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  1. jamin
    In all seriousness, this is a rather large age gap for someone your age. I know you probably have a large crush on this woman but remember that no one is perfect. Just because she is flirting with you doesnt mean that she wants a relationship. In my opinion, it would be better if you look for someone close to your own age.
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    Hi, First, I want to let you know that at one point in my life (when I was about your age) I was also very depressed. My brother was dying with cancer at the same time that my parents were getting divorced. I didnt feel like I had a purpose. It was a hard time for me but I made it through. I stuck through college and worked on creative outlets for my pain - writing, drawing, photography, and painting. This may not be the answer for you. But try to find something that you enjoy and are good at. Know that any one person can make a difference in this world. Through college I learned that I love to teach, so one day I will give back bye doing that. Life is special. I hope that you find peace in a safe way.
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    The nature of your friendship has changed now. Still, you need to find out what he is looking for and if this is the same thing that you want. Maybe he does not know what you want because you just ended this other relationship. (You also bring up a good point of him being busy, he is a boss) He might be as confused as you are, so talking about this would be good. Hopefully this helps and I am not rambling too much
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    He could, but it depends on what kind of person that he is. You need to be straightforward with him. Tell him that you are looking for a relationship and not just a one night stand. This may or may not turn out well for you. But atleast you will know what he is looking for. It is also good that he isn't your boss anymore, because that can be very complicated. Best of luck to you and take it slow if you want to have a good relationship
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    First I would like to say: Please put spaces between your paragraphs because it is much easier for us to read it that way. I know that typing can be a constant stream of thought. I agree with you for not wanting to get his family sick. One of my brothers had cancer, and has recovered, but we had to be very careful to avoid him if we were sick. There must be some underlying issue. It is hard for me to believe that he would dump you just for not going to his house on one night. Most likely, he has issues from his first marraige. His comment "if we started out like this it would always be like this" probably comes from frustration in the first marraige. Two people can work out problems - but only if they are both willing to work at it. You seem willing to work on the relationship. If he is too stubborn to change then your relationship may never work. Hopefully he will come around and realize that he loves you enough to risk starting another relationship. But there arent any guarantees of this, so you can wait it out or move on.
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    From a Catholic perspective: Yes you can make it. Read 1 Corinthians chapter seven. You have said that your boyfriend has patience for you, as he should. You may want to talk to a Priest about Catholicism and salvation. Roman Catholics believe that your baptism, and adult reaffirmation of those baptismal vows, saves you. I admit that the other posters make a point - it is easier if the man and woman share the same beliefs - but you can also be made holy through each other. Edit: Once re-reading, I noticed that you may not be Catholic, just attended the schools. Either way, I believe you can work this out.
  7. jamin
    Hi Darlin, I am very sorry for you. He must be addicted and is letting you go because he does not want to give this up. I doubt he will change, because if he would you two would be talking. I hope you find someone who is honest and shares your values.
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    Well it is a bit risky. If one of my girl friends told me out of the blue that they liked me after a year it would be suprising. But maybe a pleasant surprise. Usually if nothing happens in the beginning we both get used to being friends. You could have a mutual friend test the waters and see if he is interested or was at any time. He could be shy or not want to ruin the friendship by asking you out. Or he may not want to be anything more than friends.
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    Is your friend a teaching assistant or resident assistant? If so, most schools do not allow them to date or have a relationship with you. Speaking from my own past experience in these two jobs you have to put your feelings aside even if someone likes you. As for you being bisexual, it is possible. I would ask this person's friends or coworkers to see if she is in a relationship. The whole situation sounds complicated. If she is interested in you, then you would probably want to get in another class or in another floor in a dormitory. Some of my friends have dated students and residents. Once it worked out. Multiple times it ended badly. One person lost their job.
  10. jamin
    Hello, Men and women leave their parents and become married. Then they should be concerned about loving each other. What God has brought together no human shall separate. Just my opinion. This is hard because you have been hiding the truth from your parents.
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    Hi Reise, I agree with mb_guy. Your coworker friend seems to be very shy around women but can also be a very outgoing person in a group setting (I am actually very similar to this myself). If I were you, I would ask him out for dinner or lunch and get to know him more. He may be too shy to ask you. He could even think he is getting mixed signals from you. Does she really like me or just want to be friends Things should work out.
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    If the place that you work at is really negative, compared to other places that you have worked at, I would look for another employer while keeping this job. Unfortunately, there are bosses out there that dont care about all of their employees. Many service people are under appreciated. Imagine if all janitors decided to take a week off. People would notice! Maybe your current job will improve after the new building is set up. It is hard to tell. Good luck.
  13. jamin
    Just take it slow. Don't smother the shy guys. They will be intimidated! Get to know them. Let the guys talk about themselves a bit. I am an introverted guy. I think we dont like overly aggressive people. Get to know them first and go on non-date activities like getting lunch or seeing a movie with friends. Just build up their comfort level with you and the guys will open up and talk to you.
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    Hi tkdmask, I think you should wait until you are 18 until you decide to move. In the mean time: Think about where you want to go and what you want to do. Maybe you want to go to Ames or wherever. Well you need money so get a job that requires working late. Then you can be out of the house until 11 or so. Save your money for housing/tuition/expenses at a new school. Look into scholarships if you can. I think your parents will be supportive if you are doing this to further your education and career. Make them excited about what you are doing (if it is possible). I have a brother who is 19 and living at home. He can't wait to move into housing or an apartment at college. Like you, he is a "very good looking person" and has many girls calling him every day. I would only date one at a time though What if you really like the first girl and hurt the last two? Plus it would cut down on your time on the phone. Which you wont have if you are studying and working. btw, I lived for 5 years in a small town in Iowa and understand wanting to move somewhere away from where you are. Nothing against Iowa, it is a nice place!
  15. jamin
    If she wanted to play miniature golf then it should not be a problem. I know it is not your first choice but you could have a lot of fun. Doing something together that she enjoys is the important thing. You could take her somewhere romantic, like a nice park with a pond, for a picnic after golfing or choose a nice restaurant.
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