AliasMcnutFace

thank you, I will. you ask, I do.

because I overexaggerate myself in people's lives. I over think every little thing. knowing a little bit about her really changed what and how much I thought that she thinks about me thank you.

hmm. I thought that I said that some of the reasons to why she doesn't like my therapist were understandable in a previous comment. for me it was never a reason to change therapists. some people might see it as unprofessional but it made her feel more human and helped me to understand that she has a life outside of our sessions. we still had the typical therapist - client relationship. ( when we're talking about how much she talked about her personal life) the other things..like her staring at me and sighing before she said something, I didn't particularly enjoy. I did try to stop assuming why she did it though after realizing that she wasn't "judging" me or thinking about how much she doesn't like me.

I did ask her the first few times if there was something on my face..but she didn't get the hint. then I make a joke about her "really loving eye contact" too. she stared at me less through that session after I said that, but in the following ones, she still kept looking at me the same way. I thought that it would be rude to straight up ask her to stop staring at me. I never asked her why she kept talking about her son. I don't think that there was a reason. I can't think of a reason to why she would that often. she apparently just really loved her son..

I liked my therapist. im not saying that she doesn't deserve to be liked because she did these things. for one, she kept comparing me to her son. I did tell my girlfriend that it creeped me and made me kind of uncomfortable. that was in the very beginning though. as time went on it became kind of cute and endearing. (she talked about her personal life a lot) I also told my girlfriend that she would sigh before talking to me after I said something. it bothered me at the time because it made me feel like she was annoyed and disinterested in what I was saying. there were also a few times where she was late that I complained about. then there's the way that she would look at me...it made me extremely uncomfortable and nervous. in the beginning it felt like something that she was doing on purpose. but I think that the reason I was uncomfortable with it to that extent that I was because I feel more judged when people look at me.

that it's not the craziest thing ever that I don't see her behavior as abnormal or ***ty. she's human. im not saying that all of this is okay. but I don't think that it's fair to see it as a red flag or like she's a bad girlfriend when she's an amazing girlfriend 99% of the time. I don't expect for everything to be peachy all the time.

I can tell you that how old she is definitely not something that she wanted my therapist to know hahaha. some people get so captious when they find out that one person in a relationship is older by a few years. it seems like you're more interested in her age due to thinking that she's immature though, so ill leave you with that. she's 24. we've been together for 4 years. well... sometimes your intuition isn't right. she's been my safe space and shoulder to cry on for years. there were no limits to what we talked about with each other before. so I think that it's also weird and painful for her to feel like im putting a wall between us. okay... I will say that some of the reasons that she doesn't like my therapist are understandable. she also knows that I haven't had the best experiences with therapy when I was (younger) due to my therapists, so to me it seems like she's being a little overprotective of me also

she isn't like this all the time

she thinks that I was being more cynical and less affectionate. I can't say that she was wrong. I do think that she was exaggerating a little bit though. I actually enjoyed her company after my therapy sessions. it was the comfort that I needed. it was her actions that were the problem. even in our everyday life, I enjoy her company. I rarely get annoyed or agitated from us "spending too much time together " it's actually the opposite. the time that we spend outside of the house (work, hobbies, school, etc) is usually all the time we need apart.

within my life, yes. in our relationship...not really. I decided that I wanted to be less of a push over and better with setting boundaries within our relationship

she prefers brutally honest haha

we haven't recently had a conversation about her "controlling behaviour" besides the phone incident. have I made any changes before I wrote this post when I was actively in therapy? or now?

when she said that I don't think that she meant it in a stereotypical way... I personally consider her to be an education person. of course she does. we're involved so she just wants to make sure that I "don't drag her down with me".

she feels like it changes my behaviour, which then leaks onto our relationship. that was the original problem that she had with me going.

hahahahahaha maybe. thank you for being more opened minded and seeing both sides. that's almost exactly how she feels. she wants me to make my own decisions and form my own thoughts without the opinion of outsiders. (ironic) I told her that I always take everything that everyone says with a grain of salt because they've haven't lived my life. but she still thinks that even swift, subtle remarks from a therapist can cloud your judgement. and while I agree, therapy (for me) is just for the heavier things that I can't deal with on my own or talk about with family members.