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Well, in that case you are justified in taking whatever decision you make. It's either he's selfish and just using you or he has social anxiety and is unable to express himself to you. Either way I don't think you'd wan't to stick around for someone like that. You deserve better.

My philosophy is that sex should be reserved for matrimony. A couple should take time to know each other before. Here what I believe to be a suitable timeline: 0 months Man meets woman, they start spending time together 6 months Start holding hands and other physical contact 1 year Start kissing 1.5 years A bit of petting 2 years Marriage (if the relationship has progressed well thus far), and sex thereafter. Of course, opinions differ, but I believe this is a foolproof way to have a fulfilling long term relationship. The 'McDonalds' relationships that are taking place these days fail miserably after a few weeks because peple are not taking the time to get to know each other first.

Thats where you're wrong mate. Yes, getting an email is easy. The good thing about it is that you are bound to meet less resistance from the girl. When you write her, you have more time to think than if you were on the phone. Hence your chances of screwing things up will be less. Its much harder to explain who you are over the phone to a girl who has given you a number if she gets hit on typically twenty times a day. If you take the email route, you will set yourself apart from the bunch of s*ckers who would have approached her that day.

If I were you I'd take the confrontation option.

First and foremost find out if she shares your feelings. If she doesn't, then find other things to do that will make you stop thinking about her so much. It would be a waste of time to think about the unattainable. If she does, great.

He might have an explanation for the silence. What if he's seriuosly ill?

Give the guy a chance. A few days without communication and you are already moving on? Some commitment that is

Talk to her as you've always done in the past when you get back. No need to ask her why she was offline all the time. If she wants to explain, thats up to her. Girlfriends' friends usually give the wrong advice. I would always tread with caution where such advice is given.

By smiling and constantly checking you out, she has done most of the hard work for you.

Are you saying the guys who don't act nice and 'doormatty' get friendzoned??? All evidence posted in this thread suggests otherwise.

I agree with most of what you said MushroomGod, except that I don't see any problem with getting details from a girl that you are not familiar with. In this situation I would ask both girls for their numbers . No need to stick around and be familiar. You have all the time to be familiar when you hang out with her. I wouldn't say anything about 'going out to dinner' to a girl that I had just met.

They'll act nervous around you and maybe avoid eye contact or prolonged conversion with you. At the same time, he might find silly excuses to talk to you just to make you realize that he's interested.

..Sorry for the double post, but I just had to add... You can also boost your confidence by ensuring that you are in the best shape. You don't have to look like a meathead, but a bit of brawn in the right places can do a lot of good to your confidence, not to mention your health.

I agree with the two posts above. Take each interaction with a girl lightly so that you don't put undue pressure on yourself from the start. Personally my confidence is derived from success in many other areas of my life. I have a lot of talents that continually reinforce my confidence. Perhaps you could find what you are good at, explore it to your fullest potential and from there your confidence can be boosted when you start reaping the benefits of that talent.

That doesn't change anything.

I agree ghost69. Personally I'd steer clear of any 'cuddling'. Its likely to send the wrong signals, either about your orientation or your interest. Off the cuff, I'm beginning to find your evilbat somewhat irritating, mate. No offense

He souunds like a shy, insecure guy who believes he is walking on eggshells - he doesn't want to risk saying anything that you will disapprove of. Thats why he doesn't ask much.

Wow, you must be a natural with the ladies. Next time she calls, meet her. The laid-back approach is effective but it also needs to be kept in check by pull-release technique. At this point you need to do a bit of pulling.

^ I agree completely.

I'm a man too but I feel I have to comment here: Agreeing to your girlfriend every whim might look sweet and charming at first but the novelty soon wears off and she will start to get bored. Thats when things can turn bad.

Its better to eliminate the shyness from your life...

She told you that she loved you. Now she expects you to take the lead in the relationship. If you don't she will feel that you don't love her in return. No wonder she is acting strange.

Give it time. Maybe two weeks. In the meantime, don't be afraid to make other friends.

YOu could look for another girl, taking this experience as a lesson.

Its OK. Some guys are just the cuddly type who don't place too much emphasis on becoming physical too early in the relationship.