OmegaMan

Flattery does break down barriers, that is very much true. Which is why making a compliment is a pretty darn good idea in the first place. Do not overdo it though, this would create something real akward. É.

You're not the only one in this situation. Trust me, there's plenty of people insecure behind the wheel. The only way to dispel fear is to face it. It's unbelivingly hard but it's the only thing that works for sure. Good luck. E.

Hi again, you probably won't listen to what I am going to say, but I'll say it anyway. Why do you worry so much about his anger impulses? It's over now. Is it possible that you use the friend thing as a front to hide the fact that you still want to be with him? There seems to be a lot of grudge between the two of you which is why: I really think you should take some distance for a while, let the things cool down for a bit. Really some distance is the best solution now. Good luck. Etienne

Dotneter, you've said it all. Awesome advice. It's over. It's very hard sometimes to tell someone they don't love someone else. Because it hurts like hell when someone tells you they don't love you anymore. But the truth is always better than a beautiful lie. He's giving you the: "Oh I love you by I just don't want to be with you." That's a plain excuse, believe me, I've used some of them myself (which I am not proud of.) Love is not about convincing, proving. Alas, I don't have any advice on getting him back, as I don't think it's possible. E.

AHHHHH! C'mon now. I can understand a few hesitations but now... Think about her. If she's interested, and keeps sending you signals, which you (apparently) don't react to by not asking her out, she's going to think you're not interested. See what I'm getting at? Take your courage with both hands and do it. Stop thinking, just do it. What if it doesn't work out, are you going to die from it? The longer you wait the harder it's going to get, that's a rule of thumb in psychology. The more you wait to do something you're afraid of doing, the bigger and more complex it gets in your head. Also, It's not good for your self-esteem. You would feel proud of yourself if you just did it. Keep us informed. Don't try, do. E.

My thoughts exactly. Hmm.. sounds suspicious. As for not thinking of others sexually. Impossible. Every one does it at one point of the other. Those who say they don't are lying to themselves and at others and live in their little magic world with fairies and leprechauns. E.

Wrong. You're seeing to much into this. It requires a lot of courage for a guy to go talk to a stranger female. I don't really have trouble getting along with women. However, I still find that it requires an effort to talk to someone I don't know. In fact, the fact that you're pretty might actually make things even harder! There are so women out there so pretty men are afraid to talk to them, because they don't they they're good enough. E.

Yes, this is sooo true. Etienne aka Omega.

Careful about the step by step thing. It sometimes doesn't get you anywhere, if you keep postponing everything. It's not like you have anything to fear, I think. Anyway good luck, E.

Hmm.. replying to a post in the "Suicide" section always makes me umfortable. It's always a very delicate thing. One of my good friend died that way. It's all very tragic. It's like an atomic bomb, you would think it's over when the explosion is done, but then comes the radiation, and they last for years. Ok, I know this wasn't my best metaphor ever.. Ok, from what I've read everything is going to poop just now. Ok, first things first. Facts or Fiction? I don't believe you suck at everything. That is defitely an overstatement. I don't want to some kind of snobby psychologist on this one, but when you get depressed, you try to find even more reason to be depressed. It's quite a destructive cycle really. Ok, here's the bottom line: The internet will not be sufficient for this. I personally believe you need real support. Is there anyone who can listen to you? Anyone at all. I've seen 3 different people, psychologist. It helps, just because they listen, that doesn't make you a weirdo. Then again, I am rather strange in some ways. Remember find some support, you have to let it all out to someone who will really listen. I'm sure that, if you think about it, you can and will find someone who will be interested in hearing what you say. E.

Ok, ok. That part about the cleavage kind of turned me on so I will tell you what I think (joking...well.. half-joking). I personnaly would never date a mom but that's not about me. Then again she does sound kind of cool, I laughed about the pointing at the hair thing. From what I've read of the hints, c'mon man. Honestly, you don't have to be Sherlock Holmes to figure out she's interested. How many more clues do you need? Quite frankly, this whole story delighted me. Kind of lost in translation, the other way around. Go for it. There's no doubt about it. Keep us updated. E.

Humm.. that's actually a rather good question and a rather intriguing (is that how you spell that, oh well.) observation. I never thought about that. Maybe you're right. I know it freaks me out when things get all serious. I never was a big fan of the NOW we're together. So you belong to me..." Maybe that's just my fear of commitment. But I know for a fact that loads of other guys feel the same way. My advice? I you want something serious, I don't believe you have to mention it literally. I mean, if a relationship is serious, it just is, isn't? It's not one of those things that can be negociated and discussed at the very beginning is it? I believe it just comes naturally. E.

Here's my advice, it never proved wrong: Do not enter the door of friendship if you are looking for something more than friendship. I'm not saying it never works out when you start as a "friend" but most of the time it doesn't. If the girl ever tells you at some point: "Ahh.. you're such a good friend." It doesn't look good. My 2¢. E.

I think everyone enjoys someone deep. But that's just my opinion. Well I do at the very least. As for emotion talk. I don't know about that.. E.

Yeah that's one way of seeing things. Everyone seems to enjoy talking about mundane things. I study social intervention, 90 % are girls. You know what the worst part is? When they start talking about guys to ME. What should I say? I don't care about this guys shirt! I don't even care about my own. I've always used my looks to get along with women. Unfortunately, I can't use that with men (well, fortunately). I probably make a whole deal out of this (like I always do). I wouldn't say people in Canada are WAY more open than in the states, though. It's not like you can start talking to someone you don't know. I would like life to be that way. Anyone could speak to anyone. I think people wouldn't feel as lonlely or resentful towards others. Etienne

Good stuff, very interesting. Thanks Puma. I don't like to talk about soccer either. I don't have many guy friends. Hanging with girls suck sometimes (not in a sexual way). Etienne

I liked your advice except maybe the hypothetical part. I would be afraid to be thrown stones if I did that. However the rest is all good. Thanks! Etienne

Hi Sphinx, But generalities are boring. Like talking the weather. I sometimes pray internally for someone to rip my soul out when I'm stuck in an elevator talking about the weather. Is there any way to skip this? Etienne

Am I the only one out there who doesn't know what to say? When I meet someone, I don't have a clue as to what to say. I like to talk about "deep" things so I don't know how to small talk. It's gotten to the point where I resent talking at all. I just stand there and say nothing, less stressful. The other day I saw a guy getting electrified at the library, well, it was quite a smashing story to tell. But those things don't happen much. Also, do you think it's normal to speak to strangers? I crave for new contacts in my life but don't know how to approach people. Thanks for any advices at all really. Etienne

I feel your pain, smalltalks drives me mad. Etienne

Sebulous, your girlfriend is melting hot. image removed Look at those eyes. Here's mine: 1. Green eyes (AHHH! Green eyes, beauty personified) 2. C-sized boobs 3-Small behind. My ex had a rather large behind, a wide load some would say. Sounds superficial, but so true. Etienne

? You know beauty is just something that humans like. We all like to look at something that is pretty. I'm sure you feel the same way. BUT, that doesn't mean looks are EVERYTHING. However nowadays, looks take way too much room in human interactions (I think). Good looks help, but they're not the only thing. Etienne

Ah man, that's a enotalone.com classic, the good old pickup lines. Why don't you just ask the girl out period? I've never used a line and it always worked fine for me. Just be confident and to the point. Do not go like: Well... hum.. could you please... hum.. go out... with me, if you don't mind and all that. You'll sound desperate. That would be my advice. Etienne

This has been discussed many, many times. If you want more information, you might want to use the search function and type nice guy. Some interesting points were brought. CHEEEERRRS! O.Man

In Vino Veritas I too believe that the barriers disappears when you are drunk. Which often leads to some very... interesting situations. Omega Man[/img][/i]