Shinobie

Man hate u sound exactly like me dude and u have all the same problems.Like me im usually shy around new people except for my friends i can talk loosely and just have fun and act like a moronr.Same girl problem too man i mean when i like acertain girl and when i look at them i just cant see them with me or anything.I feel to low to their standards and feel like they probably think i dont look good to them at all.Like that why would they be going out with me if they can go out with somebody better although the person might not although i see it that way.

Nah im pretty sure this friend isnt like that evil he is like one of my best friends.

before i met my friend richard my self esteem and confidence was really really low.But ever since i got him as a friend he has become like my best friend as along with my friend john and it seems like those 2 things have gone up although they are way lower then usual still.Hes really good with girls and stuff and thinks i should go for some but he thinks im not really wanting too right now in life.Although i really do but im just too shy to go up to girl.Should i tell him how i am right now and stuff and see if i can get help form him on it cause maybe that will help me talk to a girl and stuff although im always usually pretty shy.

thanks for the nicely put post makes me feel better .

dont worry dude man im so bad i cant even look at a girl and smile because my confidence is so low i just think im too bad looking to so many girls.As for me i think i gotta start trying to talk to this girl i like before the end of the year because time is running out for me when i look at that girl i totally get nervous and stuff im even nervous thinking about her right now.For some reason when u like a girl u just think they r so beautiful cause i think this one is definitely although some might not.

I keep on having ups and downs and cant fight back depression to well.Im going on 17 next month and still no girlfriend and i feel like this is going to persist for a long time although i am trying to gain up the confidence to talk a girl maybe the one i like but iono if she thinks im ugly or something but she prolly does like many.I always ask myself the question why?Why does god give some mean people great looks,great athletic skill,smarts,singing skills,etc such as big stars.I always think why do they have so much and some people have to be on the bottom, it just makes me bitter.i try to be happy but i get more comments thrown at me like hey justin hows it like being a lonely virgin by a id like to say aquaitance and he thinks i just take that as a jk?Prom is coming up and i know what im going to be doing i am going to be either playing computer games with my friends or working yay how exciting......I wish i could know how bad i actually look because i hope im not too bad looking... but i think i probably am becaus girls never give me a second look or they look away right away.Just wish i could have a lil bit of the looks my friend has or some other people but iono maybe i should just try talking to this chick i like but she it seems like she prolly thinks i look bad but maybe thats just my low self esteem and unconfident mind trying to tell me that.Is it just my self image u think?

Iono that site u gave us ryan isnt that good for boosting confience by looking at the forums..In the high school forum all there is is teenagers talking about their girlfriends and saying hat a rocking time they had at the prom.ill just keep looking around because i dont feel like reading on peoples better girl situations =/

I was starting to feel better lately but then all of a sudden it felt like some depression came back.I mean all most girls think is how does he look or something and that.Like most of the time for me liek at work today there was a couple of girls sitting at a table and like usual they will look at me once or twice and then never look again because im prolly ugly or something but my friend is lucky and theyn keep looking back at him because hes good looking prolly.Telling the waitresses that hes cute and stuff.Like i overheard the girl i liek talkign about some conert she went to saying that she saw some guy that was so hot.I mean is it something u girls just liek to talk about or do u only like a guy if hes really hot to u.

Right now hasnt been to bad for me but things will look up man.I always go through that stuff and like theres been many times where ifelt like i was so close to trying to commit suicide but i stepped back away and said no.Im going through depressed feeloigs again and getting farther and farther down like before but imma try to get back up and try to be happy just try that man things should look up.

Yea i believe in the whole morals like women that dont want to have sex before ther r married and thats what i believe.Like the majority of guys juts wanna do it right away and just go as fast as they can without having nay respect for the people.I dont get how they can be that cold hearted to do things like that as for me i believe in respect of what they want to do before what u wanna do as a major priority.I mean if someone really likes someone they are gonna respect their thoughts and what they dont wanna do.

I mean all these girls only like the good looking ones that have the bad personalities and stuff i hate it.I hate the comments like the post of where are all the good men?Well the good men r usually the ones that r shy and not as good looking that u dont give a chance except for some exceptions.Me personally would be a very nice guy and never be a total jerk like those other guys but it doesnt help when u dont get a chance.I mean my friend has a good personality and all but hes so lucky though i hate it he talks to someone for 5 minutes and they are already really good friends like right away;with girls too.But my friend when it comes down to girls he only looks forward to going out with girls to get his d sucked and do all other types of things.Usually not because he really likes em way too much but just because of that and my other friend does that too.I mean even though we are at a young age i mean you should go out with someone because you like them but iono thats just me.

thanks for posting something that it seems like your a great person that likes to give tips to us lost youngins .

I'm not that bad into it but i tend to like girls that are about my size because im 6 ft and only 130 pounds because i take after the long lankiness of my dads british side.Like the girl i like right now is prolly about 5'10 and a lil wider then me iono i guess its just all in opinion.But when it comes down to looks i have a broader range of looking at girls then most guys.Some girls that i tend to think are pretty my friends think that they are not really that much so im not big on the whole perfect look thing except for size thats my only thing.

Sorry man its just that ever since i was like 5 ive been put down by people and my whole life has just been constant tearings of my confidence and self esteem.I've moved 3 times and it has followed me everywhere i go i am always the one that gets picked on,put down,has the stupid jokes put towards me.I have like no self esteem what so ever even when people compliment me i say nah it was just ok it wasnt that good i cant take a compliment at all.Sorry if this is going off subject but it deals with my confidence problem.

Yea sorry about those posts im just really shy and have low self esteem + confidence.People say to talk to girls and stuff and they give some ways to talk to them.But for some reason it doesnt seem liek thos would work and they would just look at u weird but iono im just a confused lil youngin that doesnt know anything.

Ya iono everyone just says to talk to them but it feels to me that if i were to talk to them like about some teacher or something they would thing why r u talking to me.Iono it just feels weird i guess its jsut my confidence but does anyone else get the feeling that they think that.

Anybody know what i should i do i mean ive read the other things but im still not quite sure how i should approach iono feel to

I am kind of but i just dont know how i should go up to talk to her like what should i say.I get nervous just thinking about it and especially when im sitting close to where she is and they are.Yea that is just the problem i feel weird like what would i say and how wold she respond to what i have to say dont know really how to go about it its just so confusing.Sorry for this the reason im asking it this way is because i liek to give the reasons on my situation and just see whats the best way to go about it.

O i mean she was just shaking her head liek she meant no but she didnt say it.She shook it slowly like she was embarrassed or something.

I always feel pretty stupid asking questions like this but as ive looked over the forums i see many like these and som people r just as lost as i am .But from my point of view on the bus i usually ride home from school i usually sit down next to my friend jake and there is this one girl ive liked for a awhile but since im to shy i dont even know her lols and never can do anything to go up to her.But there are some days she will sit in the seat next to me and like she will stair my way a lot and it seems like shes smiling sometimes.Then some days she will just sit next to her friends and talk the whole time and not look much.One day she sat in the seat in front of me and her friends were on the right side a lil behind me.Most of the time she would just talk to let her friends hear her but that day she kept looking back and shaking her head saying no.Like not talking at all but just kept doing things like she was shy and i was like the only person in between that area but iono.Sorry im always lost on this subject and dont know dang near anything about it thanks for your advise in advance and u all seem like very nice people that i can feel freee to ask questions too without getting any mean feedback thank you.

All my life i have a had been picked on and been told that i am bad at certain things like even things i am good at and know im good at but people put me down and make me believe those things.I know u guys have all had that i mean the constant things that some friends say that r just mean but u dont get why they say those things?Like even my best friend says certain mean things that bother me a lot but i dont even know if he thinks i take it as a joke.Like my one friend said for fun when we needed money o maybe we can sell u on the streets for your good looks and my other best friend said "thats a good one" in a very sarcistic like he meant it way.And then like i know i have plenty of friends and then like when i was aroudn this other friend he said something and the i said well all my other friends think this and then he said what friends and that make sme feel low.All these things build up to even being around girls.My friend talks to me about his intimate times with girls and how nice its been being with them i mean doesnt he know that i havent been with any and it makes me feel bad.Do friends just like to talk to you about those things because they feel like your a dumb ass for not knowing anything about that subject.Im just acomplete moron to girls and dont how they think or anything and prolly dont know how to kiss or anythign since i havent been but iono.I know a lot of this doesnt have anything to do with girlks but its too build up to the point of why i feel the way i do int hat region and thats how it is.I mean how can get more self-esteem and confidence by going out with a girl when imma person so scare dof rejection id prolly kill myself over some embarrassing moment like that i cannot walk up and try to talk to a girl because i feel to ugly and dumb doing so and dont want to take any rejection at all.

Ya im in the same exact situation as you are john like the same exact one like identical.I dont get it either it seems like they think im a pervert for some reason and weird when im completely anti pervert i think its hella wrong.I get on my friends abou their stupid perverted comments that they like to say.A lot of my other friends have girlfriends and some that r just regular friends i dont know any at all.I dont know why this bothers me at such a young age but maybe its because i constantly see my friends talking to girls going on dates and having fun.While im back at home playing counter strike and games i mean i would rather be in their place.I mean i work and hang out with friends a lot too but when they r having their great time with girls im back at home alone just playing game son my computer.Even my fat perverted friend has a fricken gf and he has an obsession with girl khajits like off of morrowind i mean that is just plain sick.I tell him he needs to stop those crazed weird thoughts.I mean how does he have a girlfriend if he is so messed up like that i dont get it and i never have.Im skinny and stuff but i guess im just ugly or something.I dont get why everythign is so unequal like people at school who r popular,smart,funny,good looking,rich,etc i mean it doesnt make sense i get tired of it .