Nebular

The wet vagina is definite...I guess hard nipps too, although that could just mean we're cold. unfortunately it's not too obvious with us.

Not being happy in a relationship and then meeting someone who piques your interest is one thing if you don't do anything about it. You did something about it and it was the wrong thing to do. You're right, people on this forum are going to react in a negitve way. I don't recall reading in your post where you said you talked about this with your wife. How she was making you feel badly; don't give me that "Well I'm a guy and guys don't talk about their feelings!" that's snot. You've been married for a long time and it seems that the only thing that has destroyed this marriage is the sex thing. I know sex is an importiant part of a realtionship, but it should never be the maker/breaker. You should have talked to your wife, gotten marriage counseling, or maybe asked her why she doesn't enjoy sex anymore. It could hurt her for some reason, and she could be ashamed to confide in you that for some reason it hurts. It's embarrassing. Cheating on someone is NEVER a valid path to go down. It's dishonest, you are lying to your wife and kids. Not to mention this other woman...what kind of woman pursues a relationship with a married man? Now you have two women's feelings to consider. You're digging a hole, you'd best stop here....and so should I.

I would tell him it really bugged you. From the way it sounds I'm guessing it's obvious to him too. It should be, anyway. Just tell him you don't like re-hashing old news but it really bugged you to see "Mexico" and his ex's name. Ask him nicely to tell you what that meant, I mean why did he have that written there? If he's an honest man and he loves you, he'll tell you without rolling his eyes or making a poopy deal over it. If he seems to not want to talk about it, or makes a fuss, then something might just be askew. Generally people have a problem talking about things they're guilty about, or so it would seem to me that's the case.

My ex was pretty honest. He said "You're not on my intellectual level. You're childish." I can only thank god that the guy I am with now can appreciate that my IQ is not 168, and I have a soft spot for the geekier things in life.

as someone who consumes a gratuitous amount of diet coke I can tell you that it's prolly not the best thing to get hooked on. I don't know why it's no good for if you're dieting, for me it makes me feel full, so I am not real hungry. Secondly caffene is a mild stimulant, which will get you jittery and make your metabolism a little higher, since it'll increase your heart rate, and it's a diuretic which will make you tinkle more. (*Takes a good long slug of her drink o' choice) NOW HEAR THIS: I am not saying it's a good method for dieting, if you look at it another way, Caffene is like diet pills: Dexotrim and the like. It won't make you lose REAL weight, it'll make you pee more. Yes, for me it makes me feel full, but recently I have really cracked down and am drinking more water than soda. It's great, you finish a 20 oz bottle of DC and fill 'er up with water. I have cut down a LOT, and it does me real good. Outside of the whole aspertame thing, caffene will dehydrate you, and make your skin look all bad and stuff, and you'll get HUNGRY: yes, when you get dehydrated, often times your body will send signals to your brain saying "tell her she's hungry so that she'll eat something that might have water content in it...PLEASE!!!" And the last segment of my tangent is the unpleasantries of caffene deficiancy: you get cranky, tired and ya get a nice little headache. So to sum this up: moderation. That's the key.

Also going to school to be a nurse. I would get so ticked at the girls who would goof off in Pharmacology and talk right through the lecture, and pretty much just ruin it for everyone else. Of course these girls were in the program itself, while girls like me have to wait because the school LOST my dang transcripts. Look, cheating is not ok. You know that, the girl who didn't give you the answer knew that. If their policy on helping one another out wasn't clear, then you need to petiton the head person or something. If you know for a FACT that others were doing the same thing, then bring it up. I'm going to have to say though that this is a case where you're going to have to just take it on the chin. Talk to your advisor on what you can do. Surely they'll let you re-enroll, and doing this the second time around will make it easier and you won't make the same mistake. Most schools aren't too sympathetic to cheating or suspected.

I am sorry if I sound harsh, but I have been hurt bad several times and have wanted someone back so badly. If you'd do anything to get her back, then do this: leave her be. It sounds harsh, sad, and darn near impossible, especially in the immedieate post break up situation. But I can say this for certain: bugging her, calling her, groveling to get her back will result in many things, but not what you want. It can result in her getting a restraining order, it could result in her thinking "hm, he seems desparate, I can "take him back" and treat him like crap and string him along till someone better happens." Or, it could just plain result in her never wanting to see you again, ruining all possible chances of you ever getting back together. I guess it's hard to give any suggestions on how to deal with this when we don't know the situation that led to this break up. You said you teased her, well teasing to one person can be considered belittling to another. Maybe you really hurt her with your teasing. I don't know, I am just trying to tell you what would at least give her respect for you and not make you look desparate. I hope you heal, it sucks but there will be light.

I was just curious if anyone knew what a normal weight fluctuation might be? I have recently lost a lot of weight and am glad of it, but when I weigh myself one day and it says 117 lbs and then two days later it's 121lbs I wonder what is normal? I am really afraid of the weight coming back (I was once 156 lbs back in august) I haven't gained any inches to date, so I assume this is normal. I weigh myself in the morning after I pee, first thing.

he might be afraid of how you'd take it. I mean he might be trying to spare your feelings, albeit he's not going about it the best way. I mean if it was just a few weeks ago and he broke up with you over another girl...that could be pretty painful to hear. I mean it'd come out sooner or later, but maybe he figures if he told you now, it'd really wreck you.

I think she wants to be your friend...SOMEDAY. You cannot be friends right after getting dumped; it's not possible. SO that said, she may be doing one of the two things: She could have been just saying she wants to be your friend to let you down easy, which is a rotten thing to do: putting false hope in you. Or She could be serious, but wants to NC you for awhile to just let you heal. Make sure your feelings for her subside so that there is no confusion regarding what you guys are, should you become friends once more. I guess the way to handle this is to just let her do the NC, move on, and then when you're sure you're over her then you can talk again. LOL, I know that sounds like "Oh yea, I'll just do all that TODAY! I'll move on, zippity doo dah!" It'll take some time, yes. But NC actually (for me anyway) made it go much faster. I can now talk like friends to my ex, and I have a boyfriend too.

Thanks ya guys. We went for a long walk tonight and it was wonderful, he's really sensible about things, as I said and so am I. We just talked, and I told him that all day I really wanted to see him and he was just like "hey, it's good to be missed. It's good to know I am cared about." And he reassured me that he felt the same way, not that I really needed reassurance, but it was nice to know.

Kinda sounds like she's keeping you as her back up. Either that or she feels so pathetic, so desparate to have someone, that she has to flirt with you, in order to feel special. Kinda that "Hey lookit me! I am a flirt! I am flirting...hey boooysss!" Don't go out with her anymore, unless you are ok with her flirting with you and going out with other dudes. It's not really healthy for you though, if you go out with a girl who is flirting with you...and then some other girl who is pretty and might be just perfect for you sees it, she might think you're spoken for.

I have dated this guy since feb. we really hit it off, and we became "official" on the night before easter. He's 28 and I am 25, and we're really level headed and sensible. I know that can all be blown away like a dandelion when you get into a relationship. We seem to be totally on the same page with each other. I know it seems really premature, being that it's been barely 2 months, but in the last week and a half I felt like "god, I really love this guy." Of course I told myself that was preposterous, and he prolly didn't feel the same way...but I caught him 3 times almost saying "I love you". Saturday night as we were laying there, he came clean and told me that he thinks he might be falling in love with me. I am totally fine with that because I am falling in love with him. But with these feelings in the last 2 weeks or so I have also felt myself throughout the day longing for him. Like I could just cry, I want to see him so badly. I know that's not exactly healthy, but not exactly unexpected. I also feel really nervous to call him, I feel like I could be interrupting him or he doesn't want to talk to me...he said he hates to talk on the phone, but he loves when I call and loves to talk to me...so I am kinda at a loss as to what the deal is there. Is this a normal thing to feel? Longing, just wishing I could come home to him? I mean I know he feels the same way, kinda mushy and all...are we deluding ourselves?

maybe we're the exception then. I am not a needy person, I don't need him emotionally, he's not my security blanket. But I love him, very much so. He's a nice guy, a very very nice guy who HAS had those other kind of relationships we're talking about. But it's not always the rule; not all girls who date good-to-a-fault guys are leeches.

Oh sorry, I should have clairified, I am no longer on the Paxil. I titrated off of it, and have been free of it since Jan. 2005 and I feel fine, mentally. The whole sexual thing is what is bugging me.

Alright, when i'd have sex with my ex I couldn't feel a thing... no pleasure whatsoever. There were several possible reasons 1) In all honesty, I just wasn't all that attracted to the guy physically 2) I was on Paxil, which apparently shuts off your pleasure zone 3) He had about 120 lbs on me, was hairy and sweated profusely on me and I'd get so dang cold. Now I have a new guy (the ex got bored and disposed of me like a used tissue) and I really like him to the point in which I may actually love him. We fool around and stuff, and one night he had his finger(s) in me, and was doing something that was driving me absaloutly GAGA! I loved it. But when he does it now...nope. Nada. I direct him on how to find my G-spot; well now either I don't HAVE one, or it's got a special little deal with my bladder and GI system. Anytime he pulses his finger on the top, where it should be, I feel like I have to pee like crazy...but I ALREADY WENT! Sometimes it makes me feel like I am gonna fart...and now we just don't want that! What's going on, huh? Am I just totally screwed over because of the Pax? Or is my body just messed up? I am 25, reasonably healthy, he's 28...reasonably healthy.... what gives?!!!

I was just wondering at this; is there like a moment where you realize the person you're dating is "the one". I wonder this because I felt that about my ex, he felt it about me, like the powers that be created us for each other. But then according to him he grew bored with the relationship, and instead of trying to do something about it, he fled the scene. Now I am dating this other guy. We've been "dating" per-se since mid feb. and been officially a couple since 26th of March. There was something very different about this guy when I first met him, he was very unlike the other guys I had dated. We connected right away and without effort. We felt very comfortable around each other. To me it's like finding a shoe in a perfect size that took little to no breaking in. I mean realisticlly (yeah lets prove she's a bad speller!) in reality we're in the "honeymoon" phase. It's all new and squeaky clean. But before I started dating him, I'd just see him every other week at a friend's house for a game night. I'd get really nauseated knowing I was gonna see him...shaking, the whole adrenaine thing. I could hardly look him in the face. I just knew there was something gonna be very different about him. The ex really hijacked my mind (as they so often do) and so being a spiritual person I prayed that A) the next person I meet is it, and 2) that it would be just as obvious as the nose on my face that he is it. It would seem this is the case. I could go on, but I digress. What do you all think? Is there a proverbial "one" and if so, how do you know when you've met them?

I agree that pressure is bad, but as someone who has had ALL my friends (and I mean it literally ALL of them) get married and pretty much drop off the face of the earth; it ain't fun. Yeah, they're all nice and stuff, but when it comes to socializing with the SINGLE girl...umm no. They'd rather cavort with other married couples and since all my girlfriends were younger than I, like I think the youngest one was 19 when she married...they put on this air like they're superior to you. "Oh...silly little child. she couldn't possibly understand what we as MARRIED women understand...poo poo poo. Poor baby." Their parents all pretty much shoved them into it too... I was there as an objective witness, I saw it. Pressure sucks on both ends; maybe her parents are harping at her about it every minute of the day, maybe her friends are starting to look down on her as the poor, lowly single girl. It's no fun to have engagement rings from your friends shoved in your face when you're 23 or 24 and your friends are 20 and marrying the first guy they date. So, just be aware that she might be pressuring you because she's getting pressure and she wants people to shut up and leave her alone. Really, when all your friends get married it's like they join this club and you can only look in at them having their little garden party.

My boyfriend is a "nice guy" and it's true, his last girlfriends were kinda messed up. His last one who he was with for 2 years was a REAL piece of work lemmie tellya. She hurt him, he won't admit it but she did. He told me I was the first girl he's ever dated that really has it toghether. That gives me peace. I can't understand how anyone could have dumped him because he was "too nice". Sheesh! Isn't that what we're all looking for? A guy who is just nice as can be? I mean sure, I don't want a pushover who's all "Whatever you say hunny!" But, man. I dated some jerks who were emotionally immature and stupid, and it feels darn good to be with this guy.