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reality is, most girls dont mind being submissive, for example if the girl asks "so where are we going tonight?" and you say "oh i dunno, where are we going tonight?" Thats not taking control of the situation and can get some points knocked off. Stand up when you need to and Be a MAN! Now if only I could apply that when mustering the courage to ask a girl for her number.

if you all have been together for awhile i think that would be great. Talk about being thoughtful!

I think it comes down to how much attention you give a girl in a relationship. Attention in a relationship is like gas in a engine. Give her too much and she'll backfire or die. Give her too little and she'll starve. At first you may have to give her more (like choking a cold carburated engine) until the relationship stablizes. If shes got a load on her, you may have to add a little more attention. Sometimes you have to give her more air to breathe. Just let the speed govenor do the work. Hope that made any sense.

You really dont know how much trouble it may have been for him to muster up the courage to ask her out. I know it was very difficult for me at first. (its like stage fright) And if you just say "I already have other plans, maybe some other time" he may get the drift that your are not interested or you into someone else. If you really are that busy to not give somone you like a date atleast immediately rescedule so he will know your obviously not trying to get rid of him nicely. Some guys are shy and dont want to appear to be obsessive so they are not going to do but so much to get your attention. At this point its up to her to make a move. BTW what do you women mean by "just too easy for him"?

Your worried about making her jealous. I frankly wouldnt care. Go out with her friend if you like her. If she (the girl giving you a hard time) were to approach you about it, tell her she didnt seem interested in you and maybe cite examples. Go the path of least resistance.

Most guys like Medium sized brests. (i dont know the sizes). As for you, Id have to see a picture to give you more details. I personally dont like the little-girl-stick figure. I leave that for sports illustrated. Id prefer a woman to have SOME curves. Ya know, somthing in the back, and somthing in the front.

2, 6, 9, Now just how do you find them in that combination? Usually I find 2 and 9 together but not 6 as far as knowing stuff to conversate about like cars. But I guess thats what the guy friends are for.. My 100th post!

But the thing is you dont have to settle for unattractive girls. There are girls out there that arent 10's but they look good enough that you would have no problem "doin them" if you know what I mean. Id rather have a 7.5 thats physically in shape and nice body that gives me gifts and thinks about me every now and then than a 10 that I have to bend over backwards for or that I always have to initiate the phone calls. A relationship is not all about looks. Its about how you treat each other, hoping that one day that other person will become a family member. Otherwise you could just date total strangers that you have nothing in common with. Then there are people that want nothing but casual sex.... I think that High maintenence is caused by women that have either been spoiled all their life or knows they are so hot and in demand that if you dont do what they tell you or drive the right car they KNOW they could get someone else in a hurry that will, in otherwords they could care less about YOU.

Yea, sometimes the Hot ones are hard to get along with, sometimes selfish, and high maintenace because they dont have to work on a nice personality for a guy to approach them.

It happens that way sometimes. Atleast she was nice enough not to turn you down directly. Just keep looking for someone whos into you. Trust me its much better that way. Also wanted to add that girls like mysterious guys, if your in a social setting like school or work, if you do more listening then talking, the ones that like you will find a way to get your attention. Or atleast it was that way in HS.

"But dont wait to long because sometime they are playing hard to get..." But you asked them out...How am i supposed to know if they really dont like me? And if they are playing hard to get then they have no one to blame but themselves if they find you going with someone else. Personally im going to only ask you out twice. After that you get ignored. I think i deserve more than some cute girl playing games.

Yea, women are kinda slow and give you the run around at first, they have to think about it, unless you are a celeberty or unavailible. They just arent turned on as quickly. When a guy sees a hot girl he likes he makes time for her. there is no question. Really its up to her to go out with you. Youve made your move.If you wait for her you will see if she is serious about wanting to go out with you.

Haha, guys that needed saving, LOL. It seems like that sometimes. The guys with no goals, visit jail on a regular basis or that just cant seem to get it together in life working at a fast food joint always seem to have a relationship. The ones that are obviously stable in life get ignored.

Ok, I see where you are coming from. I didnt see that you already called him the day after the date at the doctor. Oh well just wait a couple of days and email him. Otherwise just wait for him since you called him the day afterwards. You have already made your move.

Heheh, I cant beleve you feel this way. Hes basically inviting you to spend more time with him. He thinks you are a catch. I dont know, If you act like you are not really interested like he thinks you are doing, you are putting him in a akward position to call you back! Thats why he wants to see if you will call. Ask how things are going and then set up a time to get together. When you women act like you arent interested, we end up getting mixed signals, sooner or later we will just move on. I personally dont do alot of chasing if I dont get a lot of positive feedback from the female. RELAX AND JUST CALL HIM!

Hehe, im thinking. Had a young kid (16 or less) tell me I need to put a muffler back on my turbo diesel truck. I smiled and was like in my mind "FU".

Ok, from the picture you sent me, which most people have seen already You look to be upper 20's. Your face matches very well with the clothes you wear. You look like you own a jewlry business. I dont see how a girl would not like to be with you. But im not a girl...You may decide to continue wearing what you like wearing. BUT, you may want to loosen up at times and wear somthing a little more simpler like geans and polo shirt. Im telling you now, you would look cooler. WITH THAT SAID... Ive been know to be the kinda guy with the big CB antennas on my ex-police car. I just like that look. My sisters got on me about that. I personally like the look but Im shure women my age may have been turned off by it so I toned it down by getting just one 12" antenna on my car.

Come on... All this talk, lets see some pictures man.

I read on link removed that some men get in a relationship where the notsohot woman grows on them and they wish she simply looked more attractive. The key is striking a balance between looks and personality. I dont think i could ever talk to a 300 pounder myself, but if a girl has a average looking body and face and not stuck up high maintenance and we love spending our weekends together thats a great combination.

Lets be real. You really want to be seen with a HOT guy you can show off to your friends. I understand. I feel the same way about girls. BUT personality will be put on the back burner.

The "coolest" guys dont dress like that. Nothing is wrong with the clothes, but those clothes are for very reserved laid back people. Personally i dont mind dressing in those kind of clothes but if i was going out with a girl Id have a polo shirt and some bluegeans, sneakers or some BDU pants and a regular black tshirt. Just like you want to be seen out at the movies with a "10" she wants to feel the same way. You dont dress like your married.

Well it looks like we are dealing with a situation where someone wants someone for looks not personality. Simple as that. The guy in the picture would not make an Americal Idol tryout. Hence many girls would rather pass on him. Either you change and increase your chances of looking like a popular person or wait for a mature woman to like you for who you are.

Heh, use a yahoo account or somthing to upload that picture. I dont know, I feel its always good to have somthing your overly interested in. If you dont have that then you have to depend on others for your happiness. I dont think theres anything wrong with 2 people having thier own life. Hey Ill see ya on the weekend, we arent married. I know too many people that cant feel good unless they are out drinking with thier buddies or with some girlfriend.

Another thing too is to realize that most girls our age are not going to appreciate someone like you until later in life when they want a serious marrage type realationship, so just be real, be friends, laid back dont be too availible, not mushy mushy, keep meeting diferent people and you should do ok.

Well I know that ive seen some women that i wouldint look at more than twice if i had to pick them in a beauty contest line up because of flat chest, etc. but once i get to talking to her its like that seemed to all go out the door. I can actually have a good conversation with her! The more i learned about her the more of a catch she seemed to be. Thats a real turn on. Then ive seen women that id pay to go out and be seen with but I always felt akward around them. never could get past small talk. She never had anything to say, not very open, etc. Almost becomes fustrating. Maybe i came accross too needy? I guess what im trying to say is that theres nothing wrong with preferences but physical appearance can only get you so far, after that personality must take over or its just not going to work. Give everyone a chance. Interesting post.