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  1. younger 22
    I agree with miniblinded, this time is for you. and things will get better soon!!!!!! Who knows this will be a stepping stone for you to a great and bigger things in your life. I know, sometimes, I say to myself love is sucks and painful !!!! but sometimes I found that it's a great teacher in life. (((((Hugs)))) to you too.
  2. younger 22
    I'm not sure if age is the issue here. Some men I know they are over the age of thirty but still do the same thing as your bf. Sometimes I think it's to do with their personality and training at home.You can certainly give counseling a try; who knows he might change because he loves you. ----------------------------------------------- But woman's chief discontent is not with her political, but her social and particularly, her marital bondage. Elizabeth Cady Stanton, 1869.
  3. younger 22
    Thank you so much for your emphaty. Thank you for telling me that I am not crazy at all and that I'm okey for feeling like this. I feel really supported now and most of the pressures lifted off. I'm not so worried now about my future and what will happen to me. I feel like whatever happens, happens and that just my destiny. I feel relieved when you said that you can't throw stones on me next time if I would see him. I'll just wait and see and I'll keep you posted and keep me posted too! Thanks heaps again!! Best wishes to us for our future.
  4. younger 22
    yeah man, just test the water first, if you think she likes you and ready to leave her bf for you, then say it. But if she doesn't and you can't keep your secret anymore, you just have to tell her anyway and hope for the best.
  5. younger 22
    I know it's hard to just forget your feelings about her, especially if you feel like your suited. I can only think of one thing when I was 13, I like a 15 or 18 year old guy and he couldn't made the move because of my folks and I keep dreaming about him, but when he left our town, I eventually forgot him. I think you can try and distance yourself for the time being (while she's still young) if it's really hard for you. Maybe you can try moving to another school, or try to do other stuff that would take you away from her.
  6. younger 22
    yeah, that 's right, just depends on the emotional maturity on the person and their ability to work on the relationship so the other party would not be feeling left behind. I am 8 years younger than my husband,I didn't realize before why he was a bit advance than me. The only problem was that he did not know how to bring me up to his level. He thinks we think and feel the same way and we have similar life experience, sometimes he thinks I am slow to catch up with him and sometimes he gets frustrated with me. as I look back sometimes I think I should have married someone in my own age. But in your case, you sound like you care for her so much and would do anything to make her happy. You can also do younger stuff with her even though your older. Most older people like to do things that young people do. It keeps you young at heart. Cheers to you.
  7. younger 22
    thanks guys, your opinions are great and spot on. What you said are the reasons why I wanted to forget him and get on with my usual life. I guess it will take time. Hopefully next week I'll be over with him. I just have to keep reasurring my self that ' this too will pass'. I think I also need to accept that my feelings are real instead of trying to deny it. The more I tried to cast it out and deny it and telling myself that I'm crazy for having this feeling,the more it overcomes me. I guess I'm just rushing and wanting some instant cure. Qoute: Love is more than just a euphoric feeling.
  8. younger 22
    yeah, I think, sorry, I'm just confused right now. To tell you the truth, I'm not very happy with my husband, although I love him, I feel that my needs are not meet in our relationship.I fell that I'm the one who have to sacrifice a lot. I've been married for 15 years and I feel that I'm be gonna be stuck here.
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  10. younger 22
    Hi everyone, Nice to know tha I am not alone. I just want a bit of advise regarding my confusing situation. I am 43 years old married and I feel that I am attracted to a 22 year old guy I meet last weekened. I would like some advise how to stop thinking about him and our times together. Because its driving me crasy and I'm losing my concentration. I will start my studies next week, I have four subjects this semester and I needed to concentrate. I don't think he likes me, I think he just want a friend in my city because he's in the navy. He told me that he would see me again when he is in my city. He also sent me a text message saying that "he really enjoyed finally meeting me and would like to catch up again. I've never meet him before, I only spoke to him on the phone and we sent text messages regarding sending me the book to my home address. I thought that was the end of our connection, but out of the blue, he sent a text message to me saying that he will be in my Town for a few days and would like to meet me for lunch or do some things. I was shocked, but I went along because I thought he just like someone to take him or show him around my area. We are both studying and this will be our final year and I don't think he will have time to see me again this year.
  11. younger 22
    It's about personality man and experience in life, no one can really guess what will happen to their life when they get older. I use to think like you when I was your age. I look at younger woman with a 60 year old guy, I often laugh and make fun of them. Now I'm dating a 22 year old guy and I'm 43.
  12. younger 22
    I can understand that you are thinking about what other people might think of you,(your reputation in town).I had similar experience, mostly people will get over it and will move on to other juicy and fresh gossips. There's no law that you have to hang around to those people who doesn't like you. The main thing is you can live without them, I mean you don't depend on them for your daily bread. I got married to someone I thought my town, friends and family can be proud of, but the happiness I experienced with him was not to the extent that I expected. Sometimes I had some regrets. Follow your heart. There's more to life than worrying what other people think, they won't be there when you're crying.
  13. younger 22
    it's better to love than not love at all.
  14. younger 22
    enjoy, take the opportunity, who knows there won't be one like this again.!!!!!!!
  15. younger 22
    Beauty is only in the eyes of the beholder.
  16. younger 22
    Hey, I kind of understand what you're going through. I was 17 once and also in high school. My folks use to tell me I'm ugly and my sisters are pretty. As years went by, I tried to do something for my self, I went to college finish a degree, got a job, good haircut and colour, tried to hang around with nice people that are caring and accepting and on and on. Sometimes it will take time to make you realize and accept who you are, when that time comes people will accept you more and your confidence will be stronger. As you go older you'll soon meet people that don't care about looks, but what's in your heart and your values. If you don't judge people on how they look, that's the first step that your problem is solve. Cheers.
  17. younger 22
    it's a normal reaction when opposite attracts. Male and female closeness can create unintentional reaction in their bodies Just be careful it can lead to somewhere you don't want if you continue to be alone with her.
  18. younger 22
    In my counselling sessions, I usually find that trauma takes a while to heal and usually affects the relationship. It sounds to me that he still suffering from post traumatic stress with his ex. May be you can ask him if he would like to talk to the experts regarding his pain. I don't think he'll get over with his past painful relationship soon unless he will undergo some counselling.
  19. younger 22
    If I were you, I would ask her if it is okey if you call her once a week for a start. Ask her what would be the best time and how long she would want you to talk to her. I would also ask her if she needs some help with her studies, some errands and doing things for her kids. I think she'll really appreciate that. If she declines just send her some practical stuff (groceries), or leave them on her doorstep with a note. I think this will help you get closer to her, even though she's busy.
  20. younger 22
    Personally, I have dated quite a few guys including my husband and even divorce ones and most of them did not touch me below, before they touch me on the top. Hope you know what I mean. I think he's just interested in what you can offer below. I feel that this type of man would not last long. You can certainly give him another chance, but usually,relationship needs to be based on mutual respect.
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  22. younger 22
    Hi, I can really symphatize with you. I feel that I am in a similar situation. I am 43 years old, married and the man I am attracted to is 22 years old. I nearly lost all hope that my situation will change. I told myself that I will grow old and be stuck with my situation and that I needed to accept the monotony of my marriage. But one day out of the blue this young guy ask me if I could have lunch with him. We've never met, just talking on the phone and phone messages because I tried to buy a textbook from him. Anyway we've met and he sent a text message saying that he really enjoyed finally meeting me and would like to catch up again. I'm not sure if he really likes me, but our meeting gives me hope with my situation. Sorry for the long talk,all I wanted to say is that you are blessed because you are younger and he likes you too. For me 11 years age gap is not a big issue. He'll be over twenty soon. I feel that your future with this guy is promising. Although I was also really frightened of our age gap before I saw him, but when we went out, I feel that he was comfortable going out with me; we have the same interest and line of studies. I don't think age matters when you are happy and fullfilled. If I had a chance I'd rather spent the remainder of my lifetime happy, able to do things that I dreamed of with a younger guy than in the corner miserable with a guy of my own age. I always believe that God will always reward us in the future. Cheer up!!!!!!
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