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  1. Well about a month or so ago I asked the guy I'm interested in to go out me, my best friend and her guy, and he said yes. However he didn't get off until late into the evening and told me that he wasn't going to make it and for a reincheck. So a couple of weeks later I email him to see if he wanted to catch a movie the next night. Well the night came and gone and I didn't here from him. I saw him a couple of days later and he walked up to me, when no one was around and acted kinda shy and then said about the message (movie) he would have gone if he would have gotten the message earlier, he had already made plans. I told him no big deal. Since then we have gotten pretty close. He calls me when he needs to talk or whatever. We have been talking about a big decision that he had been facing and that has brought us even closer. So last week I get a text from him saying to call him later if I have time. So I'm thinking he needed to talk about his situation, but he asks how my week was and we just talk about stuff. He got another call during our call that he had to take and he said he would call me back, which he did. We talked for a little while longer and he told me that if he found out anything he would let me know. Ok, so Sunday, I text him telling him to hang in there, which he replied to. Well later on in the day I get a call from him and he said he just wanted to say hi and that he made a decision. So I'm feeling pretty confident that things are moving in a positive direction. I log on to myspace to check my messages and I look at his profile and I see that he has started adding new girls to his friends list. I should say when all this started he had over 120 friends, then one day I checked and he had it down to under 60, this was after the double date was planned. So was I reading the signs wrong? Do you think he isn't into me? Should I be the one to ask again to get together or wait for him? Just getting mixed signals from him. His face lights up when he sees me and is always looking at me when we are with other people. So yeah, you could say I'm confused.
  2. Ok, last Friday night a bunch of us went out and had a really good time. Well the next day I borrow my guys phone to make a quick text and I notice that he had a couple of saved messages that he sent, one was at around 3 am to one of the girls in the group we went out with. Of course I read the message and it said that he had fun and that he just got home and to have a good day. I didn't say anything about it but I have been wondering why would he do this. Does it sound like he is interested in her? Why would he text another girl at 3 in morning if he was thinking about her? Am I over reacting?
  3. Last week, the guy I liked was doing some extra stuff for me and when he was done, he called me and was telling me about a little blemish on something that I asked him to find for me and he found it and asked if I still wanted it. He repeated himself a couple of times and we were joking around and then he asked me what does he get for getting me all the extra things, dinner? and I in return, like a idiot, was still playing around with him and said you have my gratitude and then I told him I would buy him lunch instead, because we work together. After I said that, he said he was just teasing. I know that guys say that just to play it off, right? So I really would like to know of any suggestions on how I can get him back to that point, about dinner. Or how can I bring up the subject without making a complete fool out of myself, if I am wrong about his feelilngs towards me. The second part to this post is, if a guy is interested in you, what is the chance that he would ask again, given the response by me from the first time? I am trying to show him I am interested, paying more attention to him and trying to get some alone time with him when I get the chance.
  4. I would rather be loved. Coz if you loved someone else and they don't love you back, you tend to get treated like crap and you can't control their feelings. Whereas, with my own feelings I can control how I treat the person that loves me and try to build on it.
  5. Question..... Which one would you rather be....the one in love with your SO or your SO be in love with you? You can only pick one or the other but not have it both ways. Which one would you pick and why?
  6. In the state that I live in the court will review child support orders every 3 yrs, all that is needed is for the custodial parent to sign the form giving them permission to do, well I did sign the form and I know that he had to go to court in the state that he lives now with his new wife and child, so maybe that is one of the reasons he is attacking me. I don't believe in the divorce decree it states that no slandering should take place between us, I thought that us being adults that it would be a given and plus the fact we have 2 great kids between us that it would be done without even thinking about it. I guess I should just continue to pray for him, as I do everyday anyway.
  7. No not really, I see them in some of the places that I go to. We split up because he wanted to explore his feelings for other woman, and when that didn't work out, he couldn't get over the fact that he missed up. This is just my opinion, I could be wrong. We were separated for well over a year before we got divorced, and he was still trying to find out who I was seeing and where I spend my time, but I know this is normal after you have been with someone for almost 10 yrs. I sent my kids and the guy I am involved with now a email message and it had to do with blessings and love and I found out that my youngest child forwarded it to my ex and there was a very personal message attatched to the email I sent to the 3 of them, so maybe that has set this off, but I'm not sure.
  8. Well, I just found out that my ex has been saying things about me on his blog and to some of our old friends. I don't understand why he is continuing to say things about me that aren't true. We have been divorced for almost 5 yrs. I hardly ever talk to him unless its concerning the kids. He continues to be I don't know the right word I am looking for but when we talk he is very hard hearted and seems like he has a wall around him. I just wish we can talk like adults and put the past in the past where it belongs. He tells people that I am being the opposite of what I am doing or how I am acting towards him. I treat him like an adult, no mean or angry words to him when we do talk, I do still care for him but I don't understand why he feels the need to bad mouth me or lie about things that I have not done. Why would he continue to does this after us not being together for almost 6 yrs since we split up.
  9. No there is only one child between them. There are two other kids, her step kids. So it the site link removed, just a blog site or do you go there to actually pickup people?
  10. I asked for advice about a friend of mines husband not be to involved with helping out with their baby. Well, she just called me and she found out that her husband, posted a profile on link removed and listed himself as single. I told her that I'm not sure what link removed is but I would try to find out. I went on to link removed and it looked like a place to meet people and blog about life. Is this true or should she not be concerned with the fact that her husband listed himself as single on this site. I know that some sites will automatically put you down as single, but you can go in and change this info. This is a real concern for me becasue of the whole not taking interest in their 10 month old child and the fact that while he took his kids back to his ex, he removed the battery from his cell and told his wife that the phone was not working. She found out because the next day, the phone was all of a sudden working and her step son had mentioned to her that he saw his dad remove something from the back of the phone after he got using it. I know they need to talk and figure out what is going on in their relationship, but it is hard to watch her be made a fool of by her husband. Come to find out he separated from his first wife so he could go be with another women and when that didn't work out, him and his first wife went to a marriage counselor a couple of times to save their marriage. I just wonder if he is not falling into the same pattern he was in when he was with his ex, before she found out about how he truly was.
  11. He is in his mid 30's and she is in her low 40's. Just to clarify, she did not come right and told me that the kids were and intrusion, I just came to the conclusion by her getting upset when the kids were maybe going to come stay with them. I do know that he has set earlier times to get his kids but at the last minute he changes it to a later time, even though they are available to get the kids at the earlier time that was agreed on. I know this because we were out on Fri. nite doing some errands and she made the commit that getting the kids can wait, it's no big deal to her. I told her that it may not be a big deal to you but what about your husband and the other kids, but she didn't say anything to this.
  12. She told me that he was always there and that is why she is talking to me about it. Yes, she gets upset with him when he doesn't help out with their baby. Yes, this is her first child and when the older kids come around, she pays most of her attention to her baby, which is understandable but I told her she needs to also pay attention to the other kids while they are around. I haven't asked her but just by her actions and some of the things that she says she feels like his kids are an intrusion when they come to visit. Her husband wanted his son to come live with them for awhile because of some trouble he was having in school and so thereforeeee the other sibling was also going to move in with them, which she was not happy about at all. I agree that they should talk about this issue but it is hard to watch a friend maybe being taken advantage of. I did not consider the fact that maybe she is a perfectionist, which she can sometimes be, which will also have a negative spin on their relationship.
  13. One of my good friends had a baby earlier in year, which was good, but the problem is the babies father hardly helps out with it, my friend has told me that she gets upset with him coz he doesn't help out with the baby. She takes the baby to work with her every day even though the father is at home most of the time during the day. I told her you need to find out what is going on with him, coz he has two other kids and he was always there to help out with kids. I told her that I'm not sure he wants to be there as a family man or anything and for her to try and set up arrangements with someone to help her out if he is not willing to step up and help out with the new baby. He is still talking to his other two kids a few times aweek and drives out of state to see them on his visitation times. He gets them during the summer and spends time with them every chance he can get. My question is why is he being there for his other kids and not so much for the baby that is in the house? Me and some other friends have talked to our friend and found out that the dad got with our friend while he was separated from his x-wife and to watch out for a rebound type of relationship. Could this be the reason for his lack of involvement with his new baby? Any help would be great!!!! I don't want to see my friend get hurt, if this guy is just using her to avoid his real feelings toward his ex.
  14. A little background on my story... I told my guy that I loved him back in october, but he didn't say anything back. I mean we talk about it a little but not on how he felt. I figured if he felt it he would have said it. Anyway fastforward a few months. I decided to kind of distance myself from him over the holidays and the next couple of months. I would only joke around with him every once in awhile but not on a regular basis like I did. After about 2 weeks of NC, I broke down and sent him a joke over email. He wrote back with a laugh and then he told me I love you too! Now mind you this is what 4 months after I told him and after I started to distance myself from him. I was talking to him last week about something important, something he had said the week before. I got upset over something I thought he said (which he didn't) but he asked if I was jealous, (over a comment a friend made about him and his looks. The friend was a guy BTW). When I was talking to him he referred to "us" as us. Just because of his delay in telling me how he feels(4 months), I don't know if he means what he says. HIs actions have always shown me that he cares but why the delay in him telling me? Do the things that he has said lately,(asking if I'm jealous and referring to us as "us") sound like he is truly feeling those feelings? Any help would be great. Thanks.
  15. I think that society or the way we have been "trained" for the guy to make the first move on anything. But I have always been the type of person to speak my feelings and whats on my mind. Keeping it inside is no good.
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