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Get a job in the city (really helped me personally) or MOVE! Im currently looking at a move to a major city in FL, hopefully by the end of this year.

Yea, your kinda right. The SuperBeutiful one was acting stuck up after her gf got involved. So there isint anyone else right now. My Dillema is that I have to date in my religion, and my social circle simply isint that big to get a decent selection. Oh well.

I know, I just have no experience asking a girl out and I can get really self consious somtimes.

This one girl Im good friends with her brother. Thier family seems pretty nice. They ask me out alot to the movies, games and such. I feel like if I say somthing to his sister (who never comes with us, and i never ask why) he will think of me differently and look at me crosseyed. He may even stop talking to me. I dont want to mess up a growing friendship. I honestly feel like his sister likes me since she has no problem smiling and waving at me from a distance at church. Since shes out of school right now I see her alot now. And she seems to stop whatever shes doing and stare me in the face when I engage her in a conversation. Im not all that physically attracted to her but I need some practice and I think I could easily like her alot more since she dosent act stuck up. Ive got a lot of good reasons I should try to ask her out and a lot of reasons why I shouldnt. Right now I just smile and say how are you doing when I see her. She responds positively. I know this may sound simple but has anyone experienced anything negative out of a situation like this?

Heck, it would give me more self confidence if a girl out of nowhere in a hallway said that to me. But Im shure that woudlnt happen to me as I dont have much to look at back there Besides, It would definatly break the ice for me to ask her out if I wanted to.

Yes, I work for the government. its who you know. If it was all about what you know, I would have not been hired in the technical position im in. Its about making friends with the higher ups.

Yea, you cant just pick and choose who you want to like you. Poor girls.. BTW, Dancergirl87 IS Hot!

Hot or link removed lists me as a 7.7. No matter how i pose for the camera, it dosent seem to affect the rating. It ususally settles at 7.6 or 7.7. Ive got about 416 votes now.

Yea, ive seen cases where if im eating somthing and I think an attractive girl is looking at me, I loose my appetite. Guess you know I wouldint do too well on a first date.

thats so not true... i do modeling and yea, i care about my looks, but thats cuz i need to. the stereotype that people place on models is kinda sad and there are those out there who arent making it any better for the rest of us. i guess what most people dont know is that there's more to modeling than photoshoots and runways. we're taught how to walk, stand, sit, look, smile, everything. at first you do it just when you have to, but then after a while you do it all the time. i guess if people dont know this then the way we move and come off as arrogant. most of the other models that i've worked with are all normal and totally fun to hang w/. its like, we're expecting you to treat us differently, like we're dolls or something. its really sad. i dont know about other people but i always feel that when a guy talks to me its cuz of my looks. but once we know that you see us as normal people then everything is just... normal.... I said Most...People have different standards and expectations in who they date, Models ususally have high ones. Someone may say, "He/she can do better than that" Just depends on how much effort your willing to put into having someone like that around i guess. Like my mom says about some girls, "You have to come correct"

Let me give you some advice: (You may already have thought of this) Make shure you plan everything out as much as possible. The exact time, day, place, everything. Try not to leave things up to chance. If you dont plan when and how you will meet her she can slip out of it. You may even want to call her back a day before your date and confirm everything to make shure she still has the same plans. My experience was that I said we would meet at a event that was happening in town but we didnt set an actuall DAY (it was on the weekend) so when I called to hook up on the first day of the event she was like, "oh I didint plan on coming today, sorry I shoulda told you" The next day we ran into each other at the event and she said, "oh why didnt you call me" Well I guess i was my fault for not pinpointing the exact day down. Good luck and try to be yourself.

LOL Yep, getting the courage to call a woman and ask her out has to be the most nerve racking thing Ive ever done. Last year I called this girl on my lunch break after I paced around in a room by myself and got her answering machine. Well I imediatly hung up and thought I was off the hook. Then she called me back a hour later. When I saw her on the caller ID I felt I was completely unprepared, like i had my pants down. I answered, then asked if she was busy, she said "uh im at work", (i felt stupid, obviously she wasent too busy to call me back) Then I said Oh Ill call you back later. Well after some phone tag and the phone dropping connections, I finally asked her out. And I have never been so nervous in my life, im sure she could pick it up. She did say yes but stood me up. Mission kinda accomplished. Atleast she knows I like her, and I kinda broke the Ice. Anyway you got you get out the nest and flap your wings at some point.

Did the same thing here, called the number her dad gave me on his biz card. But, I was having a really hard time approaching her because she seemed so evasive. (leaving early, etc.). I got so fed up with not being able to approach her that I got the secret weapon out, the card. So yea, it did probably freak her out when I called too. I probably wont do it again, but at the time, I personally felt alot more comfortable doing it that way.

Yea, my first time was very nerve racking.It was a experience Ill never forget. I also asked the busy question. As time goes on, I guess you will get more comfortable with it. I guess after awile you wont even think about what you are going to say.

you're right...i should probably start developing a better personality. i know it's sad...i never had to develop it. all my life i've been just too used to walking into places and getting attention whether i like it or not. i know my weakness is that im guarded and shy...i KNOW that i wouldn't be able to get jobs and get through interviews if it weren't for my looks. I DO HAVE SUBSTANCE THO...it's just, being quiet and guarded, it's something i wish i could change and hate myself for. i dunno. i guess it all comes down to the fact that i never had to develop personality and i wish i did, cuz after 18 yrs...its kinda late. BUT let's not condone the thinking of some of the guys on here. suggest some ways a girl can prove she is more than looks when the guys ASSUME SHE IS NOTHING MORE no matter what she does. Just check some of what previous posters said....my goodness, those guys ADMIT they see attractive girls as nothing more. Well I think the best thing to do is find hobbies that you enjoy that you can share with others, whatever that may be. Also, most really good looking girls (like models) think alot of just themselves, they want YOU to talk to them. I dont know how to explain this, but try to be the kind of girl that asks questions about the guy, smile more, be more involved in the relationship, make it 50-50. Suggest fun things to do. Ask how the day was going. Its a balancing act. Im not saying throw yourself at him or be overly availible, But dont rely on him to do all of the work trying to impress or conversate you just because theres many guys inline waiting for you. That makes you somthing of "substance", someone that he will feel compelled to try to keep because not only are you good looking but your fun being around. Whats the use of really trying to get to know some really hot girl if you cant have a conversation with her? Be different.

"candieeeegirl" Why should a guy get seriously worked up over a really good looking girl? You just admitted that you get by on good looks. You didnt mention personality. Are you hard to please? Are you high maintenance? Its easy for you to get more dates than some of these guys because of your looks. If the relationship falls apart he will feel distressed about it like he did somthing wrong. He shouldnt think that seriously about you. YOU have to do more than just get buy with your looks. Until you prove that you are more than just looks and that you have a personallity you are arm candieeeee! (NOT saying you dont have personallity, I dont know you) I Never will forget this one girl that I thought was strikingly attractive that I asked out and she stood me up but we ran into each other on different occasions, she would walk by with a differnt guy by her each time. I think her parents help her get contacts though. Meanwhile, im still stuck on the side of the dating road with an empty can of starter fluid.

Im not interested in the latest clothes, colonge, sports cars, and other mainstream stuff, BUT I know im a good person, So with strikingly beutifull women, ill try to start somthing, but my goal is to have them as "arm-candy" (Got that from someone here) or ornamental pieces. I would try my best to be my normal self around them and I certainly would not get my hopes up that they will stick around. I figure I have 10 years to find someone that I fit best with. No use of exerting my effort just to keep one.

Well think about it, if your not a very popular person or have showy displays of wealth, what ARE your chances of hooking up with someone who is a super model? If they realize what they have going for them, they may feel that they can do better than you. As was said, most of the time, the super model chick will not even try to keep a connection with you, why should she if she knows she could get a better deal. Its all about her looks, and in most cases her personality score will suffer. So some guys realize this and focus on someone in thier "league" Its one of those "you need me more than I need you" cases (supermodel talking)

I didnt know women could have lustfull thoughts on thier own LOL

I think hes in his comfort zone and is scared to come out of it. And hes probably thinking that hes probably just misreading you. Probably has low self confidence. But hes got to do a little work or its not going to work. If I was in his shoes and I thought you were drop dead gorgious, i would probably do the same but Id have to loosen up if I expected anything to happen with you.

eagles04, your link to your picture is not valid. Try posting a link to a server with your pics so we can see you.

Come to think of it, OceanEyes has a point, if your interested in a woman its very important that you let her know up front that shes "HOT". I interperet this in just saying this in a playful way or saying im interested in you while smiling after talking with her for awhile. Then you could follow up with asking for the 7 digits or email to continue your conversation later. And it dosent mean you have to be vulgur or over the top. Just be a man and admit it, it also shows confidence in that your judging her.That way she cant say she didnt understand your intentions or thought you just liked being around her as a friend. You simply have to send a clear signal. I know a girl that I honestly cant figure out because she will not initiate a conversation but dosent mind standing around close by to let me start one with her. She is not being aggressive if she does like me. Of course before I use this advice Id first have to determine by the womans behavior in our short little conversation that she was open minded enough to take it as a compliment(and not sexual harrasment). And also if you see someone your interested in its best to start a conversation with her in the first place and not assume that she will magically notice or come up to you. She may have not noticed you until you showed interest. Hey, im thinking of all the women my age that i meet in my daily travels that i could try this on....Like the girl at the jetski store that took my boat in for repair...I had a great conversation about her preferences in boats. Thanks OceanEyes!

This dosent sound like a multiracial problem. Just 2 different opinions on matters. I think that if I was in a multiracial relationship I simply wouldint let certain subjects on race come up unless i couldnt avoid it. Theres bound to be some disagrements on that. Sounds like you need to leave him alone for a minute and not be so clingy. He probably cant appreciate you that much either with you being around so much. Probably takes you for granted. Step back a little and stop initiating so much. Hope that helps

HI, havent been on here in a while. Since then, (september? wow its been that long?) I saw her smiling at me when i drove into a parking space accross from her and her friends car, so they were basically facing me in thier car. Im shure she had a few words about me. I didint smile back, i had my shades on so i acted as if i didnt see her. I just put it in park and walked to my destination. Ive kinda forgot about her I guess. I see her every now and then but I dont look at her. My major problem now is that since Ive quit my job in the city my life is VERY boring. I feel like i work at a funeral home out here in the suburbs. No action here.

I just hope you dont become one of those weak guys that are brainwashed into beleving you cant stand up and take charge when you are supposed to when it comes to women. Its not nessisarily a bad thing to take the lead in activites when your supposed to. And just because you are taking the lead dosent mean your being abusive! Get that out of your head! See? This is what society has men beliving!