Heather130

Thank for the advice… Its not that these things are of any major value but it's the fact that me and MY daughter are moving into a new condo (that I purchased), which in fact all three of us we suppose to move into until he dropped the ball and told me he does not want to be with me anymore…Anyways these thing were suppose to be for our new place…i.e. a sofa, books, TV stand, CD player and stuff like that. My family members gave this to us (me) so we didn't have to buy anything; we kept it at his house until the condo was ready for possession because I'm still at my parent house and space it limited. I hate to go out and spend money on something I already have – but I just can't get back. I'd rather spend this money on cloths or toys for my daughter. Ouch eh. I guess as much as you think you know a person….you just never know.

It's been 6 weeks since he broke up with me (very serious relationship of 2 years). He is dating another girl but every time I call him and ask for my belongings he makes excuses as to why I can't get them. What do I do?

Well!!! It's been a week and a half since my very serious boyfriend at the time split with me. The first few days were absolutely unbearable, I couldn't sleep or eat…..but I am glad to say that the hard times have passed and I now feel terrific, I feel like I'm on top of the world….I can NOW see the silver lining and I now know that this was for the best. Soooo now we are at the stage of getting each other's belongings back. We've made planes to exchange this week. My question is………….I've wrote him a very lengthy letter stating that there is absolutely no hard feelings and that I appreciate him being honest with me AND how much I care about him as a person and I'd love to remain in contact with him…. Now, by giving him this letter does this say DOOR MAT …?????

I'm not sure where to start, I'm still stunned. I've been in a relationship with a manic-depressive for 2 years….or should I say was. Yup, he had issues and has issues to this day, but I fell madly in love with him. We have been through so much and I always stood by him no matter what, even when he felt hopeless and lost his job because of his depression (he is doing better now after switching meds), he could always count on me for anything. Now I will start informing you all why I'm here. I have bought a place (me and MY daughter are currently living with my folks) and we were to all move in together, we picked out the carpet and paint color 3 weeks ago, every things was going accordingly. He told his roommate that he was moving in with me and that he would be out by June. Three days ago he told me (4 weeks before our position date) that he loves me but is not in love with me anymore (news to me), he says the thought of moving in with me and taking on the family roll scared the living daylights out of him and he can't do it. He says he lived with a person for 8 years in the past and fell out of love with her and does not want to go thought that again and be trapped in a place he despises being in. He says he is such a loner and loves his loner, beer drinking lifestyle and that he is terrified of making a change that would mess up my life and his even more… He has problems isolating him self a lot, I just figured this would be good for him and thing would just fall into place. My problem is I just can't understand why one minute we were picking out appliances and him being all for it and the next minute he dumps me. I am absolutely devastated, heart broken and confused. I'm ok with him not moving in with me if that is what he wants but to break it off with me and to say he is not in love with me that is a shock. If anyone could help with any advice, I'm sitting here dumbfounded.