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Well---no, I don't have to cum when we have intercourse... I have before, but I think that he just feels bad because he always does... I don't mind cuming during foreplay and then have intercourse...

Well, I think that you are way to young to be making such a 'love commitment'. My sister is 14 years old, and I love her to death! HOWEVER, if I found out that she was pregnant at her age, I would have to kick her ass. I don't mean to be mean or anything but, there is no way on earth that you should be pregnant. You should use condoms or be on birth control or anything. There are ways to prevent this. Did you not use them? The 'courage' that is quoted above should have been used at the cash register at walmart to buy condoms NOT to be on the internet discussing your unplanned pregnancy at age 13. I think that you are way too young to be having sex, but you need to deal with the consequences. You should have used protection. I don't believe in abortion because that CHILD inside of YOUR 13 year-old body is ALIVE. Abortion would be killing your baby. You need to tell your parents no matter what.... and as far as you telling a doctor to avoid telling your parents is bull because the doctor has to tell them because you are a minor and treatment will cost lots of $$$ and you will have to consult with your parents about insurance. GOOD LUCK! BUT NEXT TIME USE PROTECTION! If you are going to lay down and have sex, BE RESPONSIBLE! ~C~

Ok, dude! Just breath! First off, I know that condoms aren't very sexy, but neither is being a teen parent. You should wear a condom. I am only 19 and lost my virginity not to long ago, but the thought of being a parent (which I am not) scares me. You should wear a condom every time or at least get her on the pill (or shot or something) or buy the spermicide stuff for her (which you get at walmart). Also, in a days, go get a pregnancy test at walmart. I am not quite sure on whether you can get pregnant on your period or not. I think that there is a 'grace' period, but I am not quite sure. Every woman is different, ya know? I would do that. HOWEVER---If you love your girlfriend and are going to have sex, PLEASE wear a condom! Would you rather have to say "Hang on! I gotta put my raincoat on!" or "Mom and Dad---I got ____ pregnant!" I would much rather face a cashier at walmart over my parents to tell them that I was pregnant. Be responsible.. this is your life and hers...... Lemme know if you need more help or what some websites to confer with: email removed

I am sorry about your father and the events in your life that occurred due to his absense. It is a very unfortunate thing when a parent is never around. What about your mother and grandparents? Are they supportive of you? What kind of job do you have? At 23, you can still change your life around. As far as your ex-girlfriend, I would attempt to rectify the situation. Tell her about your newly discovered revelations, and tell her how much you love and cherish her. Tell her that she treated you like a king, but you just weren't ready (apparently) at that time to just love her no matter what her personality was or what her body looked like or what her hair color was, etc. I believe that you can turn your life around. I know that you have been negatively affected by life, but think of how many blessings that you have. You have realized that you are in love (I know that that in itself is a blessing). Try to focus on the postive instead of the negative. Here is what helped me realize that I wanted to turn my life into a complete positive---I realized that I was in love with my current boyfriend and that he was the one I wanted to marry. So, I made a list of goals (short term and long term) that I want to achieve over my life. I pasted it on my wall next to my bed... So, when I get up in the morning, I see it and that is what pushes me to do and be my best... Not the physical piece of paper, but the idea of making my future marriage the best that it can possibly be... not only because I love DAvid, but because I deserve a great life. So, Did that help? Email me if you need more positive inspiration: email removed

OMG! I think that when a guy cries in a sad, love (or whatever) movie it is very sexy.... It lets me know that he isn't scared to be emotional around me. It lets me know that he wants to let me 'in' (not sexually, but mentally and emotionally). I think it is beyond Sexy!

I understand my bf and I are going through a similar scuffle about a girl callin him 24/7. I understand your feelings. Try to make it up to her. Ask her out! If she says no, then ask her for some coffee or tell her that you want to just talk or do/plan something she loves to do. Try to show her that you are trying to fix things. Let her know about your revelations and tell her that you are sorry. Let her know how much you love her! That is the best advice I can give you.

I think that you may be right. I mean it does seem very weird for the girl to have been 'all about you' and then be turned completely off. I mean, that is WHACK! But I think it also may have been bc she asked you if you liked her friend and you said yes! I dunno... Talk with the mutual friend and see what is up! GOOD LUCK

That is sooo cool and awesome! CONGRATS! I hope it all works out! Moral of the story: Guys, call or write whenever you can! Girls love it and it shows how interested you are!

Well, I am currently in a long distance relationship. I can see both sides of this. While you love her and want her to make her own choices and follow her own dreams (while allowing you to follow her), she is analyzing your relationship and comparing it to others that she knows a great deal about. I think that the thing is the distance. My boyfriend and I went from seeing each other about everyday for a year to seeing each other one to four times a month. It is a hard adjustment. I mean, I know when I am here by myself I tend to compare and analyze my relationship with my boyfriend. I would just let her do her own thing until it gets to the point where it is hurting your relationship. Continue to tell her your feelings for her and let her know that you are there for her. I know that the thing that keeps me going and pushing forward and being honest is that I will see David soon and that we are in love. Just send her cards and flowers and small things. The small things are what means most. ~c~

Well, I don't think that there is anything wrong with you. I think that it is just from your lack of 'joy' from girls. These girls are easy to hate or hurt because they hate and hurt others without thought. I would try to focus my attention on other things that make me a better person and a happier person. But I would definitely say that there is nothing wrong with you. You just want some attention, right? ~c~

Hello, again! Well, hmmmm---My fiancee always cums from sexual intercourse. He gets his feelings hurt when I never do... I have, during sexual intercourse, maybe 2 or 3 times. So, is there a position that I could try that will be more effective for me? Or make him occasionally last longer so that I will cum? Thanks!

TRUTHFULLY, I am completely satisfied with how long we make love. He just thinks that since I don't have a complete full blown orgasm everytime that he is lacking some where. I tell him that he is wrong but that doesn't seem to help. So, what now?

I am perfectly fine with the 10-20 minutes and then usually doing that two or three times when we make love in one night. He just doesn't. I was the first person that he has ever had sex with and he thinks that I just won't tell him if I have a problem or am not satisfied. And it isn't that he doesn't make me 'cum' ever... I mean, really, I do sometimes.... He just thinks that he isn't doing a good job until he has accomplished my orgasm.

I think that you shouldn't.... I mean she ended it, right? It has been 4 months. It wouldn't be bad if you did. I just wouldn't. It seems to me that every time I tried (keyword being tried) to do something, like this, that was nice or thoughtful, they would toy with my emotions and head by saying stuff like " well, I think that we have a good chance of getting back together after the holidays." And it never works out that way. She might enjoy it though. If you did get her something, don't get anything too big or expensive or anything. Get her something that you would by a friend.

I am 19 years old. My best friend just 'came out' about 2 years ago. It was hard for him and he did some of the similar things as you. Same ordeal with the parents as well, if I am understanding correctly. Have you tried to contact your ex-gf? Have you told her how you feel? I am quite sure that you have changed in the past 8 years. You were young then. I am at that age, but I believe I act more like I am 25. lol. I would be glad to help you in anyway. Just lemme know. ~Constance~

I agree with SwingFox here. I do praise you for wanting to move on. What would change if you couldn't go with him? Have you discussed this with him? I don't mean call him or email him and bring it up... I mean sit down and talk to him about the entire situation and the outcomes of all possible solutions? Maybe, that would help.. I currently live almost 3 hours away from my boyfriend, but we are fine. We often fuss because we were used to seeing each other at least 3 or 4 times a week and now we just have the weekends. I am sure that if you are truly in this relationship for the long run (and he is too) that all will work out for the best. GOOD LUCK! Keep us posted. ~Constance

1. Colin Farrel 2. George Clooney 3. Ashton Kutcher (the dumb guy of "that 70's show") 4. Jude Law 5. Brad Pitt ~Constance~

I do believe in the quality v. quantity thing also. But as far as that goes. The longest we have ever made love is about 20 minutes (not including foreplay), but the average time is about 10 minutes, I guess. He is also worried about that. He wants to try stuff to make him last longer. So, what are your input on that? Also, I don't want to risk anything with the method that you suggested. I have a very very very irregular 'cycle' so there really is NO telling when I am likely to get pregnant. I do think that, even when we just use a condom, that I am very unlikely to get pregnant. So, I don't worry about it... well, only when he brings it up first. So, any other suggestions I should know? Thanks, Constance

Thanks. I do believe in the quality v. quantity thing also. But as far as that goes. The longest we have ever made love is about 20 minutes (not including foreplay), but the average time is about 10 minutes, I guess. He is also worried about that. He wants to try stuff to make him last longer. So, what are your input on that? Also, I don't want to risk anything with the method that you suggested. I have a very very very irregular 'cycle' so there really is NO telling when I am likely to get pregnant. I do think that, even when we just use a condom, that I am very unlikely to get pregnant. So, I don't worry about it... well, only when he brings it up first. So, any other suggestions I should know? Thanks... Ya'll are the best. , Constance

Well, we take many procautions to ensure that I won't get pregnant (3 different kinds and @ least a condom every time). I realize that everything doesn't have to revolve around 'intercourse'. That isn't the point. I don't want to make love 24/7 or every time I see him or anything like that. I also know that orgasm isn't always the 'purpose' or 'goal' for love making. I know that that is what it is -- love making. THat is what I want it to be every time. I think that I am perfectly aware of that. I am aware that there are three levels of sex: 1. ***ing--The one night stand or mistake or whatever where it means nothing to either party. 2. Having Sex-Period--The casual contact between two people with a slim chance of it amounting to anything long-term. 3. Love Making--A relationship that has been founded and concreted with love then maturing into a sexual relationship, with the intent for long term. I know that my boyfriend and I experience the #3 choice of sex. I know that I love him and he loves me. I mean, hell, we are engaged. I just feel that my sex drive is something that I need to control, but he thinks that there is nothing wrong with me. I beg to differ with him. We have gone weeks (and I don't mean like 2 or 3, I mean 5 or 6) without making love at all! With only 'I love yous', massages, etc.! That was fine! It was romantic and sexy and enjoyable and everything, but by the 3rd week of 5 or 6 weeks we were ready to make love to each other. You see, Making love isn't something that either one of us take lightly. It is very emotional and bonding and binding and loving. We make love and tell each other how good it feels and tell each other how much we love each other and how we are happy that we have found the person that we want to make love to for the rest of our lives. It is more than making love. It is a time for us to be alone and share parts of ourselves that no one will ever get to see or anything. It is very special to us, as making love (or sex in general) should be to all people. So, now what do you guys think? What would help lower my sex drive? Or do you even think anything is wrong or abnormal about me at all? Thanks, ~Constance~

Thanks, Gilgamesh. We always use condoms no matter what, but the other two things are sometimes forgotten. Thanks.... I will try those kinds of condoms... Constance

Thanks Guys! I have tried the "self exploration" deal and I personally just don't care for it. As far as being protected from getting pregnant, I am on birth control, we use only spermicidal condoms, and I uses a woman's spermicide, also. I think that we have the bases covered, but sometimes we forget all of them. So, what else do ya'll think would help? I mean, I could just not ask at all or just let him ask me all the time. So ya'll think that after we get married that it will be better? Thanks, Constance

Hi, all! I am completely in love with my boyfriend, but I have a HUGE sex drive. He says that his is as big as mine, but we aren't married and he is worried that I may get pregnant. He said that it will be easier after we get married. Although he thinks that, I am not quite sure if it is true or not. Do you think so? How can I lower my sex drive? I always feel like I am the one that is asking for sex and I always feel bad because I think that I am pressuring him to do it. He says that he never has sex with me when he doesn't want to, which is a good thing. I want to lower my sex drive so it won't be a problem for us anymore.. PLEASE HELP! ! !