StrawTink

thanks alot guys or girls i should say........ Im doing the no contact thing and i will take a test on tuesday probably. i wont be on here for a few days. and you guys are right he is a super jerk. he needs to grow up and realize that we arent in fifth grade. that we are adults. the problem is his parents allow him to act like he is a child because they clean up all his messes. anyways, im off to have fun ad do stuff i want to do. later wish me luck.

so do you think he will wake up and see how wrong he was? i kind of want to know that he will feel bad about all this. not that i would know how to respond. if he does want to make ammends and be my friend its on my terms though. im not going to talk to him unless hes calling to say sorry and make it right.

Ok so its like this im three weeks late on my period he broke up with me august fourth. kicked me out of his place on august 20th. i had been living there for about six months we were supposed to be moving in together. until that is he dumped me. Recently we had tried to be friends agreeing not to act towards each other in a negative way. tonight however, he called and cancelled on a movie we were going to see thirty minutes before i was supposed to meet up with him. i asked why he said he was tired i asked what he had done all day that made him so tired. He said none of you fing business. i told him i couldnt do it anymore that i wasnt going to be talked to like that and i would be by to pick up my stuff...... which included my cat a motorcycle he had been using and my cell phone that i was letting him borrow. he said fine we are done. he was like i cant believe you always do this when you dont get your way and i was like im done doing this. He hung up. i tried calling back left a message stsing i was omw and that i wanted a call back to know he was going to be cooperative in me getting my stuff. he didnt call back i got iover there called asked that he allow me to get my stuff he said yeah but you arent coming in. so i went to the door knocked a few times then he came to the door told be to be patient he was getting my stuff together. 15 minutes go by no stuff. i call and knock and knock and knock. no response i feel like an idiot sitting outside waiting for him thinking he might just be sitting there laughing at me. so i knocksome more and say hey can you just start putting stuff out here so i can take it to my car? and then i look downstairs and a cop is walking up. i go down explain im just trying to get my belongings and his dad shows up. I am 25 and he is 24. im going hmmmm why is his dad here. find out from the cop that his dad called the cops. Story is that i had been banging on the door and that there was no reason for me to have acted this way. that he broke plans and i blew up. i told cops i didnt blow up i was just not going to let him talk to me that way on my phone and while using my bike. told them i was possibly pregnant. the cops were so cool about it one of them carried my huge monitor down the stairs for me and the other one told me that she hopes im not pregnant because i dont need this kind of stuff in my life. she also asked if his parents knew i migt be pregnant and said that i should tell them because they might have a different attitude towards all of it. anyways, he has blocked me on messengers and all that which i care but i dont at this point. i just want to know why they treat you like you are a piece of garbage after its over and how i can deal and move on after all of this if i might be pregnant? any help or suggestions besides not talking to him ihave already decided to do that. i just need some piece of mind at this point. Wish i was

i do disagree withone thing you have to say vert . your "good guys never leave" on your signature. they do leave especially if they think the bad guy way is the thing to do. i had a good guy he left. so i have proof that they leave.

ok i was with him for over a year i've known him since i was 16 we were always friends. he wanted to date me i gave it a chance. now 2 months after the break up he is telling me we will never get back together because we didnt get along. DIDNT GET ALONG? is he serious? how did we not get along? yes in the last few months we fought. but, it was over the stupidest stuff. things where he would get mad and im going WHAT ARE WE FIGHTING ABOUT? i dont think i will ever get over him. i do believe he is the right one for me. i just think he needs to figure out how to be towards me. which honestly he wont because he's got way too much pride. the bad part is that im 3 weeks late on myp eriod i have taken one test and it said i was not. My fear is that i am and i wont abort. Long story behind that. i dont know how i can deal with him dating other females while i might be carrying his child. will he grow up? probably not. why would he? he has no reason to. do i want to be with him? yes with every bit of my self. does it hurt? yes it hurts so much i try not to think about it. i just want a second chance to make things right. why are people so quick to call it quits? i guess its easier than holding onto a great thing.

hi, i am a girl and im going through the same thing. My best friend who was also my boyfriend. decided after a year and a half almost that WE DIDNT get along. how could that be the case when obviously we did at one point. We started fighting over small stuff and from there we just kept fighting. i wish i could go back and change my choices. I can't and i also cant change the fact that my period is three weeks late. He is now talking to other girls who obviously make him happy. And we will never get back together. How do you deal? you cry you mope you cry some more you hope beyond all hope that they will see that it wasnt you who was at fault but them. you hope that they will change their ways and be that person who makes things work. And then you one day realise that it must be them who sees this no matter how long that may take. But, also know that if they really loved you it will happen. They just have to love you more than they love the pride they carry around. its all about the ego and their willingness to accept their mistakes. Let's all hope that love will take over and do the right thing.

i have a huge regret in my relationship with my ex. He pushed and i pulled. I would love to go back and just let certain things go. i think some of our stupidest fights would have never occurred if i had just let the small stuff go. i am an overanalyzer by birth. I cant avoid it. What i can do now is trust that if this man is to be the man in my life for the rest of my life....... he will come back to me when we are both ready to do so. He had insecurities as well as I did. What I need to do is work on my own stuff so that if and when the time comes for us to be together again i am a wiser stronger woman. That way it will be a stronger relationship. But, i do trust that when it's time we will both know. I know he misses me as much as i miss him. Hopefully that will be enough for us to work our issues out. MAY WE ALL HAVE A LITTLE BIT OF FAITH, TRUST, AND PIXIE DUST ON OUR SIDES AS WE ALL WANT TRUE LOVE TO WIN

everyone has a right to LIVE their life the way they want to. Key word is LIVE. A person impacts so many around them when they choose to end their life. It might not even be someone they currently know maybe it is someone that they were going to meet in the future. We as humans alter the world in so many different little ways. What about the children you would have had? Or the kids you already have? What about your future spouse that you never get to meet? There is always a reason to keep going. We are never given struggles in our lives that we can not handle. We just need to come up with better ways of handling them. And it is ok to reach out for help. We are all fragile. The more we acknowledge this the better we can cope with our own tragedies.

btw she is in an icu at he hospital and is still angry. she acts like she wasnt trying to kill herself and that my dad is this evil person. im very confused. i dont know............

ok so i have used this forum for my own needs. trying to get back my ex whom i thought i needed soooo much. well, last night or rather 3am on sept 15th i got a rude awakening. I was trying to sleep in my room when my dad hollered for me to go into the kitchen. my parents who i am staying with temporarily had been having a dia=sagreement for the better part of the night but, seemed to be keeping it mildly toned. i was not prepared to walk in to a room where my dad is asking me to have my mother "tell me" what she has swallowed because she refuses to inform him. he is holding her in his arms she is barely able to stand yet she is trying to push more pills into her mouth. not a very easy attempt considering my dad is bear hugging her. so, i start asking she starts refusing. my dad asks her to let him drive her to the hospital. she starts saying that she just wants the pain to end. it gets foggy to me here..... but all i hear is her say that it is her personal choice to do what she wishes with her life. you want to know my answer to that? ok well, i'm making a personal decision to pick up he phone and dial 911 instead of try and talk a not so mentally stable person into going to the hospital. i'l llet the paramedics do that. how am i able to sit here and type this? dont ask me maybe its because im in shock that my mom would do this and i havent quite let it sink in. who mind you at 25 really wants to deal with their mother trying to quit on life? a little discussion could do me good right about now. i dont think when a person sets to ending it all they realize that they arent just ending it all for them. someone loves them unconditionally and even if they dont see it they need to be aware of it. i make no apologies for my actions. and it was extremely hard to look my own mother , whom i love more than i love anyone, and tell her i made that call. i wont back down on it. because while my dad was trying to negotiate extremely crucial time was going by. ok anyone thoughts??????

detox ......... i thought you didnt care weither or not she wanted to be friends or what have you i thought you didnt want her back? if you dont want her back quit dwelling on an email. if she wants more i think she would do more than email you. start worrying when you have a missed call from her on your cell and your voice mail is all messed up and you didnt get the message. that's when its real. email and ims are convos but they are so artificial. lack of tone and misunderstandings stem from emails and ims. if hse wants more she makes it more personal.

ok Max.. i totally agree with you im not trying to come accross like i hate anyone who dumps me. i dont hate my ex. I love him i think he's a great guy. i knew where the problems were when i was with him. that's not it. he didn't want to go through the lumps. he likes easy street. that's how he is about everything in life. ive been able to evaluate that kind of stuff now. and i think it is ok to get back with your ex just like you said. im just saying dont dwell on what they are doing or if they are thinking about you. or what will work to get them back. ive made that mistake. been making it. it just is a waste of time.

i think max is right all my exes have eventually wanted me back. unfortunately its usually been too late. i usually have moved on to something else or someone rather. the point is why do we want them back? they've left us cold and alone and often soo confused we dont know which way is up. what we all need to do is quit talking about them and talk about all the things we are doing without them. quit dwelling on them they are not at home worried that we dont love them. they dont care. if they do they will call or bang on our door. in the meanwhile keep yourself busy and start opening your eyes there might be someone better outthere for you. you just cant see them because you are too far up your ex's ***. SO take your time back dont spend it on them.

ok man that was some tear jerking stuff you wrote. my thing is you do love that person not just the memories. and you both might have loved each other deeply (given time and situations) but, one or both of you couldn't get your stuff together enough to work it out. does that mean you were in love with the idea of love? no it means you were still growing as a person and couldn't figure out how to include that person in it all. that is why people need space so they can figure out themselves. the problem is during that space they sometimes figure the other person out too. and maybe realise they don't want them anymore. and yes people become mean and cold and immature they have to they are protecting themselves. but, dont for once think that they wont cry or be sad about it. nostalgia hits us all at some point and if there was real love there were real memories that they wont be able to ignore. Love really is what and with whom you make it. we need to be stronger for ourselves first and then be strong for the relationship and only through time can we get to that point. even though time really sucks. maybe they dont always come around but, the ones with real love inside them do.

ok so ive done some serious thinking............. he has some major anger issues. like looking back on the relationship i see now that he would get mad i mean really mad over the smallest things i would do and i would always get on the defensive. and i know that in his past he had some issues with anger. i tried to bring this up after we broke up and he blew up talking about all this stuff that i did wrong to him and he just cant let go of the things i said or did that shouldn't even matter. he said he wanted to work on squashing stuff that was wrong with us so that we could atleast be friends but it seems like all hes done is avoid everything since the break up and he doesnt seem to care. i want to be his friend at some point down the road but i dont think i can be anything more simply because of his overreacting to simple things. what i would like an answer to is " how can i talk to him about getting his anger under control because when he is angry he just loses it he's not violent he just throws all sorts of hurtful things out there that he later wants to take back. How can i get him to see this without having him go off his hinges. and potentially damaging it more?"