chemica
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Why do women always pursue jerks like these? I'm sorry, but guys like the one you have described just offend me. This guy will move on the second a better arrangement with less attachment is found. Unless, you are with this guy for purely casual sex, I am stunned as to why you have not broken it off with him.
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Unfortunately for me that is video games. And unfortunately i have realized that these are a huge waste of time. And unfortunately since I have promised to never play them again I am really depressed.
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Hi awals. I grew up in kind of a dysfunctional family too. My mom would take every problem she ever had out on us and tell us she wishes she never had us. My best friend, my sister, commited suicide and it has been even tougher since then. I have only now started to realize how much my messed up family has really effected, and in many ways caused my social problems. I plan to start over in a completely new environment the day after I take my last final in college. I dont really look at it as much of running away from an old life as it is finally starting one. I wish you the best...
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Wow, this is so perversely true.
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I was on both prozac and wellbutrin, but I recently quit wellbutrin. Not long after a friend of the family died from a seizure two weeks after starting wellbutrin. The autopsy was not able to find any other cause of death. Apparently, these seizures are fairly common problem with wellbutrin (estimated 1:1000 which is quite high). I would recommend a different medication tbh. I noticed no positive effects from wellbutrin and switched. Most medications will give you problems like you stated early on, but they should wear off.
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my boyfriend's past...sigh...need some help..
chemica replied to head_heart's topic in Relationship Advice
If you had to ask him for you to find this out, there is probably a lot more that hasn't been revealed that you may not really want to know about. I would say dump. -
I agree with Superstar, there is at least someone well suited for you. You just need to look hard enough. ALSO, the kind of social trend in relationships is much more widespread than Finland. Most relationships end quickly and casual sex is a social norm in America. Not everyone is like this though, even in societies that endorse it.
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Exactly RedQueen! As you said Eto, it is all relative. Happiness is relative to sadness. People will always look for something to compare themselves to. All you will have is smarter, more attractive people, more genetically 'perfect' individuals who still hate each other and are unhappy. And I would disagree with your analysis of utopia Eto. By your logic, America is a Utopia as even though you may think it is evil, there is at least one person who has achieved an ideal position due to its social/economic structure. In order for there to be utopia it must be ideal for everyone in the system. thereforeeee I think Utopia is quite impossible.
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Self-acceptance, coffee shop culture and fitting in...
chemica replied to jimpster2005's topic in Personal Growth
Kinda feel the same way Caldus. Also going into my last year of college and didn't make any real close friends during the first 3. Hoping to put myself in a position so that I will be better at making friends when I am working. Gym, Church, and my Krav Maga training sessions are where I am usually able to meet people. -
Totally agree with this. Guys who foster this kind of double standard give all guys a bad name. This kind of crap really irritates me because I can assure you not all guys are like this. What always amazes me is that girls seem to chase after guys who are like this and ignore the good ones, and then wonder why things didn't work out. Ugghh ](*,)
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Orlander, someone as nice as you certainly doesn't need myspace to get back into dating. People often lie about their age on myspace to lock/unlock certain security features, and you don't want to get mixed up in that world. As I and everyone else has said previously, you will do fine...
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Then what exactly is your question? You are not affraid of her cheating on you and yet you have more of a past than she does. If you are still struggling with this, I honestly think you need therapy before entering a serious relationship. You seem to hold your potential gf's actions to a high standards while you have absolutely none for yourself (if you were willing to sleep with her on the second night). Oh, and sleeping with her on the second night she be much more of a red flag than her past. I think it shows this kind of behavior is not completely in her past.
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Sadly...you might actually be right about this.
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Is there point in being in a relationship?
chemica replied to skyblue1's topic in Relationship Advice
Heh, I would not use this forum as a benchmark for what a healthy relationship is. The relationship advice on this site is often like a blind man trying to describe a sunset to another blind man. Don't get me wrong, I have seen some bright people with good advice on this forum, but definitely the minority. Generally, people in successful relationships don't waste an hour a day on internet forums listening to other's problems. The truth is that this is one question others can't answer for you, or even provide very good insight. The only advice I can give you is to base your decision on whether to pursue relationships on your future goals and not your past experiences. Always learn by the mistakes of the past, but don't let them ruin your life. -
Females get hit on a lot period. The fact that they become jaded by this causes them to view them all as the same and ignore the nice guys. Orlander, I seriously wouldn't worry...you seem like a really nice guy. Plus, many guys are not in your kind of shape in their thirties and have a reason to worry. Just don't give up.