wanderer

so far most people have said that it's not the clothes, it's the person. while i agree with this, i also know that when you're a single girl at a party, the guy accross the room isn't going to see your personality, he's going to see you, and thereforeeee the blothes you're wearing. ideally you want him to know your personality, so your clothes should reflect who you are on the inside. don't dress cause you think guys will like it. dress the way you want to and let the guy figure out that you're independent and not concerned with what other people think about how you dress. this can make him more interested. that said, personally i love a cutely dress girl over "hot" ones any day. the kitty ears are a nice touch. make sure they go with your hair though: black ears would go best with your hair.

i don't disagree with what you're saying, but ideally i'd love to be able to stop her from doing this.

i was in this situation. i have a warning for you. let's say the guy somehow gets himself dumped or he dumps the girl you like, or they break up. however you slice it, let's say she's single and she knows you like her. she might start getting real friendly with you suddenly. but be CAREFUL. girls will use the "next guy in line" as a rebound from the previous relationship. this happened to me, at the time i didn't know that i was just her "rebound boyfriend". i'm not saying she's shallow or that this is a guaruntee, but be aware that it can happen, so be on your toes, man! other than that, good luck! be smart, like i wasn't. it was the biggest mistake i ever made.

tell her to stand up for herself if she can. also tell the kid that if he doesn't stop, you're going to beat his pathetic face. i can't stand people like this so i fully condone the use of violence, even against a stupid little pervert who thinks he can get away with this kind of crap. who cares if he's small? he deserves punishment, and this is probably the only way he's going to learn. just don't get in trouble.

i would say don't try to make a point of kissing her. it will happen in time. it's best to plant the first kiss on her when you're both ready for it, otherwise it will get weird. you can certainly use a good oppurtunity to make the move, but don't overplan it.

i'm doing my best to not let her immaturity bother me. what really bothers me is that this guy is totally turning his back on our friendship. he should know better; he knows she already has a boyfriend, he knows i would hate his guts if he tied to get with her. why is he backstabbing me like this when he clealy knows better? another thing; when we were dating and even afterward, she would always tell me how annoying this guy is and how much she disliked him. was she lying about that too?? i understand your point beec, but i can't just let my friend of 12 years just destroy our friendship and ruin his own dignity by being friendly with this crazy girl. this whole situation doesn't make any sense to me. i'm not going to confront my ex about it: i think she wants me to acknowledge that she's doing this. but i simply cannot let my friend betray me like this when he swore to me that he wouldn't give her the time of day.

ok, so you know that my ex gf dumped me 3 months ago. by now i'm getting over her, and i'm actually coming to terms with her new amazing boyfriend that she loves so much and all that. all in all, i'm doing really well getting over her. i'm feeling better about myself and i'm not worrying about her very much at all, a big imporovement from a few weeks ago. but now it's all coming back again. now she's getting friendlier with my longtime friend who i've known since first grade. my friends have seen them going to the place in our school where she KNOWS i hang out all the time. before this, she never went there because she knew me and my friends don't want to see her face. it's like she wants me to notice the two of them flirting with each other. (nobody knows if they have been fooling around or anything, but "flirty" is what my friends toldl me) on the flip side, i'm actually starting to get closer with a different girl at my school, which is great because it's helping me forget about the bad ex. but my friends are suggesting that maybe she's doing this because she's upset that i'm happy and i'm "over" her. they think it's possible that she doesn't want to see me better off than when i was with her so she's going to flirt with my close friend to piss me off. my friend, by the way, is probably sucking it all up because this is probably the first time a girl's been "interested" in him. in the past, my ex would always say she didn't like this guy or she hated talking to him. why would she change her mind so suddenly?? and this guy is my friend, who supported me when she first dumped me, and has been a trustworthy friend for as long as i can remember. now he's stabbing me in the back! i don't know what to do, but i do know that i refuse to let this girl ruin my life again, and i refuse to let my friend stab me in the back like this.

my first kiss was totally unexpected, she was leaving school one day (we were there alone and hadn't really started going out yet but we were really close already) and she says "see ya later cutie" and lays a peck on me lips. it was the nicest feeling to be totally surprised like that by the girl you've had a crush on. i say first kisses shouldn't be big makeouts. you can do that all you want later, and master it and whatever you want, but the first kiss is special and totally unique so its best to keep it simple and let the emotion be the memory, not the actions. that's just my opinion.

yea my ex gf had a guy friend who sometimes called her when we were on dates. it's really annoying and sort of ruins things, especially when you find out that said guy thinks he's her boyfriend, mainly because she told him he was. you have the right to ask you bf about this. he has an obligation to be honest with his response. good luck.

wow 17 replies. anyway, i was thinking about getting contacts, so all your information is helpful. how long does it usually take to get used to them? i'm thinking about them because i've had glasses since the 4th grade and i'm starting to think they're a bother. it's hard to find frames to fit my oddly shaped head and huge nose, and anyway they sort of make my nose look bigger... but at the same time i've grown kind of attached to them..

dude don't even listen to that guy. i'd suggest not asking, but insinuating that you want to kiss her through body language. assuming you're on the couch together, and she's leaning up against you, look at her eyes, she'll probably be looking back at you. nose-nuzzle a little bit (i'm really touchy feely and feminine with this kind of thing, not gonna lie...) or stroke her hair or something. if she respongs positively and doesn't pull away, gently and smoothly go in for the kiss, james bond style. oh man, you're so lucky 8)

i was just wondering what people's opinions are of people with glasses. i'm sure there are a bunch of people on here who wear glasses. do you think they make people look more attractive/mature/whatever? i know it's sort of a vague question but i was just wondering. if anyone reading this has or had glasses, did you like them or do you like contacts better? personally, i think glasses can make a girl look cuter. btw, i wear glasses and i'm considering getting contacts.

looks like fortune has smiled upon you. i would just make sure she has enough time to settle in to her new home and adjust to life without the old dad. other than that it sounds like you're good to go.

when you ask someone to let you know if they want to hang out with you again, and they say they're not busy for a few weeks, i'd say this is a signal that she does want to at least try another date. usually if someone doesn't want to hang out with you but they have nothing else to do, they won't lie and say they're busy, but they'll find the in-between by saying "i don't know what my plans are" or "i might be busy, i'm not sure" these usually mean "no" but still offer that hope for you, which is kinda mean if they really don't plan on seeing you again. but the answer she gave you, i'd say you're good to go with asking her out again because she didn't give you any reason not to.

i draw presents for my friends. my ex has like 10 drawings of mine. well, for my female friends. my guy friends get nothing from me. and don't worry if you can't draw, actually. i like to say i have skill as an artist so that helps me but drawing little doodles that look cute can also have a lot of meaning. draw her! make her something! be creative!

haha we've been keeping up to date on your situation for a while now. great topic title. anyway, as i've been saying, you're doing well. she obviously has a thing for you. if you play your cards right, you'll be in good shape.

i've only had one girlfriend in the past but she turned out to be what you're fearing yours will be. she too had other guy's numbers in her phone (i assume) but only one of them was actually trying to get with her. unfortunetly, that's one too many and when i found out about her cheating, (after she dumped me) i remembered her telling me that the guy was "just a friend" or "don't worry about him; he's harmless". so while i can't really give you sage advice, i can say that it's dangerous to do what i did and assume nothing was wrong or that she was totally honest and faithful to me. i know it sounds kinda paranoid or selfish to say that i don't think you're overreacting, but i think it's justified because you are genuinely worried about her doing this not just for her sake, but for your own - it hurts a lot to be cheated on. i think she has the obligation to be straight and honest with you if you decide you should sit her down and tell her exactly what's bothering you about her going to bars without you and calling you weird when you worry about her. i'm not saying don't ever trust your girl, but i am saying to have a right to the truth and if even if it's not what you want to hear, it's better to know it than to be guessing and find out later when it will hurt that much more. don't mean to scare you, but bad things can happen. i doubt your girl is as bad as my ex was.

hmm, on just a pshyical level; -trim figure (not too sportsy and not anorhexic though) -a bit tall figure -cute face, brown wavy hair not really looking for quality boobitage at this point i guess. though it is a nice bonus.

yea, if she does respect your time, then she certainly isn't showing it. i say don't let her pull you into her web.

well this dude has already been to her house and she's been a little flirty with him already. i think he's good to go.

i'm not so sure you should flat out say "i like you a lot". maybe just "i like you" or play it off cool "i kinda like ya" or something like that. i just think if you say it too blatanly it will raise her eyebrow a bit. i don't mean lie, just personally i don't think you need to tell her you like her in order to ask her out.

here's a question i'm sure lots of people want to know. how do you meet new people, either as friends or for dating? i feel like i'm ready to start seeing new girls again (been two months since my first and most recent relationship), but most of the girls at my school are either in relationships or are not the kind of girl i'm looking for. i go out with my friends all the time on weekends but i find it really hard to meet girls. i'm a shy guy, so i'm not very aggressive when it comes to seeking out new people in the first place. basically what kind of places to go, how to make yourself noticed, etc. EDIT: also, whether you're a single guy or girl, if you want to include anything about what you look for when you want to meet a new person, how you want someone to come off when you first meet them, that kind of thing. like i said i'm sure there are more people on enotalone who have this question so your answers will help a bunch of us! thanks!

i would think it would be better if you didn't do it on the first date... it makes the guy more intrigued and makes him work for it i guess. plus you do run the risk of him thinking it's a one-night stand if you do.

you're asking for advice... here's mine: you're not ready. from the wy you're describing the situation, it doesn't seem like you're ready for that level of physical contact... think about whether or not you really want to do this kind of stuff so early. i will say that 2 months into your first relationship is nothing. there shouldn't be any pressure on you to do anything when you're this inexperienced. let him know if you're not ready, he has to respect your feelings on this. don't rush things is my advice.

i for one can tell when a girl is strainging to talk to me or when she actually has something to say. when i know a girl is talking to me just to flirt, she might be asking good questions but really isn't listening for an answer or doesn't carry on the conversation on that topic. pick one topic that you can ride with, set it up with small talk. if you can get an interesting topic on the court, it can change based on each person's knowledge or ideas and thus become a bit more interesting and personally engaging. have fun with it.