willywonka

I appreciate the support from all of you. Maybe my concern is ego driven and not based on real substance. She acts waaaaay more mature than 22, to the point where she's the sensible one and I'm the immature one. I've got plans for my future and I was all set to go forward with them and keep myself so busy and traveling that I wouldn't miss a relationship. I was in this little bubble and had everything lied up in a row...and then she comes along and turns it around. Most of the people we know have a 5 year age difference between them. Hell er mom is dating a guy almost 10 years younger and a friend of ours is 23 and with a guy who is 33. She is kinda weirded out about my concern and thinks it is an excuse to push her away, because she seems to think it's my way of getting her to leave on my terms. I know she's not going anywhere, but that's what the last one said. We were 20 when we met and she left me six years later, while I was in the hospital with a tube in my heart, so you can see where my trust issues might stem from. She has always wanted kids, in fact she recently told me that she would have gotten married and started a family at 18 if she found the right guy. Some of the people I know and have met have said that not only does she not ook that much younger, but that we complement each other very well...we are comparable as it was put. I know many celebrities have significant age differences etween them, such as Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie (11 years), Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes (27 years), and John Travolta and Kelly Preston, (8 years), but these people have personal trainers and chefs to keep them at their best, not to mention some of the best plastic surgeons in the business. A friend of mine pointed out the fact, that it could be my girlfriend who begins to show age quicker. I know there are couples with similar gaps or greater, but I don't want her to miss out on the next 7 years in a relationship or with a family, when she could be out partying or whatever. Maybe that's not what she wants.

I've got a ? ------- I'm new to this site, but I notice that some of you are experiencing similar thoughts. 3 months ago I began dating a girl from school, whom I had known for about 3 months prior. We were in the same classes and worked on the same project together. One day after class we went to get dinner and stayed there al night talking, and shortly after that we began dating. Aside from a ribbon cutting ceremony and the marching band she has moved in and I have never been happier, but the only thing that has made concern for me is the age difference. I'm 29 and she is 22, which might not be bad but I'll be turning 30 in June. I don't look like I'd be 30 in fact most people think I'm in my mid twenties. Just wondering if I'm crazy for thinking there is an issue. I know it's not now, but I see a future and wonder if when I'm 40 and she is 33 if there will be the temptation of a younger man. I was with a girl for 6 years and she screwed with my head pretty good. I now see relationships as a matter of when not if. For her and everyone else they think it's a mute point as I work out and eat right, but I just was wondering. I know women age quicker than men and I understand the affects of kids on their body, but I've never been faced with getting older and I'm wondering if the age difference in the long term will be a problem. It's probably ego driven but I want to make sure I keep her wanting more of me. Any suggestions?

I'm new to this site, but I notice that some of you are experiencing similar thoughts. 3 months ago I began dating a girl from school, whom I had known for about 3 months prior. We were in the same classes and worked on the same project together. One day after class we went to get dinner and stayed there al night talking, and shortly after that we began dating. Aside from a ribbon cutting ceremony and the marching band she has moved in and I have never been happier, but the only thing that has made concern for me is the age difference. I'm 29 and she is 22, which might not be bad but I'll be turning 30 in June. I don't look like I'd be 30 in fact most people think I'm in my mid twenties. Just wondering if I'm crazy for thinking there is an issue. I know it's not now, but I see a future and wonder if when I'm 40 and she is 33 if there will be the temptation of a younger man. I was with a girl for 6 years and she screwed with my head pretty good. I now see relationships as a matter of when not if. For her and everyone else they think it's a mute point as I work out and eat right, but I just was wondering. I know women age quicker than men and I understand the affects of kids on their body, but I've never been faced with getting older and I'm wondering if the age difference in the long term will be a problem. It's probably ego driven but I want to make sure I keep her wanting more of me. Any suggestions?