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    Best post I've read in this thread. Dude I don't know you from a hole in the wall, but if you are giving the negative vibe in real life that you are exuding to me through the internet, accross an ocean no less, then it wouldn't matter if you look like Brad Pitt. There is no fool proof rules to attracting the opposite sex, everyone has their own preference, but without a spec of confidence you don't have a chance. What are you good at? We all have a talent. Put yourself in situations were you can showcase your ability, and take in how you feel when you suceed. Try to harness that feeling, enjoy it. I'm most comforable when I'm in the water, it's my talent and something I love to be around. Once I'm in that comfort zone, I feel invincable. Find that place for you. That's the feeling women are going to want when they are around you, an enjoyable experience. If you are giving a vibe that you are a stick in the mud that's worried about your proception constantly, then don't even bother. As I said looks are a moot point if you handle yourself that way.
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    First key is to put yourself in situations where you will thrive. We all have talents, or aspects that make ourself special, and the best way to feel good about yourself is to be in a position where you shine. The more you feel that, the more it will spill over into other aspects of your life, and hopefully it can be turned into a lifestyle change.
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    I never said to lie -- I just wonder what people think is an acceptable answer. Obviously if I said 30 or said 5 you'd have different reactions. I don't lie about my number, I'm confident in it, but still am curious as to what people would view as a "good" number.
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    You've slept with, what is the answer they are looking for.(I realize the honest answer that's not what I'm getting at) I've been asked a few times while dating, and I have no reason to lie, and don't. But I'm sure when this question is asked the person has a number in their minds they are looking to hear, wondering what the ballpark would be on that. I've been told my number was too low, too high, and what they'd expect. Guess it's a matter of preference, just wondering what the consensus is.
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    Without getting graphic, 45-50 minutes of penetration or are you talking the whole foreplay/build up? Couldn't imagine 50 minutes of thrusting the whole process takes close to an hour usually.
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    I assumed that as well. If that's the case be truthful, cause if you ever lucky enough to show it off, don't want to build it up to be something that it's not.
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    Fade away, especially if he freaks you out. You can be gracious about it, but I'd just kinda disappear, he'll figure it out.
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    I've gone and had a good time, don't really view it as very rebellious, just a change in scenery.
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    Also not sure if this is what you are looking for, but my favorite quote currently: "Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail." Ralph Waldo Emerson
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    "The best laid plans of mice and men often go astray" Plan for the future, but be prepared for the unpredictable.
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    First I guess I need to know how old you are, not really my business but just for a better perspective. Do you hold hands with her or anything else that involves physical contact? I'd try that and then move in for the kiss. If you know she wants you to go for it, I wouldn't be all that worried. Hope this helps.
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    Yeah I agree leaving the country is a bit much. A weekend maybe, but still I don't think I'd push that until we are much farther along in the dating process. I am sure it can be a level of comfort issue, sometimes by date four you can feel like you've known someone forever, other times it's just the tip of the iceberg. But regardless, I think he's really rushing it.
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    Just a follow up: Saw her tonight in class, everything was very normal, we joked around a bit and walked out together, like it has been all semester. I'm glad that there was nothing awkward about it, because the small chatter we have and laughs is what makes her so great. I think I'll call her during the week, maybe we'll meet up to study for exams, just keep trying to get together under relaxed terms and see how it plays out.
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    Great post -- I never really thought about putting in such a concise list, but that's exactly how it has to be for me. Without any of these elements it won't work, and with me at least I know pretty quickly if one is missing. As for everything, try not to overthink the situation. Go with your feelings -- you'll know what to do.
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    Thanks again for all the input. As I've said we seem to have a connection on some level, so we'll see where this goes. Rare to hang out with someone for hours on end and not run out of things to talk about. If we continue to just hang out and be friends I still feel I met a great person. Would like it to become more than that but it is what it is. Tigris, I'm a Jersey boy but not one of the fist pumpers you may be familiar with. Just a regular guy trying to find his way in all of this.
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    We went out last night, real good time, and at the end of the night I just let her know how I felt, that I did have attraction but I was not sure what her situation was, and she told me she doesn't know what her situation or orientation is either anymore. So we just talked briefly, I could tell by her body language it is not an easy subject, so I kinda cut it off and just told her that I enjoy spending time with her and anytime she wants to hang out just let me know. Gave her a kiss on the cheek, we hugged and I left. I guess I need to just lay low, I can't even try to imagine what she is going through with all of this, but will try to keep in the picture on some level since I have developed feelings for her. Fine line I guess, cause I don't really know if she wants space, but the last thing I want to do is complicate things for her. Thanks for all the responses along the way you all have been a help.
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    Do you have any mutual friends? Someone that can make sure he has your number? If he lost his phone he may have lost the number too, who knows.
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    I don't think your answer was half bad. Right when I read your post the reaction that popped in my head was "Only if you want it to be," something along those lines is what I would have said. Look I'm sure you are both adults, and at this point we all know when we are being asked out or not. It was probably her just trying to be cute, I wouldn't over anaylze it more than that. As for when you should ask for the 2nd date, wait and see how the first one goes. All depends on that in my opinion.
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    She called me yesterday, I asked her out and we made plans for Saturday, so we'll see how it goes. What do I have to lose, even if she's looking for just a friendship she's someone I do enjoy spending time with so there isn't much to lose.
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    She actually called me today, got a voicemail and called her back, no big deal we both work during the day and are busy. Saw her tonight, we had an exam, and she finished before me and waited in the hall for me to finish, was really nice of her. Figured I had nothing to lose, asked her out again for Saturday, she said yes, so I'll figure it all out from there. Nothing to lose really, if we are just misreading each other sexually I know that she's a great person, and someone I would want to have a relationship with on another level. Thanks again for everyones take.
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    I say go for it, better off seeing if it could work out then five years from now wondering "what if?" I guess you run the risk of losing the friendship if things turn sour at some point, but it seems like you have interest and always considered this possibility. Give it a shot.
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    Agree with the crowd here, first dates should be out in public. Safer for everyone involved, and gives you a much easier out if things don't go well.
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    Thank you both for your responses, this is what I was looking for. I see her again tonight, will ask her about the weekend, and proceed from there. I'm comfortable enough to ask, but don't want to pry into her life, but you are correct she's opened that door for me with her comment. Thanks again you both were a big help.
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    If I have to pick one, I have to pick to love, I'm a giver and I have learned not to fight it. Obviously I want it to be mutual on the highest level, but I find so much satisfaction in doing special things for someone I care about, for better or worse.
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