Shadows Light

ooohhh hell... your whole post is a turn on... OMG... OMG OMG

OMG...............I'm in LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'd have to say... very short and cropped close.... more of a triangle than anything.. keep things below mostly shaved.... And if you shave all the way... oooohhh yeah... mega itches while growing it back in. Never have waxed... am too afraid it will HURT HURT HURT... Guy's... yep... like em trimmed... had gagging like a cat with a HAIR ball... not very sexy to see.... so guys..keep it trimmed and clean.... pair of little sissors and snip snip snip...every so often.. would be nice. I've got a thing for cleanliness... nothing worse than.. hair and yucky smells to turn you righttttt off. uggghhh.

0X Well... I can tell you what to definitely not do..... Do Not Roll over and go to sleep......

Did you treat her coldly on purpose... or was it just part of you're nature? Can't fight nature darlin... and we all can't be "ON" all the time. The relationship/courting game...it a time we find out if we're compatible..we learn each others foibles and see if we fit.... and if we find those foibles, can we live with them???? You should be talking to her about all of this ...not her friends...easier said than done...but that again is good communication. DR. PHIL>.. if you don't have good communication... your ships going to sink. How you react to another GF in the future and the chemistry you'll share with her is different.... don't worry about it. If you descide or end up moving on... make sure you learn the lesson from this one. And don't let this GF leave you with baggage that is an enigma.... "there's something that you do????" You've said you cheated...and you're contrite and have appologized over and over.... you even came clean about it.. or she may have never known. You said you may be indifferent at times.... Actually it not a bad thing... sometimes we shut down and go within ourselves to think... or to process... or we're learning, catching the lesson... you need that private space and time.. its not a bad bad thing.... as long as your not cold all the time. And there are people who seem distant all the time... but I guess they find people who it doesn't bother... or arn't insecure that they have to be the "FOCAL POINT" or at the center of attention all the time.... does that make sense. Don't get too down on yourself. Open honest communication about what "IT" is... or what "IT is not" and if it can't be had... then move on man. Don't stress over it.

She's away for a few days and you are supposed to figure it out. Was that the task she left you with? Are you a mind reader? For a relationship to be any good... you need communication, communication, communication... out of that will come trust and respect etc etc. She needs to be able to verbalize to you how she feels and why. What will it take to make it better exactly. And... yes.. women do like all the little things. The cards and surprises on days that arn't have-to days.. ie Valentines, birthday...it is all the little things that add up. The two of you need to talk. You can start out by saying: "When you left me with this task of figuring out what SIMPLE things I need to do...it made me feel dumb or inadequate or whatever because I don't know exactly what it is that you want." Have her be honest and spell it out. Put it on the table. And relationships should never be about... "if you do this, then I'll do that for you..." especially if the whole relationship is on the line. Thats manipulative and controlling. She's gone for a few days... good. Instead of stewing over what it could possibly be that woud be the "simple" thing she wants... love yourself a little bit darlin and you take care of YOU. Go do something for you... and make you happy. You'll be just fine... don't stew over it. Wait till you see her and let her take responsibility for her own happiness...

LOL... Swallow... but it depends on what they ate and drank... too true. I've found beer leaves a bitter bitter bile taste... or maybe its just the way his system works... ughhhh... And no two guys taste the same. Face shot... uhhh nope.. not funny, not happening... and its not good for the complextion.. so save the urban legends. Who mentioned that her guy likes to make her choke??? uuuuggghhhh... how mean is he. Thats not fun. Why why why would he enjoy making you choke.. If my guy got off on making me choke... I'd give him some TEETH to think about. lol.

I agree with the other posts.... if its your first time you'll feel discomfort... and he will notice.... Kegal excersises work great..... And... not all virgins bleed. So don't worry about that...I didn't.. horseback riding.. active in sports... or just the way I was built.

Blue... count yourself lucky that it ended before it began. How bad would you have felt had he led you down further down the garden path and "forgotten" many more things he had said. I was married to such a person.... who'd say things or do things and forget. Its called "crazy making".... Pick yourself up... dust yourself off and walk with your head held high. In the words of scarlet o'hara..."tomorrow is another day".

Kookie... have to agree with you on that one, has to be someone you are totally into and just a look can get u going.... no arguments about that.... lol....

Ok... tired and fatiqued... can understand what your trying to say... try changing up the game a bit... go down on her first and then get yours after she's done. Maybe that rythmn would suit you better and you wouldn't feel as if your "tired and fatiqued"....

Don't say anything. Looking at your profile... your friend is about your age... his sister is legal right?????? Sorry... had to ask....brothers can be very protective... don't be surprised if you get "THE CONVERSATION".... Have to agree with one of the posters above..... Messing around with your best friends siste...risky risky business... if/when this relationships ends... you may lose 2 relationships instead of one..... And he's going to sympathize with her..... sorry... But whats done is done.... Don't say anything.. lol.

Have to agree...quickies usually don't work one sided... at least not for women... we take a lot to be arroused... sorry.. thats the way the good-lord built us.... However,,,,, if there's been lots of sexual tension....through out the day, or whatever.... or if you are somewhere where speed and stealth are of the essense.. quickies can be fun. LOL... lots of fun. Or if your partner was a bit more experienced...and just wanted to make you happy .... because there was no time for anything else but a quickie...then a quickie is GREAT.... I personally like quickies for this reason... lol... like to make em quiver and know that u did that for them... lol....

Kal... try music in the back-ground as a distraction...... If you were with someone experienced.. I've heard the pinch method works.... cupping the teticles and squeezing lightly... Try music in the back-ground as a distraction...with the withdrawl methods listed above.... oooooorrrr... with-drawl.. and go down south and make her happy first.... If you make her happy first.. guaranteed...whatever you do afterward will be GREAT..... 90% of woman don't come from just intercourse... Website.. Dr. Sue Johnson...link removed She's got a great program you might catch... this question comes up all the time..... good luck...

Why call it a "Blow-Job".... I didn't understand the mechanics... I thought..........................LOL... You Blow Air on it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Men are visual.... go buy something slinky and sexy... something naughty... Candles... lots and lots of candles.... Music.... Insense...... Nice dinner...... Wine.... if he's not a wine drinker... hmmmm try body shots.... For body shots... buy some ABSOLUTE VODKA (ice cold.. from freezer)...lemons and sugar....now here's how it works..... HE licks the sugar.. you placed...somewhere on your body...neck... belly... breast.... then he takes the shot.. he can drink it from a shot glass... or from your belly button... and then go for the lemon.. which is between your teeth.. TIMING is of the essense... has to be done quickly in sussession.. sometimes the combination is referred to as a LEMON DROP... tastes like lemon drop candy...but when off the body... its a BODY SHOT......LOL.. That should get him in the mood.... You have to set up the whole evening... and it has to start the minute he walks through the door.... lol... wait for him in the bubble bath... or.... make him walk through the house following a string of notes... have him stop for a drink... have him stop at another note full of little inuendos about what you plan to do to him... have him stop at a plate of strawberries and cream... lead him into the shower with a note... tell him to take a shower... (relaxing) and have a box in there waiting for him... maybe a pair of silk boxers.....black.. or red.... then have him follow the directions to your room.... rose petals in front of the door... when he opens the door.... Make sure the music is going... something sexy... soft.... lots of candles.... bed undone...rose petals everywhere.... and you... dressed in the SEXIEST outfit you can afford..... Need more ideas for after this????????????????? Body massage..... full body massage..... buy a feather and run it up and down his body........ and what ever you do.... slow slow slow slow..... And maybe... one of your notes to him can be..."NO TALKING" not a word... not a question... he can't communicate with words.... only actions... and your bodies.... oohhhh HELL.. this idea sounds great........... I THINK I'LL TRY IT.......... Good-luck....

My family... hell, I don't care...... I just make it a party. I have two little girls so we have lots of fun singing and dancin... confidence builder for them too.. they don't get embarrassed... In the car... LOL.. I can care less who see's me..... However, lol... I recently did have someone I have a crush on walk in on me while singing... and "got a little self-conscience.... stopped dead..." It didn't help that I while I was singing, I'd been thinking about something they said and was speaking to myself... I think I was saying something like... "liar liar pants on fire..." and laughing about it.... I got caught mid act..... lol...

Wwwhoops... sorry. I must have gotten off on a tangent... how could I have missed that. OK.. got into bed with boyfriend... and woke up to sex.... Well... me personally I would't consider it rape.... I mean I've had my ex wake me or try to rouse me... and I've said "no"... and "no" means no.... sooooooooooooooooo........there u go.

Run... don't look back... Run... leave him as quickly as you possibly can. He has been abusive to you already. He is verbally manipulating you. He is verbally assaulting you. He is controlling. If you leave him he'll go crazy???? Thats abuse. No one has the right to tie you down anywhere girlfriend.. his little speaches about violence and how some people deserve it... oh yeahh... big time red flags. Thoughts about RAPE and VIOLATING you or someone else... big big red flag. RUN. You feel scared??? You should be. Listen to your gut instinct. That little tell tale scared feeling... its a flight/fight response... its your alert system telling you "something is very very wrong". He hasn't hit you but he's thrown you on the bed, bruised you once, and forces you to "submit" so you can't run away or move..... BIG RED FLAG. This is not the man for you. You can not fix him. You can not save him. You can not change him. RUN.

There was a post above talking about being roused from sleep by your lover. I can agree with it... been woken up this way... and its nice. However that happens when you are in a mutually aggreeable relationship. By out of it... I'm going to "assume" she was at a party somewhere and this guy wound up in her bed... or maybe she was out of it because she was drugged...who knows... she froze and was unresponsive... Difficult call... when one partner says "NO" at any given point and time and puts the BREAKS on......then its rape. I don't know how this would "legally" be viewed. The fact that she's confused and feels violated... yeah... her space has been violated and she's left feeling like a part of her has been taken without permission... have her talk to someone... proffessionally to vent her feelings out. And its not her fault.... saying she was at the wrong place at the wrong time and put herself in that position is wrong.... it happened unfortunately and hind-sight is 20/20.... she needs to get it out and know its not her fault and she's ok. And stay the hell away from this JERK. How dare he think he have any right........... uuuuggghhhh.

Glad to hear you are in counseling. Stick with it and believe in yourself. If you ever want to PM me... feel free. Great book to read.. "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" by Patricia Evans.... I agree... coming to some conclusions are very difficult and have to be done on your own. You'll know when you've hit the right one for you. You'll just know. Bless you and angels keep you safe and strong. Hang in there.

You said you are in an abusive relationship????? ok... concentrate on that first.... have you seen counseling... have you tried to fix it.... work all the angles on your marriage???? Your friend will always be your friend regardless... and no... no one wants to be anyones get away vehicle. Getaway vehicles usually wind up on the side of the rode.. much worse for wear. If you are in an abusive relationship... you need to put a stop to the abuse. For yourself. I think this BF sparked some life in you that you'd thought long dormant.... abused women sometimes just let it happen thinking ... nothing will change... this is all there is. You get robbed of your self confidence and your self esteem. Work on you.... first... everything else will fall into place at its proper time.

Coma.... LMAO... that was funny... you've got a wonderful sense of humor... thanx.. I need a giggle tonight... lol...

I have to agree with Dannys Girl... Your GF sounds like a catch. Can't fault her for getting into it... it might not be your thing... but its certainly not childish. Is it childish or are you just embarrassed..????? And LOL... if it bothers you now... when you start having intercourse... lol... well, look out... And you know.. the fact that she might have picked up a few tricks from magazines bothers you??? ohhh come on... the tricks she picked up turned you on...and yet now your upset because she didn't fumble around and figure it out for herself. You're a very lucky man to have a girl want to learn what turns a guy on... its not like you guys come with directions or anything.... and its not like we take a course in HS on how to give great HEAD. Give her some respect and quietly walk away...if she's not compatible with what your needs are in bed. She sounds like a treasure... if she's not for you.. throw it back into the ocean... unspoiled.... don't ruin and scar her for life that something is wrong with her. BTW.... I happen to like being talked dirty to in bed... its a turn on... and I AM A LADY... lol.. but not in bed.

Ion... I agree with previous posts you need to broach the subject with him with the lights on. And as delicately a you try to make it... men are not comfortable talking about these things. I tried it all too.. and I bought all the lingerie and acoutrements.... and really started to worry about myself. What the hell.. couldn't be me... guys are forever flirting with me... so I'm no ugly duckling... whats the deal. And then I found... now this is my situation ... so don't go reading into it... I found Gay Porn on our computer... when I asked about it.. he lied.. said they were pop-ups. When I asked about it again.... he came up with an excuse... when I found out these were NO pop-ups or Temp files..but down loaded pix... and put into a file.. I flipped a gasket. And his explanation..."he was curious"....... hhhmmmmmmm lets see.... I'm getting almot no sex... no loving... and lots of excuses....and he's curious about gay porn... 100's of pix in a saved folder.... hmmmmmmm. And I've been with this man for 18 years!!!!!!! Sssssssssssssssooooooooooooo you can say that I'm not being ever so sensitive or gentle with him. Flat out called him out... and he didn't even get mad... just said... its not like that..... oooooooookkkkkkk survey says..... the worst thing you can do to a heterosexual man is accuse him of being homosexual... quote.."thems fighting words.. gloves are off..." ummm hmmmm. Sooooo ... I feel for you lady... I don't know what to tell you except... if you are un-happy ...then you need to do something about it..and you are in a relationship... you should be able to talke about sensitive subjects....