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Another thing to remember too is that relationships are tested by time, and cracks can get bigger. If your having these problems now, and you clearly see he has no intentions of changing, by making excuses for his blatant actions which you obviously dont like, what do you think it will be like 5 years from now. I think he wont mind leaving you with children and then make excuses for leaving. Later in life, you will see how other guys treat thier lady or thier great qualities and you will be wishing that you waited for someone much better, but by then, you may be left with permenent scars of a relationship with him, known as baggage, kids, emotionally distraught, etc. Better to cut ties now for your future.
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You ask if he worth it but you didnt say one good thing about him.... I read your story, and im wondering, what did he do for you?? Your self esteem is obviously low to let him walk all over you like that. Infact I have a hard time beliving that this isnt all made up..... Man, if only Jerry Springer read these forums...
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When reality rears its ugly face (or how I feel like dung now...)
1899 replied to Süsser Tod's topic in Emotions and Feelings
There are a lot of people that do not openly display thier wealth. Some people ride around in old vehicles when they can buy a new one with cash. The salesman probably knew that. Smart salesmen do not profile thier customers. Besides, I believe if you want something bad enough, one day you will have it if you live long enough. -
Yea, im pretty good at taking risks now i think. After having a good conversation with a girl i just ask if she wants to hang out sometime. I just let it out. But so far, all i get is "static", like excuses, or strange looks. But, I realized after I let them off the hook with, "well maybe another time" that I live afterwards and that its on them that they didnt accept the offer. I just move on. I dont care if it is akward afterwards. Most of the time after the incident they dont make eye contact anyway. I think that once you have that part down, you feel good because its not your fault nothing happned.
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Whats really sad is the result..........innocent children bought into the world that some teenager cannot afford (mentally or financially, your choice) to take care of. But hey, its all fun right? And even though it may be your decision, sometimes Joe Taxpayer has to pay for it.
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Well we really dont know what hes doing "wrong". single4good, How old are you? How many women have you went out with? Do women at times flirt with you? Are you self sufficient? Are you shy are outgoing? I suspect it may be your behaviour but with such little information we are all just shooting in the dark. Id like to help you though because I feel the way you do sometimes, fortunatly, most of my "aquaintences" my age are still single and are not in a serous relationship either so i dont feel a need to rush anything.
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Geez, i dont see the big deal. Id be glad to just get a pretty girl that wouldnt mind going out with me, her height is the last thing id think about, short or tall. Imean you have to factor in so many other things, like her "figure".
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Well unfortuantly I fell for the trap of trying to ask her out...... link removed I always wondered why she was quiet only when its just me and her. Now I clearly see that she just uses guys for her ego boost. But thats the last time she will use me.
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I shrugged my shoulders and said because theres nothing to talk about. I was so pissed because I frankly didnt like standing in line to ride a ride, hungry and pay $3 for a drink while these pretty girls stand around and I cant connect with them more than "how did you like the ride?" I dunno maybe im just too straightforward.
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Oh i did. Today got invited out to 6flags by someone else and she and the guy were there too. She asked why i was so quiet and was I always like this.... I feel like im dealing with a bunch of kids that do not want to try out relationships and just want to hang out in groups. Yea I met some nice girls there in the group but i figured i better just let them make the moves so i dont feel like im the only one trying to "make the moves"
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Casualties suffered by my wallet...$5 gas, $25 tickets, $16 food , bough $30 worth of clothes for this outing...jeez
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I posted this in another ongoing thread, but i thought id put it here also. Well, we went out tonight and it was a mess..She was 35 min. late to get home while im sitting in her driveway, i thought it was going to be another cancelled-at-the-last-minute date but she finally did show up after i called her saying she was stuck in traffic. then while we are looking for a parking space at the theatre, another guy called her and talked to her while i was holding the doors for her into the theatre. Then I go get popcorn and come back, the guy is there with her in the other seat! i was like *beep*? Then after the movie he follows us, or i should say i followed them all the way to the restroom before i took her home, he said to her, "lets go see another movie" "i just got off work" "I just got finished working out".... and she said, "oh stop" He even asked for a ride accross the parking lot to his car! i should have just pulled up a seat, and some popcorn and watched the action between these two. I really didint know what to do, Since there were cops standing around i didnt want to get say very much infront of him so I was like, is she going home with me or you? They both were like "it dosent matter" This is the same guy that was hanging off of her when we previously first met in public that my sisters swear she didnt like. And she asked me infront of him that she would like to come to my house some day since she already knew my sisters. Thread: [link removed girl that flirts with multiple guys Does she have a tracking device on her or somthing? Is he on-call 24/7 for her? Someone needs to make a reality TV show about my dating life.. Oh well just had to vent and stop my head from spinning.
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Well, we went out tonight and it was a mess..She was 35 min. late to get home while im sitting in her driveway, then another guy called her and talked to her while i was holdng the doors for her into the theatre. Then I go get popcorn and the guy is there with her in the other seat! i was like WTF? Then after the movie he follows us, or i should say i followed them all the way to my car before i took her home. he was like, lets go see another movie, and she said, "oh stop" He even asked for a ride accross the parking lot to his car! I really didint know what to do, Since there were cops standing around i didnt want to get aggressive so I was like, is she going home with me or you? They both were like "it dosent matter" Does she have a tracking device on her or somthing? Is he on-call 24/7 for her? Someone needs to make a reality TV show about my dating life.. Oh well just had to vent.
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Ok, i dont get into this kinda stuff but from just reading your post, i strongly suggest you start concentrating on your commitment you already put yourself in. I know you are young, but you are not dating anymore. You have a responsibility to work through your current situation. You are doing the right thing, but if he does probe you just be honest and tell the guy you are MARRIED! (whether you are happy or not) end of story! My humble opinon. im out.
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Hmm, never thought about it like that. I just want some usefull experience with the opposite sex really. Its always been guys and my mother and sisters my whole life. Well it just so happens she is no slacker in the looks department. I showed some interest and she showed interest back. Her knowing my sisters may have helped too. Imean it really was easy, which is why im wondering how long it will last. I dont know about what to look for in a personality, ive just always assumed if you both are best friends to each other and its easy for you to talk to each other. Hopefully shes not high maintenance. I really dont know her that well Dre_7, so only time will tell as I hang out with her I guess.
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Thats exactly what im afraid of. I dont want her to think that she is just another number to me. Its not significant that shes modeling material, but it does make me want to call her up and do somthing social with her instead of sitting around on the weekends, if that makes any sense. I dont know these girls personality yet, i figure as long as we get along its ok right? She goes after what she wants. She has SOO much confidence! she walked up to me infront of her friends and called me out and said how cute i was. Then they all started laughing. She will do it infront of anyone. I dont know where she gets the confidence from. I could never do that. I guess im her target now, so i like that, it makes me feel comfortable. No, but its quite funny because I never thought id be in this situation, lol They could atleast be a little less obvious. I know shes going to be hit on by other guys and i dont mind because shes young, and its best for her to see what else is out there and what i can offer her vs. someone else so she can make an informed decision later in life if things get serious. As long as she dosent do it in my face! I feel that when shes with me my job is to show her a good time, no one else.
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LOL,walkingwithaghost, was funny as hell! Seriously, dont worry about it, if shes that picky, you dont need her.
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Thanks guys, I just like to have another point of view on things. Im very fortunate to have recently been reassigned to a new congregation where there are about 8 girls that are all pretty nice hi-class looking, so ive got some work to do I do like the 1st girl, I just dont have strong feelings for her yet. I think shes modeling material actually,like those girls that lay accross expensive cars in mags. Word is that shes an aggressive chick. We went jetsking 2 wks ago, flipped the boat, etc. and its cool because shes not scared of anything it seems. its just that shes young -18- and I feel like im going to be another one of her flings (because of my previous post about her) and wont have much of a chance; gonna screw up but who knows, maybe im thinking too hard. Ive got to figure somthing to do with her Fri. Its funny, when we were at the lake packing up, the other guys were like
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I got a question. If you are casually going out with someone and you see someone else that you are interested in, how do you handle talking to both of them at the same time? Im in a situation where I really dont want to piss the 1st one off since shes been pretty aggressive at pursuing me, and I do like her. We talked Sunday and we are going to hang out starting Fri. She complimented me on how I looked nice today before I left. I want her to think that I really do like her. But theres another girl that I have been looking at, and we constantly smile at each other. Ive talked to her a little and have to do more approaching with her and am more attracted to her because shes older and more laid back. I feel I should just be happy and leave things alone, Imean it may not lead to anything but I also feel I should try all opertunites. I was thinking of just getting the second girls number and just talking over the phone. The problem is I see both of these girls at my church so unless one of them misses a meeting, its kinda obvious if im chatting with another girl. Whats the best way to handle this?
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HajiMaji Good post, yea its amazing how girls cant keep good things to themselves. just have patience.
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OK, im starting out this time with a girl whos sister rejected me over the phone. I felt uncomfortable talking to anyone in her family since I was rejected and Im shure she told all of her sisters. Anyway, we just smile at each other and i would ignore that but i figure I should try, since somthing different happned today. So today after the services im standing against the wall and she slowly walked by me very close (no eye contact) like she was going to slowly stop and i was like "oh man i gatta say somthing" and I said hi and asked for her name first and then after she asked me and I told her, I froze up and the conversation ended there. then she walked away. how should I proceed next time i see her? Would it be best to try being an aquaintance, like having very short conversations when she walks by me and hardly making any moves or being aggressive, like ask for the number? We only see each other twice a week at church so its not like we can just chit chat everyday like workmates. Compliment her? Ask her to get a quick bite to eat? I ask because if you read my previous posts, I talked to her *nice* frendly sister like 3 times and got rejected over the phone on the 3rd although she seemed to like the attention. I want to know what to do since I get stage fright real bad in front of good looking girls.
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I see what you are saying, it makes her feel like shes getting somthing special, like a bargain when you play aloof. But for a shy guy like myself, if a girl I really liked called me to do somthing Id have a *REAL* hard time turning her down. Come to think of it, I did it in person one time, "yea, i gatta work, maybe some day we can do it...etc" but I thought I didnt have much of a chance with her, and that she was just trying to be nice. thats why I did it. But I dont think it made the situation worse, she still would talk to me sometimes, so i guess being aloof cant really hurt that much.
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Yep, this goes on every week when we pass by each other...I refuse to make meaningless conversation with her if shes not interested. I dont want her to think I dont have options.
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Hey, I feel the EXACT same way. If I had $1 for every associate that i have, id be rich. As to your question. I dunno. In fact, if it wasent for my sisters, id woudlnt have hooked up with this girl I hung out with today. She was just one of thier friends. I reeally dont know the answer to your question.
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i am so nervous what do i do!! i dont know if i can do it
1899 replied to naughtycowgirl's topic in Dating Advice
Dont call him! unless he has a good excuse, hes not going to suddenly change his mind, even if he isint intrested in you. I assume he already asked you out before when you were with your ex. If you call your just going to kinda seem desparate, Id call right before you meet to make shure nothing has changed, but thats it. Also, guys arent going to show much feelings that you could pick up over the phone. Or atleast I wouldnt. but who knows whats going through his mind. Think about it like this: Even if he isnt shure about you, if you can get him to go out with you, he may change his mind and like you more. Besides, i think you are just going thru the "I want what I possibly cant have"" syndrome. You are going to have to calm down or you will come off as desparate.