Batya33 Posted September 21, 2014 Share Posted September 21, 2014 I wouldn't sign anything without an attorney reviewing it since he can leave the country, right? As far as being able to talk about it - sure, if it helps you and it is in your best interests in the future, why not. Otherwise no he doesn't deserve your time in discussing anything -he had many opportunities to do so and he blew it. Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 21, 2014 Share Posted September 21, 2014 I agree with batya. It's not a simple divorce in that you are married to a foreigner. I know what you mean, in the sense that there is no house to sell or child custody issues, but still, you need to consult with an attorney and have them give you good advice here. Link to comment
Fudgie Posted September 21, 2014 Share Posted September 21, 2014 Yeah I wouldn't sign anything without a lawyer. I don't mean to sound pessimistic but doesn't L have some background in law or government affairs? Legalese is probably something he is familiar with. I would be wary that the wool isn't being pulled over your eyes. Sent from Tapatalk Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 21, 2014 Share Posted September 21, 2014 Don't sign anything without a lawyer ,B. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted September 21, 2014 Share Posted September 21, 2014 I agree with the others that you should consult a divorce attorney, especially in light of all the legalities that come with divorcing someone with immigration issues. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted September 22, 2014 Author Share Posted September 22, 2014 I will not cry, I will not cry. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 **hugs hugs hugs** it’s early days, lots of crying is normal and to be expected. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 Crying is completely normal honey and drains the body of negative emotions and toxins. Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 omg, it is so ok to cry!!! just last week, everything was normal, and now your life is turned upside down!! it's ok to cry!! hugs Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted September 22, 2014 Author Share Posted September 22, 2014 I'm so tired of crying. I'm so tired of missing him every single minute of every day, of dreaming about him every night. Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 hugssssssss. I am so sorry sweetie. It's going to hurt for a while, but we are here for you, your kitties are there for you, and your family is there for you. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted September 22, 2014 Author Share Posted September 22, 2014 I know. And the one person I want comfort from I can't get it. He's so adament we can't get what we had back. And everyone around me is telling me he can still fix this... but he doesn't want to. Link to comment
hers Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 Exactly what does he think marriage is??? Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted September 22, 2014 Author Share Posted September 22, 2014 I have no idea anymore. Link to comment
Fudgie Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 It may be hurting you to have people tell you that he can still fix it when he's adamant that it won't work. I'm sure your loved ones are well meaning and they want you for to have him back but it takes two to have a marriage, as you know... If one of your friends or family keeps telling you that it will work out or giving you false hope, it's okay to speak up and to tell them that you can't hear stuff alike that right now. That it's really painful and you know that they are trying to help but you don't want to think about that right now and you need to take what he's saying at face value. Sent via Tapatalk Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted September 22, 2014 Author Share Posted September 22, 2014 No, it's nothing anyone has said like that. I'm just having a weak moment. And in this moment all I want is to hear his voice. Link to comment
Fudgie Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 I'm so sorry *hugs Sent via Tapatalk Link to comment
greywolf Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 I'm really sorry, OG. And like others said, it's ok to cry. You need to let yourself grieve. Everything is still so new. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted September 22, 2014 Author Share Posted September 22, 2014 I ended up breaking down and crying last night. It wasn't one of those full body, wracking kind of sobs like I had my first few days here but it helped. I just couldn't wake up this morning for anything, more than likely because every bloody dream I have is about him. I managed to finally wake up with the aide of coffee - mmmm, coffee - unload and reload the dishwasher, sweep my room, and change the kitty's litter. Most productive day yet. Tomorrow will mark a week since the entire universe turned upside down. Small victories I suppose. Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 HUGS. it's a victory. Gosh, I can't even imagine if this time next week, I were to move away, quit my job, relationship is over... I mean, yikes. Hang in there. One day at a time. Link to comment
dangletsbang Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 One day at a time. Love you. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted September 23, 2014 Author Share Posted September 23, 2014 Love you too Dang! I'm going to this plant place tomorrow (friend of the psuedo family is there). Not a first choice since it's 40 mins away but if it gets a check in the door right now I'm okay. I still have some local places to apply. The job fair is Wednesday as well. Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 Job fair, woohoo!! Do you have a nice outfit to wear to it? Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 Good luck with the job hunt! Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted September 23, 2014 Author Share Posted September 23, 2014 We've agreed to go NC after Thursday. I was doing so well until that conversation. Now I'm a bubbling mess of tears. Link to comment
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