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First of all you need to tell us what type of situation you are in with her. Work? School? Church? Gym? When and how often do you see her? I assume you never talked to her before? basically to get the ball rolling you must treat her like someone else of the same sex. I know, that is hard and you can get choked up but beleve me girls seem to like it when a guy can take the initiative to talk to them first. Just start off with a casual question, Like if your at college and you see her in a very casual situation on campus you may ask, "Hmmm, its a nice day today isint it?" let her respond. Then notice somthing about her and ask her about it like you have absolutely no clue what the answer would be like what is she majoring in, or what kind of car is it that she drives, say that it is a nice ride (assuming you just saw her park it and its not beat up) You see what i did? I made up questions that caught my attention, very casual but is a good conversation starter, somthing that anyone can ask. She cannot possibly slice your throat over it or take offense. Then after the short conversation, say "well i got to go, Ill see you later" You have now opened up a friendly relationship that can be worked on. Next time prepare for more questions, say "whats up" and ask for her name and REMEMBER IT.

I posted this in another topic but i thought it may benifit some of you who did not read it. Im no professional but Im seeing a lot of lonely folks that want women to drop into thier lives. Maybe my experience will give you some insite. Ok, for guys in my age group, if you want to meet girls, you must get out there and go where they are! I used to work at a small mechanics shop down the street from where i lived when i graduated from High school in a little town. After work drove home. Simple as that. Do you think i met many girls? No, other than the one that worked in the office or at the grocery store. Then I got this job working as a security guard in the city. Guess what? There have to be 100's of girls my age that are interns or aids that i see smiling saying hi at me every day i go to work. Every day I see a new ones that may just be coming around to visit, pick up some legal documents etc. Its hard NOT to show intrest in them as they are conversating with me. I didnt get the job for the girls BUT my point is you have to make an effort to go where they are on a routine basis. Job change, school, gym, Whatever. Just think, where would i find women my age? Then try to work on being more outgoing. Making shure you are dressed nicely. I believe women notice that. Try to befriend people around the girls. That way they can see that you are a normal person. And as always, BE YOURSELF.Then when you see one youd like to talk to, introduce yourself to her. DONT show alot of interest, just simple talk at first. Chances are shes in the same boat you are in. Just give her a little to wonder about. Dont smother her with your feelings. Gradually befrend her and just see where it is going and she may draw towards you. This can go for women as well. I dont know much past this point because im not experienced yet...

Hmmm, Then more for me!

I really didnt know some women turn down guys based on height. That sucks! I like women regardless of how tall they are, but I feel that a woman thats taller than me is a plus, (or it will atleast get my attention faster) I dont know why. Im about 5.7 and ive had no problem yet attracting tall women.(Im trying one right now, have to see where this will go) Short guys, I really think it has to do with our self confidence. I really think that if you have that and dont mind approaching then you can attract almost any girl you want, unless its somthing wrong with her.

Well, I dont try to run into her parents, but when they see me they shake my hand and just ask how am i doing. One day i was walking to my car when her mom caught me and asked did i want to join them and the other young folks for a quick bite to eat. I had to kind of decline because i only had about $2 in my wallet.(of course i didnt tell them that, i tried to seem like i had to get somewhere) She then asked her did she want to do anything, but she was kinda looking away too. So her mom after talking to the others said maybe next time.

Ive recently seen this new girl at church who i think looks hot, those ones you do a double take at. Sometimes If im walking in her direction Ill nod at her but she dosent respond back. I really dont know much about her but I finally got up the guts to introduce myself to her after service. I did it infront of her parents since i was sitting behind her. (shes hard to catch after service by herself and sometimes leaves early when she comes in her own vehicle) Anyways, I did a basic intro and i got a strange straightface look like she was a deer looking in headlights. At first I thought she simply didnt like me like, who was I to be speaking to her. I thought maybe she was just a box of rocks up in the head. Not much feedback ya know. She did ask if i came by myself or did i have any family that came along. I answered and I said I met her father, and then her mother shook my hand. At this point I was like, "bail out, bail out" so i said "well i just wanted to meet you beacuse you are new and all, nice to meet to you" and I started walking away, she then said, "uh, nice to meet you" while shes packing up. I also notice when im having a short conversation with her parents she never looks in my direction or says anything when asked by her parents. Surprising because I see her talking and smiling to her girlfriend who also is new who she goes everwhere with, and Ive talked to her dad who is very nice and jokes around with me sometimes when we see each other. Now that I think about it I think she might have just been REALLY shy like i caught her off guard or somthing. If so ive never seen anything like this or this severe. What would be a good way to handle this situation? Id like to find out how old she is, does she go to any school? leasure activites? But i dont want to push this or seem like im really into her until i get some good signals from her. Sorry for the long post, just want to include all the details.

Im a sucker for a girl with Eyes (particularty grey for some reason) and of course a good smile. Ill get sucked right in. Nice firm legs with meat on them, nice length of hair and of course the figure 8. Turn offs: Achne, no matter how nice you look, achne just turns me off. use makeup or somthing. Teeth must be somewhat straight or it all goes out the window. Ryan Starr from the first american Idol is a 10!

Hmm, good discussion. From my limited experience I like women that are slightly aggressive, opinonated (wont hide feelings) but respectfull. This cuts down on miscommunication. A woman that has been through college is a big plus because it shows she is a very motivated person and would not become a leech. Someone you can carry on a good conversation with on almost anything she is fimiliar with(but i guess that comes with being comfortable with you). Otherwise shes got to be really HOT to make up for the lack of the above. Havent met many shy ones yet so i dont know what i think of them.

Thanks for the reply. Im still going back and forth as whether i should advance or not beacuse i know it could easily end in someone getting emotionally hurt if it dosent work out, and the chances are slim.

Same situation here, never was really into girls until now, now ive moved out on my own, and it gets kind of lonely. i kind of wish for a girl to hang out with on the weekends that looks hot and is intulectually interesting. you know, go places together. Just for friendship.. But im now out looking around on the weekends and just getting out there to meet different people instead of the same old faces.

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