littlepinkpunk

I posted earlier about something i did while away at college(about 8 or 9 months ago). I put myself in a stupid situation with a guy i was attracted to and he kissed me. I didn't stop him immediately but it was like two kisses and i realized that i had to stop. i felt nothing. i didn't want to do anything with him. i Love my boyfriend and if i gained anything from the situation, i realized that i want him and i am sure we will get married and have a family and all that good stuff. a few days ago something reminded me of it and i've been feeling somewhat guilty. i feel like he deserves better than me. Will i ever get over this and move on?

I never had this problem, but i do have a sweaty armpit from time to time. I recommend wearing dark colored shirts or a sweater or jacket or something over your shirts. See a doctor or dermatologist. this is a common problem that they can help you solve. Also, since you are young, it is something people can grow out of. The crazy hormone changes you are probably having can make your body do things differently, and you may adjust to it. How long have you been having this problem?

i think telling him would cause an unnecessary uncomfortable situation. But it is hammered in our heads so much that we have to tell these things. i think i should keep it to myself. and i guess i just have to get over the guilt. but does that ever really go away?

this is a great idea! i'd like to see more healthy snack ideas... My Famous Chicken Salsa Dip! this is way easy, there is no way you can screw it up because it will always taste like something. two large jars of salsa (adjust hotness to taste. i like a medium and a mild.) Two large cans of chicken [chunks] one can chili peppers one can chopped black olives one can mushrooms. one large package of jack and cheddar cheese (mexican blend tastes great too!!) heat up in a crock pot or whatever, and go crazy. * if you're like me, then you prefer food that isn't from a Can. fresh food works Great, but that just gives you an idea of how much to use.

the man i'm with is the one that i want to be with forever. I can see us a long ways down the road.....(mostly because we're three and a half years down the road) But i did something stupid. I go to school away from home, and in the fall semester, there was a boy in my class that i thought was beautiful, and i really enjoyed talking to him after class. We decided to 'hang out' one day and we ended up at his house. one thing lead to another and he kissed me. I didn't stop him immediately, but it was like two littel crappy kisses and i realized what i was doing. I felt nothing. it meant nothing. But i've kept it a secret. I always felt that there was no need to tell my boyfriend just so he could get upset. I Love my boyfriend, and i care about our relationship. But this stupid thing haunts me. I'll still have to go to college with this guy (not that i'll see him much, but its inevitable) and it will always be in the back of my head. i wish i could just erase it all. i want it out of my head.

dont look into it. i really don't think it was a hint. That is something even I would say, but i wouldn' tmean 'i wanna have sex with out.' i think she was just talking and joking around. If you want a hint about 'the next step' see what happens when the two of you are together and kiss. Even if she's nervous and never done anything with a guy, she'll let you know when she wants more.

you see, i don't want to end this relationship. i love him and i love to be with him, i just don't look at him the same way without a shirt as i do some other people. i don't necessarily want to do anything with a person with a 'more attractive' body. In the bedroom i feel that its just..."in the way" and it would be better and less awkward if things were downsized a bit.

We are nearing the four-year mark together, and i am not really attracted to him sexually anymore. i don't think i ever was really. he's not a "big" guy....just has a...gut. I love fitness and going to the gym, and i've tried to get him to do these things with me, but it doesn't fit with his time-consuming job. I don't want to break it to him that i'm losing this attraction, i just want to work on it with him. I'm not even very picky about the appearance of guys, but i find myself eyeballing others all the time. how will he understand that this is important to me?

i live in a dorm while in college, but i'm not having any luck finding my own place otherwise. is there any way i could motivate him? i think he feels pretty...worthless (for lack of a better word). he's a highschool drop out with no GED at age 23, and working in fast food. he doesn't seem to care about getting to work on time, just so long as he keeps the job. getting fired will mean nothing, because he is probably the most valuble one they have.... i don't know. i just want to save my family. they all deserve so much better.

i wish it was easier to have confidence these days. I'm pretty comfortable with my body until someone ruins it for me. I try not to let it bother me..but it gets to you after a while. I don't look like "most girls." I really like the beach and whatnot, i don't want to be afraid to go.

thsi is what i hate about our society. Its not easy to get on your feet and there should always be someone to help. i'm sorry about your situation..and i really hope you can find someone to help you instead of taking on an extra load of stress.

i say do it, damnit. I'm young, but this is my view: You've been together for this long. And if you're on the verge of breaking up then what is there to lose? normally i would advise to hold off on popping the question. but for some reason when i read this i felt a very instinctive "go for it" but hey, that's just me.

i live with both parents, my brother, his girlfriend, and their 10 month old baby. we all try and have tried to be so supprtive, but my brother and his girlfriend are just lazy. this house has been cramped with us all even before she was pregnant. he works in fast food and she makes excuses to avoid getting a job (21 and can't drive? she avoids learning!) serisously, her excuses are endless. i love them all, and i love the baby, but they are driving my parents insane. They all always fight about who needs to do what, and i don't think they will do anything to help themselves anytime soon. It took my brother until after the baby was born to get a job... we can't really tell them what to do, that's not our place and they won't listen to anyone. and you can see, this isn't the most functional family. I live here on the weekends and the summer, when i'm not in school. and its so cramped. so many mouths to feed and people to keep up with (you think her parents would help..) i hate for my parents to feel this way. and i'm doing my best to cope, but its driving me crazy!! i don't know what i'm asking for. maybe i just need to vent, but i want some kind of advice.

i think the summer coarses would burn me out. I am unemployed, so i will spend summer getting a job and logging volunteer hours. and catch up to what? i don't think i am behind. i don't think its all that possible to be behind. and dovetail, i'm with you ^_^ I'd never give up yoga and i'm looking forward to t'ai chi.

thank you all. you will be please with my new thread.

I want to share my story so that anyone, if only one person, can learn from my experience. The Background: I am the first person i know to ever go to college. I live in a dorm two hours away from my home. I live with a highschool acquaintance. i never fully applied myself in highschool until senior year. I recently saw my advisor and left his office in tears. He told me (not so bluntly) that i had wasted my second semester. I took the lowest chemistry (as opposed to the Majors course) because i was uncomfortable with my previous background. I also took College Algebra instead of algebra and trigonometry, because i thought it was a better idea to take them separately (and much easier to build a schedul around). you may be completely lost at this point, but know this: these classes are basically useless to me. they do count as credit hours, but, in the words of my advisor, it was a waste of time. I was so upset for the longest time. Everyone (advisor-wise) that i have spoken to has told me that i'm behind. and i've put myself very far behind. i felt so stupid. But then i realized..that you just take it a step at a time. I'm ok. and i will continue to be ok. That chemistry class will help prepare me for the next. and same for the math. and many other things i took. I'm always changing my mind about what i think i want to do with my life...but i'm 19. how the hell am i supposed to know? I haven't been around to see what's out there for me. i continue to take the classes i think/know i need. what i don't understand is why they puch freshmen so much. They told me i was "behind." I don't even know what i'm doing in college...how can i be behind? i don't plan to get out in a perfect four years...infact i'm sure i won't. so far everything keeps pointing me to pre-med..so i will most likely end up in medical school...so obviously, i'm not in a hurry. as far as i know you don't have to rush, and it doesn't matter how long it takes you to graduate. This applies to life. stuff happens. it takes time to learn. and the best way to learn is by making a mistake. as much as i've thought "maybe i'm not cut out/good enough to be in college" i have realized that it takes time. i can do this. one step at a time. one day at a time. one assignment at a time. one semester at a time. one year at a time. and i'll be well on my way. I hope that i have help someone out there. By knowing that you have time, and everything will work out in the end. I know i'm ok..and i have a family and friends behind me that would never let me fall. You don't have to fall either.

I know just how whiney the title sounds, but i recently discovered that i screwed up. I am finishing my second semester of college. I saw my advisor today, and he made me feel like i had been wasting my time all year, because i started out with sort of low level classes. I have had aspirations of going to medical school, or physical therapy school, and i am considered an X-Ray tech program. I have very broad interests and there are many things i could see myself doing, mostly medical. My future in college is tough, which is something that doesn't, nor has it ever bothered me. tought = good. But maybe college just isn't for some people. i'm not asking for anyone to tell me "you can do this. stick to it." i want to know what else is out there. how did college become a requirement to life? Isn't there any respectable professions that don't require a degree?

From the point of view of a person on the other side... I don't think any differently of anyone in your situation. In fact, i usually want to get to know these people better because i feel that they may have a strong personality, and that is something i need/like to be around. The only complication is this: i fear making others uncomfortable. I did volunteer work for a physical therapist and that was one of the best experiences i've had. Many of the people had to be brave to go through so many surgeries and the like...i really admired them. i've never gotten along with anyone better i don't know how many people out there are like me (i usually consider myself an oddball)...but i just wanted you to know how I feel... Now i have a question for you: how do i avoid making you uncomfortable?

i have been in a relationship just as long as you, and i'm in a similar situation, expect i'm two hours away from him. All i know to say was that it wasn't right. Boyfriends come and go, even when you think you'll have them forever. Its good to push yourself to move on, but you don't have to change yourself. Be yourself, relax, and enjoy life. i'm very sorry that this had to happen to you, it was something i was afraid of for a long, long time. If you want to find new ways to make more friends, you could take classes at a gym or join a few groups or organizations. the bad will pass and you will find new interesting people. i wish you the best -=D

I am in my second semester at my university, and the "weeding out" process of the premed program is going to drive me crazy. It is my dream to go to medical school, but this really is a heavy load. I've always been a hard worker - graduated with honors, but i'm having a tough time dealing with my core classes. Midterms are next week, and i have alot to do before then. In highschool, i had a passion for biology and anatomy classes, and i did very well in them, but i will admit that i did a fair share of BSing my way through many coarses...and i feel like i'm resorting back to that, even for classes like biology! (what can i say? the lab Kills me!) ((("BS" being doing well enough to pass the class with a good/decent grade, but maybe not fully understanding the material other than being able to pass a test))) From anyone who is or has been in my position, is it really important that i Not BS my way through these classes? or are these just part of the 'weeding out' process? It is important that i make it through these classes with good grades, but i don't understand how important it is to my future to fully understand/memorize the material. this is alot harder to put in words than i thought it would be, and i hope you understand what i'm asking. Thank you for your help!!

thank you all for your help, i will keep it all in mind. The only downside is that i live in a dorm on campus and i have a heavy load of classes, so i'm usually in my room...with all the food -=/ i don't keep much in here, and i'm usually very conscious of what i buy to eat, but sometimes i think i will deserve a little treat, and i overdo it. i'm not all that satisfied with my body at the moment, i just want a little change

i do it often. i love listening to the old 90s songs. they take me back... i know i was only a wee child at the time, but i remember hearing those songs on the radio when life was soo much simpler. and even songs from just a few years ago, they always take me back to a place that i miss. but be happy for now too a while from now you will look back onto new songs, and hopefully they will also bring back good memories.

i, personally, crave chocolate...alot. and i'm trying to be healthier before i have to force myself into a bathing suit. what are some ideas for any little cravings you guys might have? mine, of coarse, is chocolate, and i don't know how to make that any healthier...

this used to worry me too, but don't put that much thought into it. basically, i really don't like the look of a guy that tries to dress to a girl's taste. i do have a weakness for the asian boys, so you have that going for you. take advantage that you don't "belong" to a certain group. My music and taste is all over the place too, but that is because i'm so appreciative of so many things. just relax, be yourself, do what pleases you. People enjoy being around happy, confident people. Take advantage of your situation, and have many types of friends. you don't have to belong to one place.

and i must agree with caldus, i'm very much like him. i'm more independent, and i don't get into the big crowds like many people. Do not overload yourself at first (or ever really) and be sure to take some classes that interest you. I am currently taking yoga as a chance to have a class that i am interested in, get some exercise and relaxation, and another way to have a little fun. i hope you enjoy the university -=D