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  1. papalazarou
    I feel for you D I really do. Its really crap that she wont goback on the medication. Mine did try without then it started to creep back in so she had no choice but to go back on the medication. She tried to fight it and failed.
  2. papalazarou
    Funnily enough it was during a rough patch that I stumbled accross a Superdave thread on google (You want your ex back? Things to avoid certain dooooom) and since then I have to say this site has helped me enormously!!!!
  3. papalazarou
    Thats a bummer man. At least mine knows it and is taking the right medication for it!
  4. papalazarou
    Im fine my dear. Went to see Madness at the Bighton Centre last nite. My "ex" came with me and she stayed the night. She even talked about weddings and marriage last nite (we were engaged before the split) so I think I can take this as meaning that she is now thankfully thinking about "us". It also means that her medication is now kicking in. As I said to my mate Darren - now that the medication is kicking in lets see what happens now. Basically we had 8 good months together then 3 months of "crap" where her depression kicked in, then about a month of being separated while she sorted "stuff" out and now she has been on medication for about 6 weeks and she has been as good as gold. As she said "I was a right * * * * * to you, but im sorry as I was ill". So whilst im a bit cautious its going in the right direction...plus now that she is receiving treatment I want to know whether we are truly compatible or not. What I dont want is to think what if? What if the medication did work - could we have worked it out. At least this way I know for sure! xx
  5. papalazarou
    Write a reply and then post it here without sending to him...?
  6. papalazarou
    Heyy Pisces...you hang on in there babe. We will get thru this together xx
  7. papalazarou
    Selfi...very quickly what were the circumstances of the "split"...
  8. papalazarou
    Well done futy this is wonderful news!!! As you know we have certain similarities in our situations and im happy to report that things are moving in the right direction for me as well!!!
  9. papalazarou
    Dont try and convince her of anything for a start. Only speak to her when she contacts you. Dont contact her. In the meantime as the others say...keep busy and when she asks what have you been up to...hanging with friends, getting on with hobby whatever... Finally and most importantly no more letters or telling her how you feel!!!! SHE KNOWS HOW YOU FEEL YOU HAVE TOLD HER ENOUGH TIMES!!!!!
  10. papalazarou
    Yep if I knew mine was dating Id give her a wide berth!!
  11. papalazarou
    Possibly but then how would he approach it? Hello XXXX fancy a XXXX. Or take you away on trip and "wine and dine" you....?
  12. papalazarou
    Yes. Yes I would. But enter with caution as you have been hurt before. But that goes without saying.
  13. papalazarou
    Right im going to be as honest as I can speaking as a man. If one of my exes agreed to come away with me for the weekend (they probably wouldnt but thats another story lol) then I would definitely be thinking some "action" was on the cards. Especially as it is just the two of you. I would also say that it sounds like he is hedging his bets. See how it goes with you because he either hasn't had much luck being single or just started dating and is not sure... So I would say, speaking as a bloke, that he only has ONE thing on his mind at the moment and thats not a reconciliation or even to talk about the relationship. Sounds to me like an expensive seduction. Thats not to say that he may not change his mind after that weekend of course. However I would be careful because he may get what he wants (action) and you may not get what you want - reconciliation. Or at least a chance to take steps towards it. I think you do want a chance to talk about it or a reconciliation because otherwise you would have said no to the trip. Just my opinion tho!
  14. papalazarou
    To a certain extent that was me but then my "ex" started getting treatment for her depression...
  15. papalazarou
    Wow! Hope for us all then!!!!
  16. papalazarou
    Excellent news! Im sure we will see each other between xmas and new year even if not on the days themselves...Im ean we have both got each other presents!
  17. papalazarou
    Hi Princess Not sure at the moment about xmas/new year. Dont really want to push it. I believe we may see each other xmas eve but what I have done is make plans not involving her... My mates understand the situation and know she can come along as well if she wants...which she might do because she knows them alkl. Thats about the best I can hope for at the moment...
  18. papalazarou
    He still thinks of you, thats a good thing... Yes it was ok Princess! Actually spent Saturday and Sunday with the "ex" and it was very nice, things are moving along nicely. Im trying to be as unobtrusive as possible at the moment...but the good news is the drugs appear to working much better now!! So lets see what happens whilst she is on them. But it is hard because I know that I want to see her all the time...but cant. Not because she doesnt want to but I need to also deal with me being a bit clingy and needy.
  19. papalazarou
    I dont think he will meet anyone else! There is no suggestion of that! Dont think like that, otherwise you will go stir crazy.
  20. papalazarou
    Yep cant help thinikng she is plan B. Personally I wouldnt even have the cheek to ask a girl out that I used to see about 10 years ago....
  21. papalazarou
    Very good advice mate!
  22. papalazarou
    I agree with Dreamguy...DONT get your hopes up but by all means be polite and text her back like Dreamguy said.... If you are after a reconciliation well she may be holding out an olive branch.
  23. papalazarou
    Absolutely. Some people would advocate wait for her to contact. Some people will say that she may be the type that will never call. In a way it shows CONFIDENCE to make that contact - especially if you didnt split in a bad way - abuse, drugs etc. But of course when you make that contact you gotta be strong enough to hear the word NO. When you know you are ok with that then you are ready. As Superdave says when you are no longer thinking of them...
  24. papalazarou
    Probably Im the same as you! Im the one who is shall we say more 'sensitive' and for awhile things were not great between us. I didnt know if I was coming or going and that showed in my attitude towards her, mainly in the way I spoke to her. Mind you she has now said that she wasnt in a good place either (because she was ill) and could see why I did it because her words, not mine "I was a right * * * * * to live with and im sorry i kept going on at you" . I wouldnt say he is being cold, maybe a bit careful. I think he knows that he cant pull the rug from under you. I think that when you are better he is prepared to give it another go..start afresh as you say. It sounds to me that he is quite caring...without getting carried away. Thats how I was with my "ex" not stand offish...but im here if you need me and took a step back. Certainly I would be all guns blazing usually. It was difficult because I remembe her saying only a couple of months ago, the doctor says im depressed...i need to simplify my life...that means I cant deal with a relationship now. That was hard to take but after one "emotional" moment about 2 months ago we are now working on a reconcilation. In fact she has now said how much she loves me and how much I did help her even when she was being a "right * * * * *". My ex also got anxeity (I believe a side effect of the medication) and its taken about a month for this to ease off. As she has said sometimes in the morning she is "spaced out" and has good days and bad days.... She now views us as back together, hence I use "ex" because I feel we are on a slow road to recovery. Alot has changed since the split. Although we split twice...both can be linked to the depression - the first time because she didnt know she was and the second time because she did! Can I just say that these people being close to me and getting depression is nothing to do with me How did I cope? I dont know really I suppose you just have to try and stay strong yourself. Its difficult but I do pracetice a martial art so maybe that helps?
  25. papalazarou
    I suppose that is what NC does. Gives you time to heal and gather your thoughts. Do you REALLY REALLY want them back? Good luck dnozzle with whatever the outcome mate.
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