Jump to content

annie24

Platinum Member
 View Profile  See their activity

  • Posts

    46,889

  • Joined

  • Days Won

    37

 Content Type 

Everything posted by annie24

  1. annie24
    Hi - I'm sorry to hear about your situation. First off, what is this stuff? If it's a few DVDs and an old T-shirt, I would just let it go. The cost of buying new items may be less than the emotional cost of having to track him down. If you do have stuff of more value, I would call him and TELL him that you will be over at such and such time with a box, and you just want to pick up your stuff. Or, tell him to drop your stuff in a box at your doorstep or your place of work. Just a possibility - but he may be trying to "drag out" the breakup because he isn't quite ready to let go of you. Stuff is stuff - you can replace it, but your peace of mind isn't as easy to replace. Good luck!
  2. annie24
    While it is true that plenty of normal people enjoy rough sex and have consenting "rape fantasies," the fact that he wouldn't let her switch her hours at work, and was trying to keep her away from her friends is really scary.
  3. annie24
    Oh, don't worry about it. Like you said, he's kind of an oddball. Go meet another TA now!
  4. annie24
    What I think? They like you, but they're not sure that you're "The One." So, they want to go out and explore their options. But after 3 years, if he hasn't figured out that you're the best thing that's ever happened to him, I think you're best to move on and meet a guy who does think that you're "The One." Good luck!
  5. annie24
    Yes - I am soooo proud of you and so happy that this is your course of action. I too think that your friend will be supportive of you. Like RayKay said, please don't meet him alone. Meet him in public, or with a friend. I'm sure you already know this, but this is the time that he is most likely to do something scary or violent, so if you meet him, bring a friend. Oh, and buy some pepper spray, just in case. And always have your cell phone with you, charged. You can get pepper spray at any sporting goods store or gun shop. You are so strong! I am so proud of you! Please keep us updated.
  6. annie24
    Well - I'm not a guy, but I definitely have an opinion on this subject. I think if you're over 25 and you've been with someone for a few years, yes, you have the right to know where are things headed. There is nothing wrong with wanting to get married and have a family. And there is also nothing wrong with not wanting to get married. If you have been with someone who doesn't want to marry you, but you want to get married, then there is a fundamental chasm with your life-goals and values, so it is probably best to break up, rather than to sit around waiting for the other person to change their mind, or even worse, to pressure them. I know plenty of men who are very excited to get married. My dad was one of them. My mom and dad got married after they knew each other for 6 weeks - and he was the one who was really pushing for marriage! My dad was single until he was 48, I'm sure that plenty of his ex-gfs thought that he just "wasn't the marrying kind," but when he met my mom, that all changed. I don't know why people stay - I guess because they have invested a lot of time, and they are hoping that the partner will change their mind. Oh well.. I've rambled for a bit. Anyways... I think that there should be open communication in a relationship about life-goals and all that. And if one person doesn't want to get married, but the other one does, either accept it, or move on.
  7. annie24
    1. If it hurts when you touch it, don't touch it! 2. Go to a doctor ASAP. Unless you want to post a photo of this lovely oozing pimple, we can't tell you what it is. Doctor - now!
  8. annie24
    Hi - welcome to eNotalone! Oh my god - what jerks! rumors are so lame. I dunno - part of me says, 'ignore them.' The other part of me wants to say that you should get back, like if someone asks you if you're pregnant, you can be like, "no, I'm not. Did you gain some weight during vacation?" or something mean like that.... or tell them, "yes, I'm pregnant, and I'm having quints! Yeah - those fertility drugs really work!"... or "Yeah - I'm pregnant. Your boyfriend's great in bed." hehee... very un-moderator-ish of me.... I dunno... they are lame. Well - they'll find out 9 months from now that you're not pregnant. good luck
  9. annie24
    hehehe... shorty and pixie ... maybe we should become gfs!!! Yes, I know what you mean shorty - it's not like you want to go out and get drunk, but going to get some coffee or watch a movie with just the girls once in a while is fun. I guess if they don't see that, they may only see their friends as a "placeholder" until there is a man in their lives. That is sad. I think you should go out and try to find better gfs. Accept these friends for what they are - good to double date with, and good to hang out when they are single. I'm sorry - good luck!
  10. annie24
    You have GOT to be kidding me! Ummm... Yes! His behavior is completely abnormal. He won't let you quit your job, or switch shifts? Maybe because this is your first relationship, but this is NOT normal! This is really scary. I have been dating for... oh... 11 years now, and I've never had a guy tell me what college to go to, or what job I can hold, or the hours I can work. And the fact that you say he feels like the entire outside world wants to come in between you guys - he sounds incredibly paranoid and obsessive. He IS stopping you from doing the things you want to do. He may not yet be holding you down to keep you from leaving the house, but you said that you hate your job, but you haven't quit yet or changed hours have you? If your bf weren't in the picture, don't you think you would have quit a long time ago? Why does he keep asking you about the rape...? BECAUSE HE IS PLANNING IT!!!!!
  11. annie24
    Nope - definitely not a "women only" thing. Men do this too. However, since I'm assuming you only date women, you've never had men do this to you, and your guy friends don't necessarily want to disclose that they are stringing someone along. But to answer your question, I've had men "string" me and my friends along, and I've also seen women string men along.
  12. annie24
    No.... it may not be too late. Just send out a few e-mails, see if anyone needs some assistance. You may not get paid, but at least it will be good experience and will look good on your resume.
  13. annie24
    hehehehe... I... erm... also had mega crushes on my TAs when I was an undergrad... In fact, I even had some of them ask me out once the class was getting near the end! Then, when I was a TA, my thursday 5 PM section had all the hot frat guys in it! hehehehe... Don't worry about it - that he hasn't e-mailed you. He may be out of town or whatever. Besides, you weren't all that into him, now were you? As for letters of rec, profs will be better than a grad student's. Start an assistantship. It will help you out the most. Good luck!
  14. annie24
    Yes, I used to use some of the MAC concealers, and some are very thick and good - if that is what you need. Like oceaneyes said - take it back. Most of these high end companies do tend to have nice return options. I actually love Bobbi Brown stuff even more than MAC. Because I'm a grad student, the muted, neutral (ie, DULL ) shades are more professional looking for me... But yeah... MAC has some really great shades for a night on the town.
  15. annie24
    Hey listen - you tried to get her back, but it didn't work. At that point, you just have to let it go. I've said it time and again, Princess Diana was beautiful and royal, but Camilla's the one who won Charles' heart. Why people choose one partner, and not another doesn't always make a whole lotta sense. Don't feel like you "weren't good enough for her" or whatever. Like that Bonnie Rait song, "sometimes love isn't enough" or whatever. You know, two people just sometimes aren't right for each other, or it wasn't the right time, or anything along those lines. You just have to take a deep breath and let it go.
  16. annie24
    You mean a beautiful disaster, right? I'm not the one with the bad bf....
  17. annie24
    Undergrad/grad dating usually isn't a big deal unless the grad student is teaching a class that the undergrad is in. And even then, as long as the prof in charge of the class knows, it's not a big deal. The grad student just has to avoid any showing of favoritism. That said, if he's your former TA, it's not a big deal. Remember - you're both students at the same university, so it's not going to be taboo. But, it all depends on the social culture at your school. At worst, some people may poke fun at him for dating an undergrad, but that's about it. And it's not like you go around dating all of your TAs. Don't worry about it affecting your chances to be a lawyer
  18. annie24
    Yes, I can see how a man can get frustrated. However, I can't believe that your mother is telling you to disregard your own religious views! Now, if saving your virginity until marriage is something that is important to you, your bf should respect that! He's been dating you for a year - he knows what he "signed up for." If he wants sex, then he should break up with you, or marry you, or, hell, even cheat on you! BUT TELLING YOU HE WANTS TO RAPE YOU IS UNACCEPTABLE!!!
  19. annie24
    Hi shorty - I'm in a similar situation as you. When I'm in a relationship, I try to make sure that I'm not ignoring any of my gfs. I dunno - I've posted a topic similar to this a few weeks back, and I guess it's just something that comes with growing up. I don't know what you can do, except to remind them that you'd like some one on one time with them, and that you don't have to wait until the bf gets off work to go see a movie, or get a drink. Well - I guess during this time, try to make some other friends. I know that there are plenty of girls out there who won't ditch you the second they find a new man. I'm one of them. Good luck!
  20. annie24
    Hi Hope - I dunno if this will help beautiful, but what was it that finally made you realize that your ex bf was abusive and you needed to leave him?
  21. annie24
    The answer to your exercise question is that your BS meter is going off, as well it should. I don't know exactly what he told his therapist, or what she told him, but I'll bet you any amount of money that if he told her that he had violent fantasies of raping you, she wouldn't suggest that you stay with him, and that all he needs to do is exercise. That's why things don't sound right. Because he isn't telling you the truth - or, he's manipulating things the therapist said. For example, the therapist may have told him, in general, that he should exercise more. However, that's a very broad statement, as most people should exercise more. I don't think she said that in context of the rape fantasy. Listen to your BS meter, ok?
  22. annie24
    Yeah... I'm in a pretty gossipy department, so you may as well send out an e-mail to the entire department asking about the mental status and dating history of the guy. I mean... if you find him interesting, which I guess you must if you're posting about him, then I guess that getting coffee with him once won't hurt... but yeah, like the others said - don't force yourself to like him just because you don't have other prospects. If you want to get invovled with the grad students at your university, why don't you ask someone in your field of interest if they need an undergrad assistant. You'll wind up meeting grad students in the break rooms, or in the weekly seminar talks, so you'll wind up "in that crowd." good luck!
  23. annie24
    That's why she was so great... and totally replaceable!!!! I'm glad you're going to europe this summer - this will be a very good thing for you. Do you have any other life ambitions? Like starting a business, or wanting to do medical research, or something like that?
  24. annie24
    Ug. Don't do that!!! First off, no, the staff may not have the low-down on this guy. This will just incite departmental gossip, and worst off, they'll be like, "this undergrad was asking about you..." and they'll spread it all around the department. I'm in grad school - I know this is what happens. I'd leave all the other people out of it. He does seem to like you. Meet him in public, see how things go. If he starts to creep you out, just say you have to get going to meet your boyfriend, and leave. good luck!
  25. annie24
    Alrighty - Here is an excerpt from one of my favorite books, "He's just not that into you." (And gradle - if you haven't read it, go out and get it!) This is from the chapter: "He's just not that into you if he's breaking up with you: 'I don't want to go out with you' means just that.
×
×
  • Create New...