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She seems equivocable and indecisive for sure. Primarily though, she lacks commitment to you. I'd shudder to think what might happen if something truly serious came along. Poor communication very often makes a mountain out of a mole hill. You may indeed be able to link the breakup to a lot of little things that you didn't really communicate well about. Happens a lot. Has definitely happened to me.

A supplement is usually banned once it is deemed effective. Unfortunately that is true more often than not. Most supplements I would suggest are not the type you can walk into GNC and buy. OTC supps tend to be milder with fewer side effects. Doesn't mean they are completely ineffective. I'd also just get Rx meds as Rose said. Just wait until the male b/c pill comes out and the average guy learns what it is like to have an 18 year olds testosterone flowing through his veins at 35 years old.... Make the little herbal test boosters seem like candy in a pill I am surprised yohimbe is somehow still OTC. the stuff works but has potential cardiac implications

In my few relationships thus far, there is one thing that seems to be consistent. Women will always surprise me with sex. They have all gone from giving no signals of readiness (or more accurately very direct and obvious signs that said no!) one day to being all about sex the next. My advice would be not to do anything retarded. Like it or not the ball is in her court and she gets to decide, since you are the one ready and she is not. One thing is for sure. Acting, even the slightest bit desparate or showing desire that seems like begging probably won't get you there. From my experiences there is also usually a rational behind what a woman is waiting for. It can be tough to figure that out ahead of time though b/c you don't know her well. One girl slept with me the night I told her I loved her. No coincidence there at all. Another slept with me once she knew I wasn't going to leave her. Another slept with me only after she took the time to tell me something personal about her sex life that she wasn't comfortable with before. One girl (a bit shallow) seems to have slept with me purely based on my physical characteristics. That relationship didn't go far. If you think long and hard about it, there are probably some clues that will tell you why she isn't ready. Look for them if you are curious. Wait patiently if you have better things to do.

A few things that work PDE-5 Inhibitors: Viagra, Cialis, even L-arginine (very mild though) For older guys needing hormone replacement: Prescription testosterone, DHEA, HCG, pregnenelone etc Heard good and bad things about jelqing. Have no reason to want to try it. I could always last longer when I used ephedrine (for other purposes). Ephedrine tends to reduce libido.

If anything I am about average in girth and slightly above average in length. It is annoying to always have to hold back knowing that in many positions, you will hit her cervix and it may hurt. Conversely though, when she gets really turned on, things move out of the way a little and you can go to the back and it may be pleasurable for her. But it still hurts in its own way. I wouldn't mind taking about a 1/2 in off in length and adding it to girth (depending on what girl I happen to be with as some would not like the thickness). I'd like to hear more about woman on top position. I always thought being slightly longer would be an asset? I guess it is mainly what sort of technique they use more than anything. Slipping out can happen no matter what size you are. Being longer definitely isn't an advantage for blowjobs ime. Way tougher to deep throat, haha.

Every once in awhile I get a devious mind. Without more info about her, I'd probably recognize how very clingy she is and try to connect a need for emotional closeness to a need for sexual intimacy. And I would make that explicit non-verbally by backing off from sexual relations with her except when she made it very clear that is what she wants. Why express a sexual desire for someone who isn't interested in that? I doubt she is confused in any way. She knows you want it already. It is my humble opinion that a relationship with very little to no sexual intimacy becomes something closer to a companionship or friendship than anything else given enough time. Alternatively it may self-destruct. Sex isn't sometihng she wants or needs from you now for whatever reason. Since she isn't interested in sex, give her an unbiased opportunity to see what it is like to be in a relationship without the desire. She may find it is not all she thought it was cracked up to be. You can't make someone want you or make them understand or respond to your needs. As long as you can keep your negative emotions somewhat under control for a brief space in time, this might actually work in your favor long-term. Why don't you give us a more detailed explanation of the situation. Tough to do so much guesswork without more info on her. It could be that a lot of our advice is way off base. Another thing I just noticed is how many of us, myself included are always problem solvers when it comes to low sex drive. I have taken it to the extreme to the point that I can have anywhere from very little sex drive to a 2-5 times a day sort of drive and ability. Often however, one partner could care less about being able to do that (no matter how easy it can be to do so). It is not what matters to them in life. They have other priorities and other issues to deal with. And it may not be 100% worth your while to play the role of engineer here. A partner may not even care to understand why their sex drive is the way it is or why they may not even want to learn to compromise on it. Sometimes you just have to back off and let them come to you to fix things. People generally don't like to get unsolicited advice. They sure do listen better when they manage to perceive that there is a problem and come asking you for help to make things better! Again this may not apply at all to your situation...just thought I'd throw that out there if it benefits anyone.

It can be found everywhere. PM if you want where I get mine. I am warning you though. Don't take more than 10mg the first time you use it. And I do suggest trying it alone before doing it with a partner. It is awfully powerfu.

I prefer doing it gradually. Jumping from nothing to sex is likely to fail. You can do a lot of the foreplay now. Get good at doing massages. Kiss her all over her body. Get fully comfortable being naked with her. Then maybe progress to manual/oral stuff. By the time you get to actual intercourse, you will know a heck of a lot. When it comes down to it, there is only one place on your body that you don't deal with specifically until you start having some sort of sex. Learn the rest of her body and have fun with it.

Yokey, The only way to save that kind of situation is with your tongue. You can either tell her it takes you a long time to be comfortable with a new partner or you can just use your tongue in other ways. The latter approach always works far more effectively. As a side note. Do NOT EVER believe a woman when she invites you over to her place and says not to expect anything. More often than not she is lying through her teeth. I am saying this tongue in cheek, but I still think I have a point.

I bet you have met at least 50 men who can easily sustain an erection for an hour or two at a time with only minor lapses. But probably 47-48 of those men haven't exactly taken cialis and viagra....so it may appear to you that they can't keep an erection very long. In any event 8 hours would obviously be physically dangerous for many men. It is far better to just use a pde-5 inhibitor when you happen to have 8 hours to work with.

Yep. Basically just get some astroglide. Condoms are unnatural, horrific, sometimes painful, desensitizing, delubing, pieces of plastic. It is like sliding down a dry tube at the waterpark.

For me it is awkward everytime I have a first time with a new partner. Everyone of my stories goes roughly the same with some minor variation. Something like the following. - I have gotten to know a girl and things are going great. - Out of the blue, she makes a split second decision and decides she is ready to have sex. - This is more than likely the night I forget to pack any rubbers - We go get condoms that probably wouldn't fit anyway - This is also the week that I didn't bother with shaving b/c I think there is no way in hell she will want to do anything (every possible signal up to that point was a no go) -I get nervous -The clothes come off - I looked and feel like I have been dumped in a big bath of ice for 3 hours straight - I don't think it could possibly shrivel up any smaller - We decide to do oral sex b/c obviously nothing else is going to happen - Take 30 minute break to shave - Oral sex usually goes well when I get down on her. Best case scenario she has a massive earth shattering orgasm and the night ends with her satisfied - Worst case, she manages to pull off the worst fake orgasm I have ever seen in my life. - Later if I do manage, by some miracle to get a condom on, she tightens up and I feel like I might have to drive a nail through a brick wall to get it in. - If I do manage to enter, the exasperated look of fear and pain in her eyes is beyond what I can take. Any degree of hardness I had up to that point soon diminishes. -At some point in here she probably goes down on me. Best case scenario, I manage a 2/3 erection for a few minutes. Then I get even more nervous and we go right back to the ice bath scenario. This process is facilitated if she has braces or seems to be extraordinarily skillful with her teeth.

It is nerves and alcohol. Suggestion = try it several more times without pressure and without alcohol. This also just happened to me tonight. However, both my partner and I knew it was going to happen, so she wasn't as diappointed. First time is always awkward. Never goes as planned. Learn to laugh about it. It would be awfully hypocritical of me to say I don't use ED drugs though. I do exactly what you are thinking of. I use a little viagra or cialis with a new partner to help me get over the nervous jitters and to make things go more smoothly. It can be purchased in liquid form as a research chemical (which basically makes it over the counter b/c while it is not legal to use without a script, it is legal to possess) from many places online. I prefer the liquid form since I can take as little as 5mg of viagra or cialis just by measuring out less liquid. The danger with drugs like viagra is that you may take way too much and you may not need it. Both involve taking risks that aren't necessary. I'd give it more time before you go the viagra route. It is probably unnecessary as long as you have patient partner and you can swallow your ego for awhile.

Guys don't get freaked out about it. And given that sex is perfectly possible, I doubt he would find it awkward or would wonder about your intentions.

That is as functional as it gets imo. Gotta love the extra sensitivity it gives both partners.

On some areas, you can just use clippers on the shortest setting then be lazy and let it grow a bit until it becomes a problem. For me an inch would get hair all in my teeth and would make cunnilingus an issue. A really short trim is often a reasonable compromise. Keep the area shortest or completely shaved where his mouth is going to be. Combing and making sure to get rid of any loose hair is a good call too. Easiest to just ask the specific guy you are with. Opinions do vary widely.

From what I understand, even if taken appropriately the EC pill isn't 100% effective. I wouldn't do anything that could make it even less effective.

Lower carbohydrates will tend to lead to less water retention. A cyclical carbohydrate diet of some kind may be the best way to go if you want to look hard but also want to maintain glycogen levels and not look flat. Also more cardio and more fluid intake should help keep water retention down. Basically that brings you right back to a more expensive diet of lean meats, veggies, some fruits etc. My post probably wasn't all that helpful. I have found tuna and ground turkey are pretty affordable. Personally I just deal with some extra bloat and don't worry about it.

I am thinking a couple of things. In my experience, no matter how confident a woman is in general, for whatever reason, actual intercourse (inserting item A into slot B) is a huge deal. It has been with every girl I have slept with. I'd say most men, myself included, canoot fathom how big of a deal it can be. If you are messing around, taking off underwear, manually stimulating....if I weren't older and wiser, I'd see that as a clear indication that sex is the next step. Your guy may not have even thought about baseball. He may not have been interested in doing oral first or figuring out what bases meant (or however else you might choose to delineate the process). What bothers me most about his actions is that he seems irresponsible. No protection??? No discussion about birth control ahead of time??? That is bad form no matter what. The easiest way to avoid this ime is to mention what is NOT acceptable before you start fooling around. It takes all of a sentence or two to make yourself clear. You could just say, "I am confortable with manual or oral tonight but nothing more, okay? I am not ready to do more yet." In some ways I can empathize with this guy. After screwing up so bad, I am not sure I would bother returning your phone call either. I know its not the right thing, but dealing with that sort of rejection can be tough even if he brought it on himself. I have a very different way of handling it than this fellow (I just talk about it ahead of time and don't bother with making advances until she stops throwing out negative vibes re: sex). It doesn't help matters that many successful men use his very approach in the bedroom. A lot of times when you just do it and don't bother talking about it, the woman will go for it. Worked for a lot of my friends and both partners were happy with the result. The men were rewarded for their assertiveness (and always had the good sense to bring a rubber). Men like me however, won't take that sort of a risk.

My first impression is that she just pretty much told you it is over. From the info you provided, she didn't say her libido was just low or that she wasn't interested in sex in general. She said specifically that she just can't think of 'you' sexually anymore. It sounds pretty clear to me. Time to move on. If you have more info though, please share it....everything should be looked at in the context of the whole relationship when possible.

I'd bet he no longer wishes to be in the relationship and chooses to ignore you and treat you disrespectfully rather than just ending it in a more respectful way. Given how long you have been together, I'd hope you would be able to discern if he was having major life or family problems. Unless you can provide evidence to the contrary, I suspect he just wants out. Sadly, many people end relationships this way without talking about it. Not fair at all, but it happens often.

I am introverted and quiet. The only problem I have come accross is when a partner wants you to switch hats on a dime. This is a good example of one of those times when it is best to accept someone for who they are. When someone is shy, sometimes they change and develop over time. ime however, someone that is just quiet is different. It is part of who they are. Quiet definitely doesn't imply an inability or ineptitude when it comes to communication. Some people can talk all day and not say a word.

No harm in talking to her about it. Just see what she is comfortable with intimately.

It is a wicked irony. The women I have slept with almost always get super turned on at the point of the male orgasm. The man's orgasm is like some kind of trigger for them making them want it more beyond belief. It is bound to be frustrating for them. Thank the Lord for male multiple orgasms. That little trick can save many a men from the embarrasment of finishing before she is satisfied. It also makes for a very hot round two when she thinks you are done, but manage to be able to go again.

For any of you who enjoy the longer sessions, do you find there is a correlation with your cardiovascular endurance? Any competetive runners/triathletes out there? Assuming you can make intelligent intercourse decisions that avoid obvious pain, do you tend to prefer longer sessions? Up until now I have been pretty lucky. My first two g/f's must have been born ^&*&ers. They tended to enjoy a good 45 minutes of sex. The girl I am dating now? We haven't exactly gone horizontal but she indicates she wouldn't want to do it for long (she is thinking 10-20 minutes max from what I gather). Maybe I am an anomaly but I don't think I'd be satisfied knowing sex typically wouldn't last for more than 10-20 minutes. I prefer taking more time to go through several good positions. Plus there is always spooning and relaxing morning sex that can take some time to build to a nice crescendo. There are times you just don't rush it. Men stress about being able to last to an incredible degree. Funny so many women seem to prefer something like 20-30 minutes for intercourse. Talk about a myth rooted in the male ego. Someone else said any woman is capable of giving a man more sex than he could ever handle. I personally don't even think that argument should be a gender issue. It is a more a matter of what is the limiting factor with a particular couple. Often that has nothing to do with the male orgasm.