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I find one of the best ways to tackle a problem like this is not to deprive yourself. When you want it, have it. And have what you most desire. Doing that for a month or two (while still remembering to control overall caloric intake) is a good way to 'get your fill' of it so to speak. It is not idiot proof but it is a decent shot at fixing the problem ime.

A quick note. I subscribed to a similar addition to my match account. They simply prorated the charge over the remainder of my subscription. So I wasn't overcharged.

I'll comment on both point. The primal nature of it is kind of cool. It is messier. It is kind of like, "I don't care about our bodies. I want you. I want you now. It is pure passion. Blood? What blood? I didn't notice. You were screaming too loud. Why don't we do it again?" And when it comes to oral? Try the tampon trick. And have him keep to your clit. Works like a charm. No blood, no nothing. Clean, right out of the shower.

It really depends on the context of the message sent. If you are asked a direct question, barring time constraints, I think it is fine to provide a simple direct answer regardless of gender. Could be 'no thanks'. Or it could be more. It is pretty easy to avoid telling someone you think they are physically unattractive. And also easy to focus on what makes the match not work for 'you' without sounding negative. I like it when a woman writes me and says something like "if you fancy me, send me an email back and we can get to know each other". That way it is implied that she doesn't expect or need a response if the answer is 'no'. So it is all in the context of what the person is asking ime. When I write emails I never ask dumb questions like "do you find me attractive". Rather, the emails are just about making her smile a little bit and write back to me.

And unwanted stains? Chalk 'em up to good times and good memories.

This may be one of those cases where you may need to just respect that he has an aversion to it and doesn't want to have intercourse with you then. The smell and blood are too much for some men. It can a person sick to the stomach and there can be a very foul odor. I was going to suggest the tampon trick but you have already tried that. Honestly, the tampon trick works much better for oral than it does for any actual penetration ime. He might be open to manual stimulation or stimulation with a vibrator (maybe mutual masturbation even?). How about anal sex during that time? Or other more kinky means of sexual stimulation? If you are creative, there is no reason to be inactive during the whole timeframe. Your main pleasure center is accessible externally! So it can't be THAT limiting. Have you suggested he wear a condom? Some men have a strong aversion to intercourse on a woman's period. And no matter what you do, he may never like it. There are quite a few women who agree. I am not saying to give up, but you have to be able to see his viewpoint. And hopefully he will see to your needs.

See if the site offers a free trial. If she is on a dating site, chances are she has a myspace account. If you make your search specific enough, maybe you can find her myspace profile. Or find her on facebook. If you find her there, you strike gold and can mail her free. If not pay for the site and haggle your money back if she doesn't respond. If the site bills through paycom or something like that, you can just claim that you found a bunch of fake profiles (true) and you were scammed. They'll take it right off your credit card. Use the fact that dating sites allow fake profiles to your advantage.

As a man I have never failed to respond to a message sent to me (a sincere message). From a man's perspective, it is merely polite to respond. Some women however, 10,20,30, 100 emails in a day. It isn't even feasible to expect her to respond. I also know not to try and be too tactful in the response. "I don't think we would make a good match" is more than enough. Wish her luck in her search and move on. Or if there is a logistic reason, go ahead and give it! There is no reason to get too personal. If a woman can take the time, it is instructive for us to know why we weren't appealing to her. Everyone can learn from times where it doesn't work out. If she doesn't like the picture (and if we get that a lot), then we know the photos will need to be improved if possible etc.

I appreciate the suggestion! For ease of setup and effectiveness, this is the solution I have learned to employ on the fly. Sometimes I wait a little while before getting in this position. It is such a turn on to scoot back off the bed and watch the anticipation and desire as she frantically moves herself into position (or as I pull her into position!). It is like we don't want to miss a beat but have to move. Done at the right time, switching positions like that can add momentum. It also solves the awkward position of the arms and hands for manual internal work, gspot and simultaneous anal stimulation. If it isn't feasible to get on my knees, I use pillows to prop her up better. Or I start with my hands supporting her cheeks....I could get pretty far off topic talking about this... also, Your boyfriend is an incredibly lucky guy!

I almost prefer man on top. Try having him standing with his feet off the bed. You full on your back on the bed. Also make sure he supports himself with his knees if you do it traditionally. I am a big fan of 69 though. It offers the right kind of distraction. And you can play lots of games with 69.

Another point for those who have not had the chance to enjoy porn. I have. And I have seen many videos where the male goes down on the female for long periods of times, giving her orgasms. I have never, not even once, noticed the man complain about taste or even make a face that looked like he didn't enjoy it. I haven't seen a woman do that with precum either. They seem to be okay with it. But what I do see is many women who are willing to swallow for the part. But very few of them can even pretend to make genuinely happy face and give a smile as it is done. Some can and love it but they are a very rare breed, even in porn! Almost all of them either cringe or worse. Some gag. Some throw up. You get the picture. So the downside potential may be higher for a man's taste too.

1) The taste definitely can vary. I am more concerned about evaluating taste, when it is at its best. And that is where I am thinking female juices may have an advantage 'on average'. You do have an excellent point that sweet may not be a good way to describe it. On average I'd have to say salty doesn't seem to describe women well either. I have yet to get a salty taste. Some bitterness perhaps, but not salty. 2) You are exactly right. The last girl I was with was like this. She was a lot like a male with control. When she wanted to explode, we both knew what to do and were pretty well in synch. 3) For me personally, it is a muscular workout much like any you would do in a gym....an endurance workout to be specific. If fatigue sets in I just stop moving the tongue muscle so much. Recovery is quick. It can be about as tiring as chewing gum if you want it to be. I have had a sore neck definitely. But that is easily corrected by changing the neck position. Any soreness is just a way of training the muscles involved. And I think pretty much any guy can train to the point that he can satisfy a woman in this regard barring physical abnormality on his part. The same may be said for a woman giving a blowjob perhaps too. So I concede no advantage either way here. 4) I'd give a massive sum of money if I had a tongue that could reach the gspot! And then I'd go into porn and make it back 10 fold. Seriously. As noted the male gspot is hard to get to and it is highly possible one or both partners will have no interest in going there! But by doing so you are leaving out an important possibility to include with fellatio. If you want to make a side by side comparison on where the gspot is located on each gender, the advantage clearly goes to the women receiving cunnilingus (as manual gspot stimulation is a normal part of oral sex on girls). If she is game the proper stimulation using cunnilingus, manual gspot stimulation and anal stimulation is a deadly combo for orgasm in a woman. Woman is more likely to accept 2 or 3 of these modes of stimulation 'on average' I think. Since fewer men are open to anal stimulation and mspot stimulation, I am seeing a physical advantage to the guys giving here.

I have been with a woman who didn't understand the difference between kissing and inserting her tongue down my throat as aggressively as possible. So understandably, I wanted no part of what she had to offer me after an orgasm. In fact the kissing with her was terrible all the way around the block. All I'll say about the rest of those adventures is that you definitely cannot judge anything by the way a woman kisses. Bad kisses can still mean awesome sex overall. Normally I love kissing afterwards!

I'd play it carefully also. Keep the status quo for now. I just wouldn't build up expectations. You may only have a f-buddy. Or you may have more. I don't see what is wrong giving it more time unless you are afraid of getting too attached.

Women seem to be terrifiend of the copper T IUD since it has a reputation for possibly increasing the bad side effects of a woman's period. More bleeding, more pain etc. More women by far choose the hormonal route and take the side effects of sex drive decrease, weight gain and possibly improved periods.

Other than Layword, nobody has suggested that the change may have happened because you have altered the frequency of your orgasms. Generally if you increase the weekly frequency of your orgasms, the time you last during sex increase proportionally to a point. How often have you been doing it? If you only do it once a day, try 2 times per day. If that doesn't work, try 3. Note with each increase how much longer you last. And time your final orgasm as Layword noted the same day you expect to have sex, but plenty far ahead of time to make sure you can get it up and stay hard. It is not just about doing it right before sex. It is about doing it plenty 'all the time'. Unless a man has medical PE (which you don't! you last too long), I have never once seen this trick fail! It always seem to work and increases how long the man can last. It may not make a minute man an hour man, but it often can make a minute man a 20 or 30 minute man. Also simply having far more sex is a great way to condition yourself to last longer. That is how I went from 5 minutes to 40 minutes or more and kept it there!

It is the male prostate. You can mildly stimulate it by putting direct pressure and pushing on his perineum (taint) during sex. The best way to access it is internally through the butt. You'll need plenty of lube. If you have fingernails, I suggest using a smooth latex glove. Anything that goes in the butt needs to be lubed and completely smooth or you are talking painful. I find petroleum jelly works best for me since it is always a soothing lube that is not too slick. For most men, I'd say you need to get about 2-3 inches inside him. No more than 4 at the very most. You basically want to massage it. It is located on the upper wall of his butt. On the front side of his body. Same place you'd find a gspot but in the butt on the man. I have seen people suggest various motions with the finger, but when you get there just have him guide you. A come hither motion works fine too. The best finger position likely has pressure internally and direct pressure externally on his perineum. Don't change the pressure on the perineum much. All the work is done internally. Some men can orgasm from prostate stimulation alone. Others can't. Your best bet imo is to combine this with a blowjob or handjob. Sometimes this may make a man lose his erection a little or completely. Keep going. There is a good chance that won't slow the orgasm down. He can go from 0 to orgasm in about 30 seconds with this method when it hits him and he gets excited. It is very hard to control. The physical sensation has to be every bit as powerful as a female gspot orgasm. I can't imagine an orgasm feeling any better! Another thing to look into is the Aneros. It is a sex toy that is a gift from God if you ask me. It is also hands free so that neither you need to do the real work. But nothing can match female fingers. Keep massaging at the point of orgasm. Keep a firm grip on him both externally and internally. It is the contractions of the butt muscles that send waves of pleasure that are so unbelievable. The orgasm is then more intense and longer lasting. As a man, you feel drained afterwards. Complete satisfaction. Don't expect him to want to do this again right afterwards. It might take awhile to regain a normal level of consciousness.

He gets as much if not more pleasure from it than you do. I am this way too. I've never been with a woman who wanted to receive oral as much as I want to give it. So I have to admit my initial notion and comments are quite biased in some ways. I know there are women who feel the same way about blowjobs. I think the world could use more oral sex givers that truly love it through and through. I certainly wouldn't complain on the receiving end if I found that kind of a match. I'd probably ask her to marry me tomorrow. The main argument in the marriage would center on 'who's turn is it now'.

Yep, I have noted that I have to keep any taste

I see you point. And I am asking around to see if we can get some bisexual input here. Let me make another stab at it. I think the taste of a woman has the potential to be sweeter than the taste of a man 'on average'. Further, I thnk that a man can enjoy a taste that he finds to be good at every lick. A woman only gets precum until orgasm. And precum from what I understand is neutralish or a bit salty. I never hear about women rave of the taste of precum. I hear men rave about the taste of vagina quite often. Hence why I am seeing a higher upside potential. I personally think men have it better when it comes to oral. But I realize that overall argument fails as a generalization now. That is why I am now changing my contention to the above and saying 'from a taste perspective purely' men have it better as long as the taste is > neutral. If it is subjectively There is never as much precum as there is juices from a woman. So even if subjectively precum tastes better, women get very little of it. Assuming both taste great for a moment, men get more of good thing. And at every lick. Combine the upside potential (if true) with the accessibility of taste that the man gets to enjoy, and I say there is a taste advantage for men. Heck sometimes there isn't even any notable precum on guys.

Yes, I always get nailed everytime I try to make a generalization or say anything 'on average' without being able to back it up with stats. And a lot of it for me has to do with the huge upside potential for the taste of women. I really don't think it is there for men 'on average'. Do you honestly think from what experience you have gleaned that a man is just as likely to taste as good as a woman? It just doesn't get as sweet. Moreover, there isn't much until it is over. Cunnilingus means if the taste is great you get it at every lick = more motivation due to taste when it is good. I'll see if I can get any feedback from someone who has tasted a good many people...of both sexes. Someone bisexual. I'll ask around. The argument as a whole may be weird and illogical to many readers. If so, I don't mind making the above point concerning taste my main point of contention actually. It is the strongest point I have in the argumentation.

I think the only thing constructive we can say wrt to time to orgasm is that 'on average' it takes a woman FAR longer to get there than it does a man as noted before. There isn't any data to back up number three really. I am going on common sense with number 3. Most men are "one and done" or they can get it up again in a few minutes but it takes longer to finish. most don't even know how to do multiple orgasms. Women can have many orgasms. And my point with that is purely that people who enjoy watching and feeling their partner have the pleasure of orgasm....men watch this many many more times in a given 'session' than a woman ever could. The orgasms can last longer too. A woman will outmatch a man 'on average' when it comes to orgasms any day. There is data on this. Number of consecutive female orgasms or something like that. Women win out. It won't benefit a woman more than mspot stimulation will on a man imo. It is just a matter of being able to get to it! It is easier to get to the gspot, so it is easier to bring a woman pleasure that way. And harder to get there on a man's body. Keep in mind I am talking about the physical pleasures of giving here. Of course she wouldn't prefer the taste of a vagina in a side to side comparison. But I still think you can make a different comparison. If you look at it as 'how good can it get?'. I'd say the scale goes pretty high for a man. And there are many men who love the taste. It can be really sweet. I notice far fewer women who can honestly say the same about a man. And most importantly, they often don't even get a real taste until the point of orgasm! pre-cum is more salty than anything and very mild. Every single lick during cunnilingus can be a sweetness from heaven. That doesn't happen giving a blowjob.

I'll take a peach if you don't mind =D As it stands I have to concede point 1. Men can get just as tired as women. I also have to admit the multiple orgasm thing isn't what I consider a huge factor. But put points 3 and 4 together and you have a little something imo. But I still think taste is a pretty huge advantage that men have. It is an attraction device. Trust me! The taste for a woman is either bad, neutral or at best mildly pleasant. Nothing like what you can get from a woman!

You two have me on the first point. Yes men can get just as tired. I wasn't considering that it takes women so much longer. I just never hear men complain as jsx noted.