do you very much good. EmptySoul

hello. I wouldn't worry about it too much. It's really common for people to experiment with different things sexually, and even if you want to do it again, who's to say that there's anything wrong with that? Besides, you had fun! Just don't let it interfere with your relationships with women. Actually though, it might help you. A friend of mine (female) likes watching guys together. 8) EmptySoul

hey...i'm not a guy, but anyways... like people have said, it kinda depends on the guy. My guy when I was kissing his shoulders and neck, etc. told me it felt good. If you're brave enough I'd just go for what you feel like doing, see how they react to it. If it's a good reation, do it again, if it's uhhh not, then dont. EmptySoul

hey. i live in the us, but i always see ads in the back of magazines, with people looking for models for websites and magazines, etc. maybe you can find something there... EmptySoul

hey everyone... i just want everyone's opinions on virgins. if you're with a girl/guy, or going to have sex with her/him, do you want them to be a virgin, or does it not matter to you, and why? (some say guys don't like "sloppy seconds", that they like to be the first, but some don't want an inexperienced girl. and girls sometimes trust a guy less if he isn't a virgin, but some want an experienced guy.) just tell me what you think... EmptySoul

hey everyone, both guys and girls answer this: 1. Physically, what is most important to you on someone else, and why? (How do you like this part of their body to look??) 2. What is your favorite thing to do with a person of the opposite sex? and why? (or the same sex, or whatever lol) 3. What are your biggest turn-offs and turn-ons physically? 4. and personality wise... (or habits, like smoking etc.) thanks everyone EmptySoul

my soul aches with disappointment from so many things and i am defenseless and alone in the dark i try so hard to be like them want without needing, care without feeling, give without expecting- But I CAN'T. reality still suffocates me i still love through all the hurt and the lies still hope to find someone different, though i know they're all the same i'm dying to touch and be touched hold and be held but every inch of me is connected to an emotion and in the end i feel more pain than pleasure I HAVE NEVER FELT MORE ALONE, and i am drowning in myself. EmptySoul anyone felt like this?

thanks everyone.