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  1. papalazarou
    Devast You MUST treat this as for real and that its over mate. Its hard to say whether she is confused or not, but what I would say is that whatever you do will be wrong. So do NOTHING. That is why its important to do NC. Heal yourself first buddy.
  2. papalazarou
    Well Im just trying to be honest and but thru any B/S!
  3. papalazarou
    It could be seen as a red flag on your part if you say "I wish you wouldnt say that" or something like that. It could open the door to why? "because xxx did/did not do that"
  4. papalazarou
    Right three females so far... Ok mans point of view. You broke up with him to be with someone else? Well I would expect sex in order that I was the last person you slept with and threfore remembered (even tho I KNOW it doesnt work like that)...it also cant be easy for him to think of you and the other bloke together. Call it a man thing if you like. In a way you should appreciate his honesty (although he could have put it better), and I hate to say it but if it doesn't happen then there could be trouble ahead and arguments about the other person WILL rear their head. Good luck!
  5. papalazarou
    Mate the only thing you can do is APOLOGISE one last time for what you did and then leave her alone. Tell her she can contact you if you wish BUT you must try and move on with NC.
  6. papalazarou
    Unfortunately they dont erase memories...just open doors and scramble electronic equipment. **geekalert**
  7. papalazarou
    No you dont send it. Post it here. As you said conversation isnt working so you must do something different. That something different will be NC. I hate to say it but at the moment it could go either way with her confusion, so the best thing you can do is disappear, although I appreciate this is very difficult. Im sure she will respect you more for it as well.
  8. papalazarou
    Only if you are prepared for him to say "thank you but I dont want to meet". It could happen, tho I hope it does not... I would just deposit the car money in his account telling him you have done so (because its the right thing to do) but he may not reply, thats the downside.
  9. papalazarou
    I think she wants to see what sort of effort you are going to put into this relationship. The change she refers to is down to the reduction in hours or the more time you make available for her and indeed yourself. Do you have a hobby for instance? These are the sort of changes shr can see...
  10. papalazarou
    It depends on your friends as well. If you arrange to see them and they know you and the ex are not seeing "eye to eye" then I am sure out of respect for your feelings (and the ex) they will see you whenever you want but maybe not both at the same time. So you would not have to engineer anything, you will probably find they will do it for you!
  11. papalazarou
    I think we need a bit more background celene. What were the circumstances of the split? How long have you been apart? Making a wild guess, if you split amicably and been apart for awhile maybe he is hoping you will reply so you can take tentative steps to reconcile?
  12. papalazarou
    rus. I to am/have been going thru a similar thing. IF it is depression this can be quite difficult. I too have had conversations like yours in the (recent) past. The ONLY thing you can do is let them know that you love them and care for them and tell them they can contact you, BUT you MUST leave them be. You MUST also take care of yourself as well. Believe it or not it will please her to see you are getting on with things - maybe a new hobby or doing something you have always wanted to do. Its up to you if you want to hang in there buddy. What I would suggest is that you be as unobtrusive as possible but at the same time realise that it could be over as at least that way if it does end then at least it wont come as too much of a shock.
  13. papalazarou
    Well done FUTY!!!!!!! Im proud of you. I think our circumstances were somewhat different in that our "exes" had depression and when that is thrown into the equation it does kind of muddy the NC waters a little bit.
  14. papalazarou
    In a nutshell this is an excellent summary!
  15. papalazarou
    I wouldnt want to be friends with someone who has dumped me. Being dumped hurts harder than being hit by a truck. But hey we are still friends and I secretly hope we may get back together so I will take another beating. I also would not expect anyone to want to be my friend if I dumped them. Why should they be after I hurt them? The only caveat to this is if it was a MUTUAL breakup.
  16. papalazarou
    Pulp are Sheffields finest - FACT
  17. papalazarou
    No offence taken. Indeed in other posts you will see that people have asked what to do if they bump into an "ex" accidentally. The advice is simply be civil to them and be polite - just like you have said! NC comes from making contact with them deliberately, my take on it is that you may just head something you dont want to "please leave me alone" or "I hate it when you keep ringing me begging me to take you back" or WORST of all "Im seeing someone else".
  18. papalazarou
    No one I suppose really...it just seems to be good advice to help you get over things...
  19. papalazarou
    No. She is messing with your head my friend. If she wanted you back she would have said " I want you back in my life please can we try again"
  20. papalazarou
    Im doing fine at the moment mate...we have recently been taken over and they are implementing a new computer system. Its a nightmare!!! I think you are doing very well at the moment personally babe, Im still lurking you know!!!
  21. papalazarou
    Hi Parsley! Sorry I have actually had to do some work recently, which is most annoying as it eats up into my Enotalone time!!!
  22. papalazarou
    It is hard isnt it...I would say it is natural to feel exactly like that. It sounds as tho you have healed quite alot and yes he probably thinks well I wont bother contacting her again as she has ignored a few calls/texts. I would wager alot of people secretly hope NC will get them back together - even tho we know it is not for that purpose. Maybe you are now at the stage where you could contact him to say hello howe are you. You will know if you are healed because if he didnt talk about getting back together and it didnt bother you either, then I would say go for it. But then he may ignore your calls! If that thought makes you uneasy then its probably best not to call... Its tough!
  23. papalazarou
    Right. Some people have a phobia of spiders for instance - thats a fear not GUT feeling. I know it is dangerous to jump off a hight cliff without a parachute - thats common sense not a GUT feeling. I may have a voice telling me thats dangerous - but its common sense nothing more. Knowing in your gut that your wife is having an affair or that your g/f is seeing (or very close to seeing) someone behind your back (finding out and finding it to be true) - thats GUT feeling. Nothing to do with fear or phobia (or lack of) common sense, thats how you distinguish it.
  24. papalazarou
    I dont know Pisces. You have come a hell of a long way by initiating NC if you read your posts, so is it a mistake as such - probably not. Hes probably not contacting you because he has given up for the moment , out of interest if you did contact him or he contacted you and you answered, what would you say/do?
  25. papalazarou
    I have said on previous posts always, ALWAYS trust your gut feelings. Twice I have and twice I have been proved RIGHT.
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