nona021

Hey, I'm a chick and I'm an 18 year old virgin. I used to think that I only ever wanted to sleep with a guy who was a virgin. It would be nice, because it would be a really big deal for both of you, and your sharing something. However right now the guy I really care about definitely isn't a virgin, he's my age but hasn't been in the V club for almost four years now. Initially that was a turn off because I thought it meant that sex wouldn't be a big deal for him like it woul dbe for me, but now that I know him better I've realised that if the guy cares about you, he'll care about it because it's YOUR first time. When it comes down to it, emotionally atleast for me, as long as your both important to each other, your V status isnt much of an issue. Sorry that was kind of a rant, but there it is

hey, im not really credible since I'm a virgin also, but personally I find that oversized "members" are quite a turn off, so I wouldn't worry about it at all. Also, keep in mind that just as guys have differing sized penises, the, um, 'depth" of a girl also differs greatly- there are alot of girls who simply physiologically don't have room for a massive penis, so it would make sex fairly unpleasant for them (or so I hear from all the other chicks out there, Also, since your concerned with giving the girl a good time I'm sure you'll be a quick study and will have things pretty well figured out quickly. Good luck with it all!

Hey, I'm sorry your hurting but I have to agree- it seems like your mainly jealous of her ex boyfriend for having her time and attentions. Would you be this eager to win her back if she hadn't moved on from you so quickly. Your pride is hurt, and thats valid and to be expected and something you'll have to work through (and will heal from in time) but you had important reasons for breaking it off with her. She wouldn't accept your kids? Thats a huge issue. And if you felt like you were always signifigantly more 'grown up' than her in the relationship, thats another reason why you guys would be bound to run into problems. This is for the best.

hey, i'd like to advocate for your ex here actually. Try and sit in his shoes. Lets say you start going out with a guy you really like, and ask him outright if he wants to kiss you, and he never says yes. To him it probably seemed like you were dancing around the subject so you could avoid kissing, and specifically, avoid kissing HIM. I know that he had that little tidbit from your friend to boost his confidence, but he was likely so nervous that it didn't take much to make his self esteem plummet. He could have broken up with you because he was embarrassed. Also, you may consider holding off on the kissing, as you seem really anxious about it. Try not to worry so much about the scenario, or how its gonna be. Just let it happen, and find out that way (its really the only way). Few first kisses are massively spontaneous, and your guy was probably prepping you since he knew it was your first, and didn't want to shock you. Anyway thats all just one perspective. Don't stress, and don't try to rush things. Remember, it's all gonna happen sooner or later and later isnt a bad thing.

Hey, I posted earlier, maybe a month ago, about I guy I met and really hit it off with. At the time I was wondering how many of you believe in the hockey player stereotype, because even though he's a really great guy and I like him alot, most people around me told me to stay away from him because he was a hockey player. Anyway, I got over the stereotype, but the thing is he was called up (to play hockey) earlier than everyone expected so our nice little fling was cut short, ~practically~ before it started. I was pretty sad, and still am, and think about him more than I'd like, but thats not the issue. We see each other on msn a fair amount, but never talk. We've only talked twice since he's left, and that had to be... about three almost four weeks ago. He's REALLY shy, and unfortunately so am I, which complicated things in the past (When we first met we both liked each other but only told our close friends, who told each other, who then shared the info with the two of us, I know, very junior high.) Anyways, because he's shy I decided I'd initiate conversation atleast once, so I said hey once and we ended up having a fair sized somewhat flirty conversation, it was fun (not on of those monosyllabic msn things) and so on, but we haven't talked since. I can't bring myself to initiate another convo, I'm basically waiting for him to, otherwise I'll just feel like I'm harassing him or something, but we've been on msn a few times now at the same time and nothing. If he wanted to talk to me he would, right? My question really is, I guess, should I give up at this point and accept that we don't talk anymore, or should I try one more time?

WOW do I ever COMPLETELY know how you feel! These crushes are crippling hey? There's a guy I was somewhat involved with, moved away and now, almost three weeks since I've last seen him, I still can't completely get him out of my head! My advice? Go out, meet new people, even if you don't meet someone 'new'. It distracts you and reminds you that there's a big world out there, with lots of wicked people. Hope it helps, let us know how your doing!

My advice- be gutsy! Do something like strike up a conversation and suggest the two of you do something sometime (IE. Start talking about something you know she might like, like a certain movie, and then suggest the two of you go see it together.) Girls LOOOOVE a guy that's brave enough to 'pursue' them.

I've asked a few of my more 'religious' friends as well- but they've never really given me a straight answer- apparently it's all just 'gross'. I'm sure there are more detailed reasons out there though

I've gotta agree with Ash. Your girlfriend probably doesn't want you to beat her up, just to be a little more pushy. Alot of the times girls can be turned on when a guy seems to NEED the sex- makes them feel wanted. So be a little more forceful, but there's no need to scratch her or shove her into a wall.

Yes, you do need to have a talk with her, right away. Explain to her that you don't feel like you can trust her at ALL because of what happened, and because she continues to see this other guy. If you DO feel that you two can fix things if she cuts him out of her life, then ask her to do that, explaining you realise it seems extreme but its something you need, and that if not the two of you can't be together (you NEED trust) Good luck.

Question One: Well, all girls are different. What will attract one girl to a guy will turn another off, there is no right or wrong. I know personally that on occasion, if I'm feeling down or a little insecure, I like it when a guy will randomly compliment me. However, it paints a bad impression of the guy in my head- someone who's only interested in one thing, ya know? Question Two: There is no surefire way to tell if a girl likes you short of asking her. If you don't feel confident enough to do this- watch her body language, but try to be realistic. This means don't read too much (making more of something than it is), or too little (dismissing a flirtatious signal because you find it hard to believe she likes you) into anything. Extended glances, especially smiles, thing like that, are pretty good indicators that she likes you. Best way, in my mind, is to invite her to do something just the two of you, no one else. If she's eager to accept, then you've got a good shot. Question Three: My best advice in this situation is not too. You don't want to be hanging around waiting for someone to break up with someone else. You'll miss out on the tons of other great people there are out there. Not to mention she'll probably notice you haven't moved on and become uncomfortable. If, however, you two happen to find each other when she is once again single (and you are as well) and things start working in your favour, then go ahead, but try not to force (Use your intuition.) Hope that helps a little!

She's messing around with your emotions, likely not intentionally, she's just confused is my guess. This isn't fair to you as she's giving you mixed messages- if this continues neither she or you will ever be truly apart or together. It's great that you guys want to be friends, but it seems like right now your relationship is anything platonic- however it IS causing you pain as your continually stuck in limbo. Maybe tell her that even though you still want her in your life- you can't have it halfway. If she's chosen she doesn't want to be with you, she has to accept that as well. If she's changed her mind, maybe you two can give it another shot, but she has to change her mind ~ALL~ the way. Good luck, feel better!

Wow, kay, you obviously are very sexually frustrated. You've told you girlfriend how you feel, and thats great. But just make sure- did you explain in detail how you feel? That you feel unnatractive, like a 'pervert' (you aren't) for wanting sex that she doesn't? Have you asked her why SHE never feels like having sex? She likely doesn't even know why. It could be a huge number of reasons- she may even have wacky hormones after being pregnant (it does happen). Explain to her the strain that this puts on your relationship. Thats the best advice I can give- but hang in there. You obviously care alot about this girl, but your feeling rejected. I'm sure you guys will work things out. Good luck!

Hey all, This is a weird post, and some (or most) of you may shake your head and roll your eyes as soon as you see the title, but bear with me. I've recently met a guy, really nice guy, a little shy and we get along really well, things were going great. It's kind of a non issue since he will have to move away in a matter of days.... just over a week. Anyway, despite the fact that we connect really well and have a good thing going, nothing can happen because he has to go away to play hockey. Yep, a hockey player. He was up front with me from the start, and told me right away that I should know he had to leave in a month. I know all the rumors and stereotypes etc etc. I'm always pretted guarded and excessively careful when it comes to getting involved with guys, and avoid 'players' like the plague. My question- how many of you out there believe that a guy can be a hockey player and a good guy? Where I'm from there are alot of hockey players and an equal amount of people who've given me cr~p for getting involved with one, even though he seems trustworthy etc. Could he be an exception to the rule (stereotype) or did I finally get fooled. Stupid questions, I know, but response v. much appreciated.

sorry bud i know this is harsh but you can't DO anything to change how your girlfriend feels, thats an internal change in her that you probably can't alter. I feel for ya but save yourself and try to move on. I know this is harsh but it's what will probably help you in the long run.