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  1. I get the same feeling too recently so you are not alone.
  2. As I menzioned in the OP, a strict upbringing and repressive parents can also make children remain in their shells all the way up to adulthood.
  3. Dont you think you're a little young to be thinking that you're gay? Give yourself a chance to discover your sexuality.
  4. Interesting contributions... I donĀ“t know about the astrology aspect Raekai - I have 3 Capricorn friends who are painfully shy. Hackuuna Matata brings out an interesting point: could it be possibly that someone can be perceived as shy yet they are not shy but just enjoy being alone and not talking too much?
  5. Thanks ActionJackson (nice name btw). This forum will help you to improve your relationships. Just stick around and browse all the forums regularly and ask for advice. All the best.
  6. Thanks for the post Jadedstar and all the other contributors. I guess being shy would not be a problem if the shy people were not worried about. Most people (I may be generalizing here) see it as a problem because it interferes with their happiness and they would feel much happier if they could just come out of their shells.
  7. I tend to agree with Batya's reasoning. If a man is not capable of initiating a relationship with a woman then there are likely to be more problems in future. Lots of other things will need to be initiated later on. Will he wait for her to initiate the first kiss etc? Women generally want a man who takes the lead. A man should wait until he is mature enough to ask a woman out before starting dating. However, if a woman asks him out and he is prepared to take the initiative in the from then on I see no reason why the relationship cannot succeed.
  8. Thanks for your contribution Dan. I found this link which you may all find interesting to read which shows that shyness is strongly related to the family setting: link removed Keep the insights coming.
  9. You bring up a very important point GettingBetter. I have noticed that academic prowess can bring popularity and positive reinforcement which instills confidence.
  10. ^I'm glad you're getting over it! Is shyness something that disappears when one hits the thirties? Coz there seems to be very few shy people beyond thirty on this forum.
  11. Thanks for all your insights. Due to the large number of posts confirming this, I have also added this to the original post: (4) parents not having friends (i.e also shy), can unwittingly school their children to be shy. (5) a physically/sexually abusive parent can totally erode a child's confidence and make them shy. I also realised that: -being brutally taunted by kids at school can also lead to withdrawal and shyness -some physical condition/trait can lead to self-consciousness and in an effort not to draw attention to it, one can become withdrawn. Situational shyness: Like the aerobics instructor mentioned above, some people can be shy only in certain situations. This kind of shyness is easy to overcome because you only need to realize what is making you uncormfortable around that particular oerson and deal with that trigger. I have also seen some people who are completely uninhibited when in a crowd but clam up in one-on-one interactions.
  12. Just be friends then. But I'll bet that if she told you that she wasn't attracted to you, then you'd get attracted.
  13. A virgin @65? Maybe you need to share more about your life experiences with us her angieluu. Welcome to ENA.
  14. OK. Very insightful. I've been offline for some time now due to work commitments but keep the experiences coming in. I will respond soon. Welcome to ENA Luca Brasi.
  15. Equinox, take your time to get to know this girl. If she sounds too good to be true, then there is nothing that time will not eventually reveal.
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